If you’ve been asked to be a maid of honor (or matron of honor), first of all, congrats! This is a big honor, and can be fun and exciting. Of course, there are certain maid of honor duties and responsibilities you'll be in charge of handling.
So what does a maid of honor do, exactly? A maid of honor's duties include planning the bachelorette party, making sure the bridesmaids dresses are organized and to the bride's preferences, serving as the point person on the wedding day, giving a speech at the reception, being a model wedding guest (RSVP-ing on time, reserving travel and hotel with the room block early) and so, so much more. So if you’ve never served as maid of honor before (or even if you have), and aren't sure of the exact maid of honor responsibilities associated with the job, pre-wedding and during the big event, don't worry — we've got you covered.
Just check out our ultimate list of maid of honor duties and responsibilities.
Maid of Honor Duties Before the Wedding Day
1. Lend a helping hand (and ear) to the bride
Some brides will ask a lot of their maids of honor during the wedding planning process, from helping them put together their invitations to choosing cake flavors. Other brides may want to handle the bulk of pre-wedding responsibilities themselves—or hire a wedding planner who will take care of most of it for them. Whatever the case, the main maid of honor responsibility is to be there to assist the bride with any tasks she needs help with — or simply be there to listen to ideas, and provide suggestions and advice.
2. Attend wedding dress shopping and fittings
The bride may or may not ask the maid of honor to accompany her wedding dress shopping and to her dress fittings, but many brides do like to have the maid of honor present for this outing.
3. Lead the bridal party
There’s a lot that goes into being a bridesmaid, too. The maid of honor serves as the point person for any bridesmaid-related questions or concerns—usually starting and leading the email thread on which the bridal party discusses all of the wedding-related details.
4. Be the Bridesmaid Dress & Style Guru
The maid of honor not only assists the bride with choosing the bridesmaid dresses, but also should make sure that all of the ‘maids order their dresses and accessories in a timely fashion. Other tasks related to leading the bridal party may include confirming hair and makeup appointments, helping to coordinate travel and accommodations for the crew, and more.
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5. Be a point person for guests
Wedding guests tend to have lots of questions. Where’s the couple registered? What’s the address of the venue? Is there a post-wedding brunch? Most of this information should be listed on the couple’s wedding website, but there are some guests who aren’t computer-savvy and may need some additional assistance. As the maid of honor, you can answer guests’ questions and provide essential information as needed.
6. Host or co-host the bridal shower
One of the most important maid of honor duties is hosting the bridal shower with help from the bridesmaids. From picking a venue to choosing décor, sending invitations to ordering food, planning a bridal shower can be a big job, so don’t be afraid to delegate some of the responsibility to the rest of the bridal party. At the actual bridal party, the maid of honor writes down all of the gifts received so that the bride can easily write thank-you notes.
7. Plan the bachelorette party
The maid of honor should work with the rest of the bridesmaids to put together a bachelorette party that the bride will never forget. Whether you’re planning a destination bachelorette party or something closer to home, keep the bride’s personality in mind to create a memorable event.
8. Attend pre-wedding events
While the maid of honor doesn’t usually plan the engagement party, rehearsal, and rehearsal dinner, she is usually in attendance at these events.