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moh can't afford costs and is not attending bachelorette party
Anna, on February 3, 2023 at 11:14 AM

My best friend (bride) is getting married in the summer. There are 3 bridesmaids including me and her sister is the MOH. The MOH has made it clear that she is not splitting costs as she said she...

Teresa, May 13, 2023 21 988 1
Private First Meal - Is it rude???
Sabrina, on February 14, 2023 at 10:05 AM

Hi guys! I need some other people's advice on this: Is sneaking out during the cocktail hour after pictures for 30 mins to catch a private meal with my new husband rude? I had seen this idea floating...

Zaina, May 9, 2023 43 1,560 1
Plus Ones - Do i need to use names?
Anna, on February 5, 2023 at 7:07 PM

Hello! So we are finally getting our invite list set in stone. We are only extending plus ones to guests who are currently in known relationships (dating for several months or longer or married, etc.)...

littlemisssunshine, Feb 15, 2023 13 253
How to deal with an unwanted guest
Mary, Yesterday at 11:41 PM

I'm having an extremely small wedding, only 6 people will be in attendance. My partner & I are only having our closest friends attend. I'd love to have more people there but due to financial...

CM, 7 hours ago 3 56
No wedding registry
Kerry, on March 3, 2018 at 4:55 PM

We are thinking about not doing a wedding registry. Is there a polite way to say on the invitation that there is no wedding registry and we just want cash?

CM, Yesterday at 4:53 PM 18 17,276 1
Late thank you notes? 😬
Allie, on May 26, 2023 at 3:26 PM

I got married in September and it seems like I blinked and we’ve almost been married eight months! 🤯 I was doing some spring cleaning and found my THANK YOU NOTES that we planned to send out three...

Mcskipper, Yesterday at 11:11 AM 5 130
Not chosen to be bridesmaid...feelings hurt
Alice, on October 23, 2019 at 2:39 PM

Hello all, I just wanted to get advice on a situation! I am not the sort of person to usually be upset about this sort of thing or create any drama but I can't help but feeling hurt by this situation....

Erika, Yesterday at 8:42 AM 16 17,832
Why do people not like having children at their wedding?
Lazell, on March 14, 2021 at 1:56 PM

I’m not trying to offend anyone, but I’m genuinely curious why people do not allow children at weddings or receptions? Even before I had my daughter, I would have wanted my nieces and nephews to come...

Paina, Yesterday at 6:07 AM 101 7,463 2
Adult only reception with some exceptions
Cmb, on May 26, 2023 at 6:42 AM

Hi All! We are going for a small, adult only reception however, my daughter, niece and best friend’s daughters will be there. Is there a classy way to call out there will be an exception for those 4...

CM, May 26, 2023 11 167 1
Tip Chef at Country Club?
Alex, on May 25, 2023 at 6:19 AM

Hello! I am getting married and having my reception at a country club. I am already tipping servers, bartender and day of coordinator. Do I also tip the entire kitchen staff? Just head chef? Or...

LM, May 26, 2023 1 41
Pro and Cons for skipping a cocktail hour !
Team_Rayford, on November 4, 2013 at 8:41 PM

I honestly don't feel like we need one. Our ceremony and reception is a 6 minute drive apart. I would like to offer a flavored soft drink,but no actual apps until the reception starts. Is it really...

Michelle, May 25, 2023 21 1,481
No smoking
Katie, on February 11, 2021 at 8:08 AM

When I'm around a lot of cigarette smoke I get really sick. I'll get bad migraines and feel sick to my stomach. We are having the ceremony outside and the reception in an enclosed tent in our...

Klementina, May 25, 2023 30 972
Dropped out bridesmaid; 18 days till wedding
Katelyn, on October 5, 2021 at 9:54 PM

There’s 18 days until my wedding and I just had a bridesmaid drop out. I’m beyond stressed and don’t know what I should do. I now have an off number of bridesmaids to groomsmen. Has this happened to...

Jennifer-Lynn, May 25, 2023 19 484
Not inviting my brother's girlfriend to my wedding
Imani, on May 19, 2023 at 12:17 PM

I’m new here and in need of advice as I figure out my guest list for my small-ish sized wedding. I love my little brother but he is dating someone I don’t like. They’ve been together for over 4 years...

Imani, May 24, 2023 11 279
Vendors not cashing checks right away
JMA, on August 15, 2016 at 12:04 AM

Hey guys! Anyone have any trouble with vendors not cashing your checks right away? I paid a deposit ($200) for hair/make up and this is going on two weeks that it hasn't been deposited. I can...

Leslie, May 24, 2023 46 814
My brother died yesterday, and our wedding is in a month. It feels wrong to have a party so soon…..
Avery, on April 29, 2022 at 10:56 AM

My fiancé and I don’t know what to do. Yesterday, my brother died unexpectedly from an overdose. He had seemed clean and getting better (I helped him get into rehab about 6 months ago.) I am the only...

JacksonDavila, May 24, 2023 16 689
The dreaded past the rsvp date issue, suggestions?
Larissa, on May 22, 2023 at 9:24 AM

Sigh. Ok, will give back Information first: Save The Dates sent out 7 months in advance. Wedding website created 5 months in advance. (SUPER informative too) All guests have access to website....

Lady, May 23, 2023 9 178
Rayah Kate
Program wording with divorced parents- some remarried, some not
Rayah Kate, on May 23, 2023 at 2:54 PM

I'm hoping for advice/impressions on the wording of my programs. Context: FH and I are both 36 and both getting married for the first time My parents divorced when I was 9; dad has been remarried for...

Alyssa, May 23, 2023 1 58
Help! is it Tacky?
Jennifer, on December 3, 2021 at 8:49 PM

Is it tacky to use nice plastic plates/silverware at my daughters wedding but still use regular glassware? My caterer says it is.But I want to buy nice sturdy plates/silverware for food service and...

Becca, May 21, 2023 25 538
Addressing Invitations to Groom's children
MJ, on May 20, 2023 at 11:50 AM

My fiancé is a father of 6. Two of his sons over 18 live together in a house. Four are still living with him. One of the four is over 18. I know anyone over 18 gets an invitation. In our case, what do...

Kelly, May 21, 2023 6 111
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