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Kelly
Cash Tips
Kelly, on May 13, 2022 at 9:58 AM

Do we need to tip in cash? I'd much prefer to write a check or Venmo. I don't want to deal with a ton of cash on my wedding day (or any day). I'm in the US, so most people don't carry cash anyway. I'm...

Kelly, May 16, 2022 13 157
Christa
Small wedding etiquette
Christa, on May 14, 2022 at 9:31 PM

Is it typical for the officiant to stay for dinner ? & if so how do we politely explain we don't want them to stay? Lol I don't want to be rude but our entire wedding is 35 people. We just can't...

Paige, May 16, 2022 15 238
Malia
Can you respectfully ask for a semi-unplugged reception?
Malia, on May 11, 2022 at 10:46 AM

I've seen so many posts in my wedding-related Facebook groups about photobombers recently, and it has me a little worried about my own reception! It is already implied that our ceremony is unplugged...

devotedlydavis, May 12, 2022 14 256
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Bridesmaid never tried on her dress
Katherine, on May 17, 2022 at 11:26 PM

One of my closest friends from high school has always been a bit of a hot mess… she’s always been an incredibly nice person and good friend, but tends to make bad decisions and that has just gotten...

Theresa, 4 hours ago 14 249
Claudia
How to properly respond to a Declined wedding rsvp
Claudia, Today at 10:02 AM

Greetings, My Fiancé and I are getting married in Cabo this December and I have sent out invitations and have asked people to RSVP via email or text. When we decided to go the Destination route we...

Sloane, 7 hours ago 4 128
Lauren
Invited Guests Giving Themselves a Plus-one
Lauren, on May 16, 2022 at 5:07 PM

While my fiancé and I are awaiting receiving response cards from our guests, there are actually a couple of them who wrote in a “plus 1” on the cards when the invitation was addressed to just the...

Keyra, 8 hours ago 13 295
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Bridezilla or a reasonable bride?
Kayla, on May 16, 2022 at 3:05 PM

Hello! I’m due in July and I have my sisters wedding June 11th (all my babies did try to come early around 33/34 weeks. I also had a c-section in may 2021 with my twins.) my C-section is scheduled for...

Morgan, 8 hours ago 9 236
Michelle
What makes being a bridesmaid expensive?
Michelle, on May 8, 2022 at 10:58 PM

The statement “being a bridesmaid is incredibly expensive” is commonly said but that doesn’t apply to every single bridesmaid, does it? Compared to the basic costs of being a guest, how does being a...

Ashley, Yesterday at 8:30 PM 14 288 1
Sandra
Destination bachelorette - how to decline?
Sandra, on January 9, 2019 at 6:29 PM

Hi everyone! My brother is getting married this September and they are planning an August bachelorette in Vegas. We are all in Phoenix, AZ so though they plan to fly, I could drive if need be. I'm one...

Sayra, Yesterday at 7:25 PM 17 4,162
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Not opening gifts at a bridal shower
Ekaterina, on August 11, 2018 at 8:00 AM

Hi everyone! So this weekend is my bridal shower and in the planning process I decided to no open gifts at the end. I decided this because it's the one thing I really don't like about any type of...

Liz, Yesterday at 5:29 PM 29 2,778
Stephanie
Family wedding or Bachelorette (i’m the Moh)
Stephanie, on May 16, 2022 at 8:22 PM

As a title says, I am the maid of honor for my best friend of 15 year’s wedding. She asked me earlier this year if a date worked for the bachelorette party and I confirmed yes. A family cousin rushed...

Kelly, Yesterday at 2:54 PM 15 366
Cindy
Declines getting us down
Cindy, on May 16, 2022 at 2:18 AM

Hi everyone. My FH and I are perplexed and frustrated about declines we’re getting. Hoping for some help getting past it 😬 We got engaged in Dec 2019, so we’ve dealt with postponements and then...

Michael, Yesterday at 1:58 PM 10 373
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Many Non-Gifting Guests
Karen, on June 1, 2017 at 1:09 AM

I'm hoping this post doesn't result in negativity though I know I run the risk of attacks here. The title may make me sound greedy, superficial and ungrateful but I promise I'm not. I'm incredibly...

Mj, May 17, 2022 89 25,680 2
Maltese
Invited to wedding? Haven't spoken in 15 years? (Kinda vent)
Maltese, on July 29, 2014 at 8:58 AM

Back story: Growing up as kids (met when we were 3 or 4) a girl and I lived a house away from each other and became BFF and continued once my family moved out of the neighborhood. To this day our...

Jeff, May 17, 2022 18 1,071
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2 wedding in 2 different countries?? Advice appreciated!!
Larissa, on February 13, 2014 at 11:16 AM

Hello! Here's my saga: I'm Brazilian living in the US for 7 years now and my fiancé is American. My whole family is still in Brazil, so I'm definitely having a wedding there. I'm going there for Xmas...

Alexandra, May 17, 2022 13 6,521
Caryn
Got expensive knife set from parents… that we don’t like
Caryn, on May 16, 2022 at 8:02 PM

So, we have a dilemma…we have a registry on Crate & Barrel. We put a decent knife set on there knowing it was a higher-end item, but we wanted to have a range of prices. My fiancé researched these...

Theresa, May 17, 2022 3 237
Original VC
What happens to the food planned for the no-shows? Can I take it?
Original VC, on June 30, 2015 at 3:08 PM

Our wedding will have a plated dinner and is catered by the venue (no external caterer). We're supposed to pay the maximum between our confirmed guest number, or the number that actually show up,...

Bonnie, May 17, 2022 29 1,635
Tracey
Wedding reception food provider
Tracey, on May 16, 2022 at 4:43 PM

Is it tacky to put tip jar for food provider?

Elycia, May 17, 2022 7 121
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Inviting some cousins and not others from the same family?
Cathy, on May 16, 2022 at 4:02 PM

My daughter wants a small wedding (50 people). I (her mom) am from a giant family. My 6 siblings all have adult children (some with spouses of their own.) The headcount on my family alone with 1st...

Sloane, May 17, 2022 9 165
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i don’t want a certain groomsman in the wedding.
Olivia, on May 16, 2022 at 2:08 AM

I’ve had disagreements over a friend of my fiancés for a few years. My fiancé had very bad habits in the past that were often enabled by this “friend”. He has also blocked me on social media and...

Taylor, May 17, 2022 3 157
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