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KitCat
No Inner Envelope?
KitCat, on April 17, 2012 at 7:08 PM

My FH is insisting that we only have the outer envelope. I'm not feeling on board with this. Can I get some opinions on this?

LB, Jul 5, 2018 35 5,598
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Whose Initial Goes First?
Bri, on July 4, 2018 at 9:35 AM

I just found some nice, cheap invitations that we both can finally agree on and for the ones we chose, on the back there will be our initials. I'm not sure if his or mine goes first, though. My name...

Laura, Jul 4, 2018 11 5,258
Hellolova
Bridesmaid backed out, now what ?
Hellolova, on June 29, 2018 at 3:27 AM

Let me start off by saying I’ve taken the time to see and understand my friends point of view when she decided to back our of my wedding. Her reasons were expecting flexibility from me regarding the...

Laura, Jul 4, 2018 21 1,890
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Family Problems
Paige , on July 2, 2018 at 11:34 PM

Ok so long story short my dad does not like my step father one bit, doesn’t even want to be in the same city as him let alone the same room. He is willing to bite his tongue and coexist with him at my...

Paige, Jul 4, 2018 11 353
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Present gifts at rehearsal dinner?
Josephine, on July 3, 2018 at 6:30 PM

We are planning on giving gifts to my mom, the bridesmaids, and his parents, and the groomsmen, and I'd like to give them during rehearsal dinner. Should these be presented after toasts with a speech...

Jillian, Jul 3, 2018 4 332
alexisdemetra
Invitation Proof to Approve - Black Tie Optional Line Etiquette?
alexisdemetra, on July 3, 2018 at 11:23 AM

Attached is my invitation to approve! Everything looks great (besides a misspelling of a FFIL's name that's getting fixed) but I'm curious on the "Black Tie Optional" line. Looking up the etiquette,...

muriel, Jul 3, 2018 17 4,516
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Details and rsvp online on Same card
krystal, on July 2, 2018 at 9:23 PM

Help! I’m looking how to properly put a details card to have “more information and to kindly rsvp on our website” but not sure the proper wording to help make it flow? I’ve tried to RSVP by September...

Casey, Jul 3, 2018 5 313
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How much money to gift a good friend after pricey bachelorette?
Evelyn, on June 21, 2018 at 2:32 AM

It's me again, if you recall my last post about sorta-being-a-bridesmaid-but-not-a-bridesmaid. As an update, the gang of not-bridesmaids + MOH threw a shower & bachelorette for the bride. I have...

Caitlin, Jul 3, 2018 15 2,596
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Maid of Honor doesn’t participate
Alice, on June 25, 2018 at 11:32 AM

Hi Ladies, I got engaged last June and the first person I asked to be in my bridal party was my best friend who appeared to be extremely excited to fulfill the maid of honor role. However, she was...

Caitlin, Jul 3, 2018 21 3,068
Erika
Gifts for Step-parents
Erika, on July 2, 2018 at 1:38 PM

So my parent's, FH parents, and our wedding party are all staying at the venue for the entire weekend (Friday-Sunday..Wedding on Saturday), and I plan on having their "Thank You" notes and gift bags...

Caitlin, Jul 3, 2018 14 1,319
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How do you politely say you're not invited.
Brittney, on May 26, 2015 at 11:45 AM

People keep assuming that they are invited to my daughter's wedding. They put her on the spot by asking for the specifics as if they are invited. Is there a cute tag line that she can use to let them...

Mildy, Jul 2, 2018 19 5,903 1
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Last minute bridesmaid
Cali, on June 28, 2018 at 12:28 PM

My wedding is September 1st 2018, so it's just right around the corner. I picked out and asked all my bridesmaids in February and my finance did the same with his groomsmen. I have been thinking about...

Maren, Jul 2, 2018 12 4,009
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Elopement disappointment
Kelly, on June 23, 2018 at 10:23 AM

My fiance and i have been together for decades. Raised three children to adulthood. Never married because...well life happened. Two years ago we became formally engaged and our friends and family were...

K&M, Jul 2, 2018 12 1,218
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Opening mailed shower gifts, using shower gifts before the wedding?? What are the rules?
Elizabeth, on March 3, 2014 at 5:07 PM

I am having my shower in about a month, and received one gift in the mail so far ahead of time, and was shocked to find out the person was offended that I had opened it and was using it already. The...

Alexandra, Jul 1, 2018 13 7,136
Scruffypine
Cousin’s son
Scruffypine, on July 1, 2018 at 2:30 AM

So I was really adamant about not having children at our wedding, and when I sent my cousin’s invitation I addressed it to her & husband directly (and the rsvp was for 2 people). But I find out...

OrangeCrush, Jul 1, 2018 14 417
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Renewing Wedding Vows - Dos and Don'ts
Anon, on June 29, 2018 at 9:07 PM

Just wondering what peoples' thoughts are for when a sibling invites you to their 10th Anniversary Party to renew their vows, and they invited over 100 guests. Some are close family or close friends,...

Anon, Jul 1, 2018 19 1,632
Amanda
Self centered family members
Amanda, on June 28, 2018 at 3:34 AM

Is anyone experiencing family or friends trying to plan their future wedding, instead of helping you plan yours? My sister is planning her future wedding when she’s not even engaged. Instead of giving...

Nnh1, Jul 1, 2018 26 669
Shellie
Presents before the wedding- to open or not to open?
Shellie, on April 9, 2012 at 8:04 PM

I was recently over at my FSIL's place (who is getting married to FH brother next week!) and they had box's of wedding gifts that they haven't opened yet. I always thought you opened the gifts as you...

Annamarie, Jul 1, 2018 20 4,825
SusieQue
Bridesmaid backing out 7days out
SusieQue, on June 29, 2018 at 9:31 PM

So I just received a lovely text message from one of my bridesmaids saying that she can not make my wedding... All is fine and dandy but come on couldn’t she have told me sooner, why wait till the...

CountryRoads, Jun 30, 2018 31 1,337
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Photographer Not Responding--help?
Kathryn, on June 29, 2018 at 4:34 PM

Hi everyone, So we recently signed a contract with a photographer and were really excited about it. I have been to several events that he has covered, and I've always loved his photography. A friend...

Kathryn, Jun 30, 2018 4 1,217
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