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Cash Tips
Kelly, on May 13, 2022 at 9:58 AM

Do we need to tip in cash? I'd much prefer to write a check or Venmo. I don't want to deal with a ton of cash on my wedding day (or any day). I'm in the US, so most people don't carry cash anyway. I'm...

Kelly, Yesterday at 11:55 AM 13 150
Small wedding etiquette
Christa, on May 14, 2022 at 9:31 PM

Is it typical for the officiant to stay for dinner ? & if so how do we politely explain we don't want them to stay? Lol I don't want to be rude but our entire wedding is 35 people. We just can't...

Paige, Yesterday at 11:31 AM 15 224
Can you respectfully ask for a semi-unplugged reception?
Malia, on May 11, 2022 at 10:46 AM

I've seen so many posts in my wedding-related Facebook groups about photobombers recently, and it has me a little worried about my own reception! It is already implied that our ceremony is unplugged...

devotedlydavis, May 12, 2022 14 241
Inviting some cousins and not others from the same family?
Cathy, Yesterday at 4:02 PM

My daughter wants a small wedding (50 people). I (her mom) am from a giant family. My 6 siblings all have adult children (some with spouses of their own.) The headcount on my family alone with 1st...

Heather, 42 minutes ago 8 89
Family wedding or Bachelorette (i’m the Moh)
Stephanie, Yesterday at 8:22 PM

As a title says, I am the maid of honor for my best friend of 15 year’s wedding. She asked me earlier this year if a date worked for the bachelorette party and I confirmed yes. A family cousin rushed...

Heather, 47 minutes ago 5 88
Bridezilla or a reasonable bride?
Kayla, Yesterday at 3:05 PM

Hello! I’m due in July and I have my sisters wedding June 11th (all my babies did try to come early around 33/34 weeks. I also had a c-section in may 2021 with my twins.) my C-section is scheduled for...

Lucy, 5 hours ago 7 129
Invited Guests Giving Themselves a Plus-one
Lauren, Yesterday at 5:07 PM

While my fiancé and I are awaiting receiving response cards from our guests, there are actually a couple of them who wrote in a “plus 1” on the cards when the invitation was addressed to just the...

Tyff, 5 hours ago 11 148
i don’t want a certain groomsman in the wedding.
Olivia, Yesterday at 2:08 AM

I’ve had disagreements over a friend of my fiancés for a few years. My fiancé had very bad habits in the past that were often enabled by this “friend”. He has also blocked me on social media and...

Taylor, 6 hours ago 3 125
Bridesmaid expected to be Maid of Honor
Emily, Yesterday at 3:50 PM

Hello! Sorry if too long: I am getting married in January 2023 and I am still dealing with drama with one of my bridesmaids (bridesmaid X). I know her from college, and she has always wanted to be...

Taylor, Yesterday at 10:49 PM 4 85
Wedding reception food provider
Tracey, Yesterday at 4:43 PM

Is it tacky to put tip jar for food provider?

Michelle, Yesterday at 8:41 PM 5 70
Got expensive knife set from parents… that we don’t like
Caryn, Yesterday at 8:02 PM

So, we have a dilemma…we have a registry on Crate & Barrel. We put a decent knife set on there knowing it was a higher-end item, but we wanted to have a range of prices. My fiancé researched these...

Caryn, Yesterday at 8:03 PM 1 88
Getting married twice in 2 different states?
Susan, on June 10, 2018 at 5:43 PM

Editing because I got my answer- thank you! Ok so I know this may get heated but I'm going to ask anyway. My fiance and I are getting married in Massachusettes this fall, however we are buying a...

Mia, Yesterday at 7:26 PM 8 7,190
Can i prevent fil from drinking at my wedding?
Leah666, on May 13, 2022 at 7:22 AM

Can I limit alcohol to my soon to be father in law at my wedding? He has had several dwis one less than 2 months ago where he hit 3 other vehicles and he was in the hospital for a week. The state that...

Lady, Yesterday at 5:23 PM 15 264
Proper Etiquette for Escort Card Wording
Danielle, on May 15, 2022 at 1:09 PM

Hello! Can anyone assist and explain how individual names should be displayed on an escort card? My google search has not been as helpful as I would have liked, haha! For instance, does everyone get...

Lady, Yesterday at 4:50 PM 8 97
Declines getting us down
Cindy, Yesterday at 2:18 AM

Hi everyone. My FH and I are perplexed and frustrated about declines we’re getting. Hoping for some help getting past it 😬 We got engaged in Dec 2019, so we’ve dealt with postponements and then...

Jacks, Yesterday at 3:17 PM 8 293
Bridesmaid proposal ideas?
Jazzman, on May 14, 2022 at 6:57 PM

Hey hey! So I am unsure of what to do to ask my bridesmaids to be my bridesmaids!!! Do I text? Call? Do a gift? I don’t want to do too much as a gift now because they’ll have gifts before the big day...

Elycia, Yesterday at 10:52 AM 8 93
Invitations for Groom's Parents Home
Callmecrazy, on May 15, 2022 at 6:00 PM

So we are having a courthouse wedding/elopement followed by a very low key reception. Everything is being paid for by us, the bride and groom, but my FH's parents have a beautiful backyard that they...

Paige, Yesterday at 10:30 AM 7 129 1
Specifying Dress Code=tacky and rude?
Brianna, on January 13, 2021 at 7:30 PM

We have plenty of time to plan, so I'm taking my time to weigh my options with everything. However, I'm so torn on this. We're having an upscale wedding, I think our guests can tell that just by...

Michael, May 15, 2022 95 2,360
"Stand for the bride?"
Kendra, on April 1, 2017 at 5:56 PM

So I've been binging four weddings all day and it got me thinking. I've noticed at most wedding the officiant says "stand up for the bride" and everyone stands as the bride walks down the aisle. I...

Denise, May 14, 2022 18 20,402
Tip etiquette
Chris, on May 14, 2022 at 5:54 PM

Tip etiquette if the officiant fee is included in the all inclusive package. Do we tip out the DJ, bartender (he'll have a tip jar), servers etc and how much?

Chris, May 14, 2022 6 121
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