No boxed gifts?

It means they're rude. They're telling you to only give them cash.

If i got an invitation with that written i wouldn't even bring a gift. SO rude.

C&S beat me to it. Translated in my mind? Asking me for cash is the fastest way to guarantee that you won't get it. But you'll love the hand crocheted red white and blue comforter with a matching bathroom rug and toilet paper caddy! Everyone does!

Uh-oh. Now I'm wondering if I'm rude. We put on our wedding website that we don't want any gifts: https://www.weddingwire.com/weddings/3647346/wedding_new_website#!/website/2731197

Is that rude?

So my still barely awake brain immediately thought "Oh you just take a gift that isn't boxed or wrapped." Then my logic stepped in and said "You dummy, they're being rude and asking for money."

So yes, just like @C&S and @chloe said they are asking for cash. My solution? Do what my half awake brain says...bring a gift just make sure it's out of the box and unwrapped

@purple kitten that is different. You are saying that their presence is enough. The invite in the question is implying that they don't want you to get them a real present, only cash. Yours is classy, the other is tacky.

There's a difference between asking for NO gifts at all, and asking for cash. However some people will probably give you flack because "No gifts" basically also means people are still giving you cash.

@purplekitten - You're definitely not rude, especially if you're having a destination wedding. I think it's actually nice that you're understanding and acknowledge your guests monetary costs to see you get married.

It's different Purple. You're is fine. Theirs is tacky.

@purplekitten That's totally fine!

Okay, good! thanks, ladies!

As for the other couple, the commitment ceremony (they're not getting legally married) is about an hour from their home, and the hotel they chose for the event (where they will be going after) is about another hour further than that. I think that's why they don't want to have to transport a bunch of stuff?

We almost did something like this (or I almost deleted our registry)...why? Because getting big gifts back to Nebraska after the wedding was every bit as much of a bitch as I thought it would be. We brought two empty suitcases (that were free to check-Southwest) and it was still hard. But we had to do it...why? Because we would be seen as rude if we didn't. Everyone wanted to get us something. Most people were smart and sent our gift straight to our house...but Monday morning, before we got on the plane, we were wrapping wine glasses in t-shirts and stuffing them wherever we could because of the lack of space. So, here's a shocker...when people say "no boxed gifts", it might be because they have no way of getting a shark hand vacuum on an airplane (like we had to do).

Or it could just be rude. Who knows.

Edit: I fucking love that vacuum...worth the hassle.

It means that you should probably not go to the wedding unless they are really good friends or family, then you should tell them how tacky it is to basically ask for cash.

Isn't it rude to tell someone they're rude?

I mean, like, if someone was showing me a mockup for an invite, that seems like a good time to say, "No, that isn't right," but once it's said and done.... what would be the benefit?

Is it a DW or are they coming from out of town? If not, then they are asking for cash. I would give them nothing.

You're right it is rude to say something at this point. Especially since your opinion wasn't ask for. Either go and bring cash or RSVP no.

Not destination. About an hour from their home. (Maybe 40 minutes? I'm terrible at judging drive times outside of the city.)

If they are your friends or family I think it is totally legit to let them know that their choice was not the best and be honest with them.

I'd skip the whole thing.

|I'd skip the whole thing.

She's pretty much my only female friend (other than girlfriends of male friends). And i don't have a lot of friends overall.