Asking someone to join your bridal party is a big deal—your future crew will have to invest time and money into helping you plan an amazing wedding. Buying thoughtful bridesmaid proposal gifts is a great way to start off on the right foot and show your besties you appreciate everything they're about to do for you.
Just like actual proposals, part of the excitement around asking your bridesmaids is sharing a snapshot of the moment, so you've probably seen these trendy friend "proposals" in your newsfeed at some point. Whether you've scrolled past a cute goodie box, bottle of bubbly, decorative sign, or crafty jigsaw puzzle, brides are getting more creative by the day. Not sure where to start? Keep reading to find out exactly what a bridesmaid proposal is, why you should consider one, and the best gift ideas for the 'gram.
What is a bridesmaid proposal?
While having a face-to-face conversation is still a polite and personal way to recruit your wedding party, sending or presenting a gift to ask your bridesmaids the question is another option that's rising in popularity. Similar to a proposal with an engagement ring, this act (coined the "bridesmaid proposal") is an opportunity for the bride to show her squad how much they mean to her with a tangible, thoughtful gift. Being a bridesmaid is an honor, but the role also comes with important duties, such as planning a bachelorette party and coordinating the bridal shower—not to mention the financial commitment involved. Bridesmaid proposals are a sweet way for soonlyweds to show some gratitude for their loved ones taking on such a big responsibility.
When should you send a bridesmaid proposal?
It's best to ask your bridesmaids to be in your wedding within two or three months of getting engaged, if not sooner! This lets your gals know right away that you want them to be involved in all of your pre-wedding festivities, from the engagement party to the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, and more. Depending on how long your engagement is (the average time is 15 months), this will give your bridesmaids ample notice to block out their calendars and prepare for the months ahead. Plus, it leaves you with some wiggle room when deciding exactly how to propose to your bridesmaids.
How much should you spend on bridesmaid proposal gifts?
Since you don't technically have to do a bridesmaid proposal, how much you spend is totally up to you. Ultimately, it'll depend on the gift itself, as well as the number of bridesmaids you're shopping for. Whether you're looking to spend $10 or $100 per person, remember that it's the thought that counts. It's also important to keep in mind that you're expected to buy thank-you gifts for your wedding party regardless of proposal presents, so you may want to budget a little more moolah for those. Luckily, you can find plenty of 'grammable gift ideas at any price point, and when your bridesmaids-to-be see how much thought you put into their proposals, we have no doubt that they'll be honored to accept.
What makes a good bridesmaid proposal gift?
When it comes to choosing a gift, you'll want to find something that speaks to your personality while also keeping your friends' tastes in mind. Some of the trendiest bridesmaid proposal ideas include travel wine tumblers, jewelry they can wear on the wedding day, and personalized tote bags perfect for a beach bachelorette weekend. While it's generally good etiquette to avoid thank-you presents your crew won't really use after the wedding, proposal gifts are a little different. In this case, it's okay to choose items stamped with "team bride" or "bridesmaid," especially if it's just a small token to communicate the good news.
Our Favorite Bridesmaid Proposal Gifts
Ready to start shopping? These bridesmaid proposal ideas are sure to get a resounding "yes."
1. Champagne bath bombs
Like we said, bridesmaid proposal gifts aren't a necessity, but small tokens like these glittery scented bath bombs are a sweet and simple way to make popping the question more fun.
Shop Simply AC Champagne Kisses luxury bath bomb, from $9, Etsy
2. Cozy matching socks
Plan a girls' night in with all of your potential bridal party members complete with your favorite movies, hot chocolate, and these snug matching socks. You can customize the packaging for each pair to read: "Will you be my bridesmaid?" Talk about cute bridesmaid proposal ideas!
WeddingWire Shop personalized cozy sherpa lined cable knit slipper socks, $15 per pair, WeddingWire Shop
3. Fold-out gift boxes
When it comes to your long-distance best friends, a gift box from Greetabl is the perfect way to propose. Each box folds out to reveal a personal message, photos of your choosing, and a lovely little gift. We're big fans of the pretty confetti and adorable chocolate hearts.
Greetabl Be My Bridesmaid print gift box, from $13 with a gift, Greetabl
4. Custom illustrated puzzles
Here's another fun bridesmaid proposal idea that doubles as a cute keepsake. Look out for their reaction once they've figured out the hidden message—there might even be happy tears. (Psst, there's also an option for your maid of honor proposal.)
Two Crew Design Will You Be My Bridesmaid proposal puzzle, from $10, Etsy
5. Personalized tote bags
A chic and versatile tote will come in clutch over the next few months. Your crew will need somewhere to store their essentials, whether they're helping you shop for a dress or they're lounging by the pool at the bachelorette. For an extra-special treat, fill each bag with a few goodies like candy, hand sanitizer, and mini bottles of wine.
WeddingWire Shop script font personalized cotton canvas fabric tote bag with gold strap, $17, WeddingWire Shop
6. Pretty denim jackets
Jean jackets are making a serious comeback and we're 100% here for it. Just imagine how cool your wedding party will look on Instagram in these coordinating denim outfits.
Mod Party custom bridesmaid jean jacket, from $49, Etsy
7. Heart stud earrings
These romantic gold heart studs will make for beautiful bridesmaid earrings to wear on the wedding day. Not only that, but they're subtle enough for your besties to add to their everyday wardrobes.
Gorjana Beau studs, $40, Gorjana
8. Wine-flavored gummies
There are tons of cute ways to ask your bridesmaids to stand by your side on the big day. Give them each a box of these boozy gummies alongside a heartfelt note listing all the reasons you think they'd make a great bridesmaid.
Uncommon Goods wine gummies trio, $24, Uncommon Goods
9. Silk sleep masks
There's no denying your crew are going to need their beauty sleep in the busy months ahead. Help them get a head start by gifting each person a luxuriously soft silk eye mask embroidered with the word "bridesmaid."
Slip Bridesmaid silk sleep mask, $50, SkinStore
10. Personalized makeup bags
These pretty personalized toiletry bags have a secret message hidden inside. Fill them with sample-size beauty products or tasty chocolates to encourage your crew to open the zipper and read: "Will you be my bridesmaid?"
Crafting Hands Boutique Will You Be My Bridesmaid makeup bag proposal gift, from $13, Etsy
11. Sleek wine tumblers
We've got plenty more awesome bridesmaid proposal ideas to come. Why not invite everyone around for a backyard barbecue and ask them as a group? Then, give each person one of these stylish rose gold tumblers filled with wine so they can toast to being in your wedding party.
Corkcicle 12oz metallic stemless in Rosé Metallic, from $28, Corkcicle
12. Constellation signet rings
If there's anything we've learned from Ariana Grande, it's that buying rings for your best friends is totally acceptable. But unlike Ari, you don't have to spend a fortune to show your loved ones how you feel. These star-studded rings will be a symbol of your bridal party's unique bond from the moment you pop the question.
Caitlyn Minimalist constellation ring, from $29 each, Etsy
13. Bridesmaid champagne flutes
They'll want to raise a glass right away when you ask them to be your bridesmaids. That's why these fun stemless champagne flutes make great bridesmaid proposal gifts.
WeddingWire Shop Bridesmaid stemless toasting champagne flute, $7, WeddingWire Shop
14. Wedding cake candles
What's more fitting for a bridesmaid proposal than a candle that smells like wedding cake? It comes in a cute personalized box that reads: "Say you'll be my bridesmaid."
Lulu Sugar bridesmaid proposal gift candle, $24, Etsy
15. Celebrity shout-outs
If you're not sure what to say (or you're worried you'll get all choked up), we've got the perfect solution. Have one of their favorite celebs ask them for you! It's one of the best bridesmaid proposal ideas out there—who could say no to Shangela?
Cameo celebrity video message, rates vary, Cameo
16. Tasty proposal cookies
Or, plan an extra-sweet bridesmaid proposal with these bestselling cookies. They're almost too pretty to eat!
Mrs. Cookie Bakes bridesmaid proposal cookies, $15, Etsy
17. Embroidered bath robes
Organize a DIY bridesmaid proposal spa day complete with custom robes, refreshing face masks, and, of course, a few margaritas. It's fun, inexpensive, and you'll get some quality time with your crew.
WeddingWire Shop personalized embroidered waffle spa robe, $28, WeddingWire Shop
18. Pop-culture coffee mugs
There are tons of possibilities to incorporate these Friends-inspired mugs into your proposals. Ask your besties to be a part of your wedding with a heart-to-heart over some delicious coffee, or plan a funny bridesmaid proposal with an evening of your favorite Friends episodes.
Brook Hill Coffee Mugs The One Where You're My Bridesmaid Friends inspired mug, $19, Etsy
19. Zodiac nail polish
Looking for affordable bridesmaid proposal gifts you can give each member of your squad? Some gorgeous new nail polish inspired by their star signs will show just how well you know them.
Katie Huang crystal-infused zodiac nail polish, $18, Uncommon Goods
20. Custom clutch bags
These pretty bags come in a choice of four classic colors, so you can mix and match to suit each person's unique style. Besides, your bridesmaids will need a cute clutch for the wedding day anyway.
Chained with Daisies clutch bag bridesmaid proposal gift, $14, Etsy
21. Matching floral pajamas
Bridesmaid pajamas are rising in popularity when it comes to getting ready on the morning of, but you definitely don't want to pressure your crew into spending more money than they already have to. If you want your wedding party to take part in the trend, consider buying them some pretty PJs as bridesmaid proposal gifts.
Birdy Grey Jonny curve bridesmaid PJ set, $39, Birdy Grey
22. Jewelry gift sets
This stunning set proves that jewelry doesn't have to come with a scary price tag to be a winning present. The gift box reads: "I couldn't do it without you."
WeddingWire Shop Couldn't Do It Without You personalized bridal party crystal jewelry gift set, $26, WeddingWire Shop
23. Bridesmaid proposal chocolates
Spelling it out in chocolate has to be one of the most genius bridesmaid proposal ideas we've ever seen. These ones come in milk, dark, or white chocolate, or a combination of all three.
Diamond Chocolates Will You Be My Bridesmaid unique bridesmaid proposal, $38, Etsy
24. Meaningful photo frames
Remind your loved ones just how much they mean to you while you pop the question with a sentimental picture of you together. Bonus: These sleek frames are freestanding, so they won't have to break out any DIY tools to show off their new decor.
Artifact Uprising metal tabletop frames, from $49 each, Artifact Uprising
25. Magnetic photo boxes
Speaking of pictures, a fold-out box full of your favorite memories with each person is bound to give them all the feels. It comes with an adorable "bridesmaid" pin and the photos are magnetic, so your 'maids can easily put them on display.
Lovin Box Will You Be My Bridesmaid proposal gift box, from $26, Etsy
26. Chic monogram coasters
These gorgeous monogram coasters tick all the boxes when it comes to bridesmaid proposal gifts: They're affordable, personalized, and super useful.
Anthropologie Gwen monogram coaster, $14, Anthropologie
27. Stylish bridesmaid scrunchies
Let's face it, you can never have too many scrunchies. These chic hair ties come with a cute definition of a bridesmaid as someone who keeps secrets, gives advice, and occasionally runs errands.
Backup Bridesmaids bridesmaid scrunchie gift, from $7, Etsy
28. Fold-up duffel bags
If you're expecting your squad to travel for the bachelorette or the wedding itself, a stylish weekender is a useful bridesmaid proposal gift they'll definitely appreciate. This handy fold-up duffel comes in a range of colors and can be personalized with their names or initials so they never get mixed up.
Paravel fold-up bag, from $65, Paravel
29. Bridesmaid keepsake ornaments
A chic ornament with their name, wedding title, and the year of your nuptials is a lovely memento to give someone at any time of the year. That said, it's an especially great bridesmaid proposal gift if you plan on popping the question over the holidays.
Sassy and Co Designs bridesmaid proposal ornament gift, from $13, Etsy
30. Cute gift sets
If you're wondering how to send a bridesmaid proposal gift that'll easily get the point across, look no further. This adorable proposal box includes a mug with the word "bridesmaid" written in gold, as well as a card and a candle that both read: "Will you be my bridesmaid?" It doesn't get much clearer than that.
Birdy Grey bridesmaid proposal gift set, $37, Birdy Grey
31. Coordinating friendship bracelets
This bridesmaid bracelet is a sweet gesture to show them just how serious you are about having them by your side when you tie the knot. The best part? There are different styles to suit everyone in your crew.
Little Words Project Bridesmaid bracelet, $20, Little Words Project
32. Snug cotton slippers
Still wondering what to include in your bridesmaid proposal? You can't go wrong with a cozy and affordable pair of slippers with "I Do Crew" in sparkly gold letters.
WeddingWire Shop I Do Crew cotton waffle spa slippers, $10 per pair, WeddingWire Shop
33. Sweet handwritten card
The most affordable bridesmaid proposal ideas involve forgoing a gift and opting for a sentimental card or a simple sit-down conversation instead. Taking the time to write a meaningful, handwritten message is just as thoughtful as splashing out on an expensive gift.
Pixelcouture Designs bridesmaid proposal card, from $5, Etsy