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Cash Tips
Kelly, on May 13, 2022 at 9:58 AM

Do we need to tip in cash? I'd much prefer to write a check or Venmo. I don't want to deal with a ton of cash on my wedding day (or any day). I'm in the US, so most people don't carry cash anyway. I'm...

Kelly, May 16, 2022 13 173
Small wedding etiquette
Christa, on May 14, 2022 at 9:31 PM

Is it typical for the officiant to stay for dinner ? & if so how do we politely explain we don't want them to stay? Lol I don't want to be rude but our entire wedding is 35 people. We just can't...

Paige, May 16, 2022 15 261
Can you respectfully ask for a semi-unplugged reception?
Malia, on May 11, 2022 at 10:46 AM

I've seen so many posts in my wedding-related Facebook groups about photobombers recently, and it has me a little worried about my own reception! It is already implied that our ceremony is unplugged...

devotedlydavis, May 12, 2022 14 272
Attending sisters wedding
Tab, Today at 4:22 AM

My sister decided to get married abroad and gave us plenty of notice. I originally didn't think I could go as am not vaccinated and it was a requirement. Fast forward and those restrictions have been...

Tab, 4 hours ago 48
Unwanted wedding guest
Courtney, Yesterday at 3:58 PM

My fiancé wants to invite his old roommate to our wedding. They had been roommates since before we started dating and being around her has always made me uncomfortable. And it’s not because my fiancé...

Tyff, 6 hours ago 5 122
Bridal Brunch - Do i send thank you cards?
Kasey, on May 23, 2022 at 9:49 AM

Hello brides! This past weekend was my bridal brunch, which my mom hosted at my parents house. It was just my bridal party, mom, MIL and 2 SILs (7 people total). I didn't want a traditional shower, so...

Sloane, Yesterday at 9:58 PM 4 92
Sequel Wedding
Krista, on May 24, 2022 at 11:15 AM

Well, we did it - October 22, 2021, my husband and I wed in a Catholic ceremony followed by a reception. When we started planning in August 2020, we anxiously awaited changes to Covid restrictions. We...

Willow, Yesterday at 3:19 PM 10 198
Adult Flower Girl
Christina, on April 24, 2017 at 2:53 PM

I'm looking for an alternate name for "Flower Girl" to make it more suitable for an adult woman. I'm having my cousin's daughter (age 5) as my flower girl, and I'm having her mother (age adult)...

Sherri, Yesterday at 8:23 AM 36 5,798
No Shows
Crystal, on May 23, 2022 at 8:58 PM

If you have guests who RSVP for your bridal shower (or any other pre-wedding events that they RSVP’d for) and they don’t show and don’t notify you, do you still invite to the wedding? Just asking,...

Shannon, May 24, 2022 11 263
Parent Gifts
Ashlynn, on May 22, 2022 at 2:51 PM

Hey everyone, we are trying to figure out what the correct/traditional way of going about parent gifts are. Is the groom supposed to buy a gift for both sets of parent and then the bride to the same?...

Lady, May 24, 2022 12 139
How to deal with not being a bridesmaid
Shannon, on June 7, 2018 at 5:23 AM

Hello! First let me say I’m sorry for any grammar errors or spelling errors as I am writing this 2 in the morning after a few drinks... I needed a place to vent and a place to ask for advice on if I...

Chicago Bride, May 24, 2022 16 22,583
My wedding cake was not what i asked for, what can i do?
Lauren, on May 8, 2022 at 12:27 PM

I need to let the lady who did our wedding cake know I am very unhappy with what she delivered. I paid $500 for this cake and the materials used on it were all from the dollar tree (being a...

Sarah, May 23, 2022 9 401
Need Advice! Is it rude to back out of a bachelorette party?
Juliepappas_, on May 20, 2022 at 10:38 PM

Hey all! Appreciate any advice here as it’s a decision that is weighing heavy on me. One of my best friends is having an international wedding in July. And she is also having a bachelorette party mid...

Haleyjoy, May 23, 2022 23 844
Family wedding or Bachelorette (i’m the Moh)
Stephanie, on May 16, 2022 at 8:22 PM

As a title says, I am the maid of honor for my best friend of 15 year’s wedding. She asked me earlier this year if a date worked for the bachelorette party and I confirmed yes. A family cousin rushed...

Keyra, May 23, 2022 18 444 1
How long is normal to wait for our videographer videos?
Megfly, on May 10, 2022 at 3:22 PM

Hi! Quick question. We got married in November 2021. I was told our videographers turn around time was 6 months. It’s now May and we still don’t have our videos. I texted the videographer in April and...

Allison, May 23, 2022 9 159
Save the dates?
Jazzman, on May 21, 2022 at 9:32 AM

So my fiancés family lives across the country and they are asking us if we have a date yet so they can begin to book their flights. It’s been implied by my fiancé that his family will need ample...

Paige, May 23, 2022 8 161
Thank you cards
Christy, on May 23, 2022 at 8:15 AM

Hello all - My fiance and I opted to not have a registry and in lieu of gifts we asked that if they really wanted to contribute, our guests could make a donation to one of three organizations that we...

Michelle, May 23, 2022 3 112
Mom and Step Mom Not Getting Along- HELP
Katie, on November 9, 2016 at 5:45 PM

My mom is not a huge fan of my step mom AT ALL. Back story: they divorced when I was 5 and he's been remarried since I was 9 to my step mom. Mom and I were talking about getting ready, etc. the day of...

Haley, May 22, 2022 14 576
Guest count
Brittany, on April 4, 2022 at 11:40 PM

I am so torn. My venue includes up to 150 people. Any guest over has an aditional almost $16 charge on top of the catering charger per person Our original estimate was like 75 people. These...

Lindsey, May 21, 2022 13 346 1
Bridesmaid never tried on her dress
Katherine, on May 17, 2022 at 11:26 PM

One of my closest friends from high school has always been a bit of a hot mess… she’s always been an incredibly nice person and good friend, but tends to make bad decisions and that has just gotten...

Jacks, May 21, 2022 17 347
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