No boxed gifts?

For those who don't think that this is horrible and irreparable, how much $$$ is appropriate to give for a wedding (er, well, commitment ceremony)?

Ehh its not right etiquette wise, but Id just give my friend money since that is what they obviously want. Why purposely give someone a boxed gift ifthey dont want one? I get that its forward and apparently rude to put that on your invite, but its a friend. She would rather have the cash. Giver her cash, and forget about it.

@tucker052315, I'm lmao! I would be DEVASTATED to receive an Autozone gift card! I don't care what occasion it is, I HATE men's stores!! Hahahahahaha!!!

@maybenotmaybe if im friends with the groom i always give more of a manly gift anyway like tools or something. but if im friends with the bride i pick out something she would like.

Yikes...I can't believe they didn't even try to word it nicely! I'm also wondering about how much to give at weddings; I've never given money, always had stuff shipped to them from the registry (I didn't even know anyone still brought actual gifts to weddings off of registries...). I would assume it should be $100, at least? I wouldn't spend more than that on a registry item...

I'd just buy a gift and mail it to them. It's terrible to tell people I only want cash.

They are tacky and want cash.

Just as an aside, why is it a commitment ceremony and not a legal marriage?

@celia - the bride stopped believing marriage was a good idea when her parents divorced after 30+ years because of how expensive divorce is.

Oh Lord. So she wants the party and gifts but not the paperwork or committment? Lame. I'd skip that circus

What andi said, just sounds greedy to me at that point. not actually getting married either?

If it isn't a DW, it sounds like they are just asking for cash. ugh

I do think this is rude. We are both on our 2nd marriage, have been together for 11 yrs and lived together for 7 yrs. We do not need anything. So with that said, we just did not do a bridal registry. Yes we are expecting mostly money, but if someone wants to bring a "gift" that's o.k.

I am shocked at the most posts regarding this issue. Now in case no one remembers, the origin of bringing gifts to the newlywed is to help them build their new home. Need I remind you that this is the 21st Century and most couples already live together months/ years before they tie the knot and have all the pots and pans they need in their apartments. Some couples already bought homes. I do not think it is rude if a couple state that they do not want boxed gifts. It means just that... they do not want boxed gifts. Now if they flat out asked for cash gifts, then we can justify the rudeness. I entertain a lot and have all the salad bowls, serving plates, towels and sheets that I need. So if a guest want spend $50 on a salad bowl that I will end up tossing because I do not need or have space for one or because it does not go with the rest of my plates is plain unpractical. You might as well put that in an envelope and call it a day. Heck I do not see any issue with whatever the couple does with it. I will be happy buy them grocery or pay for a their date night dinner or contribute to their honey moon expenses and I am sure they will appreciate it. It still cost me the same amount either way. So you don't want to give cash, buy them a $25 gift certificate to the movies or a $30 gift to Home depot. Give useful gifts people!

LMAO...I got an invitation that said this on it and so I decided to google it just to see what people thought. So many snotty people on here calling everything 'rude' and 'tacky'. I think it's perfectly fine. If you get offended because someone is asking you don't send them a boxed gift on their wedding day (who knows maybe they are having the wedding not where they live....maybe they don't want the same gift 10 times..maybe they just want cash) then well...I guess this is 2016 after all where everyone is offended by everything. To the people saying 'skip it because you're offended' LOL jesus man....sigh. Again ..2016.

I've been to weddings with "no boxed gifts please" on the invitation. Once we figured out what it meant, we liked the idea so much that we put the same phrase on our invitations. We're in our mid-30's and have absolutely everything we need. Any other physical item acquired during the wedding would either get promptly returned for cash or donated to Goodwill.

Other cultures, including mine, figured this out over a century ago. We always give cash; you know- that really useful thing that everyone can use, instead of adding extraneous mass to an already large pile of useless toaster ovens and blenders.

[I know this is an older post and I definitely have not caught up on all the comments so this may already be covered...]

As I was researching what our friends' invitation meant by "please no boxed gifts" I found this great article explaining that in several cultures that is simply what is normally done for weddings:

"We say “no boxed gifts” because it’s the norm in our cultures to walk in with an envelope because we see it as a way to set the couple up for their financial future, to help towards say the down payment towards their home, or just to help them getting started." (full article here: https://thebridaldiaries.com/2011/04/18/the-no-boxed-gifts-explanation/ )

Totally agreed with what Annie said. I am honestly appalled by people suggesting giving them something out of spite like a spatula or a gift card to auto part store or skipping the wedding over something this small. As if someone inviting you and paying for your food is not enough that you have to nit-pick on how they worded the invitation. There are many circumstances why people might not want gift objects. Me and my husband live in different cities and did not want to decide how to split the gift . I live in a tiny Manhattan studio apartment I sure as hell don't want to store all the gifts till we start living together.