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Birthday at a Wedding
AnewH, on July 29, 2016 at 8:26 AM

Anyone else having a guest with a birthday at their wedding? Are you doing anything for them? I have a cousin who is in their 50's that is having a birthday. My Mom wants us to sing Happy Birthday to...

Martha, Aug 7, 2020 42 509
Gift card for photographer
Heather, on August 7, 2020 at 8:20 AM

Hey all, my husband and I eloped in July and only invested in a photographer because that’s all we had for options at that time. I’d like to send him a card with an REI gift card in it. We did an...

Jana, Aug 7, 2020 6 87
Bridal shower rant
Sarah, on August 4, 2020 at 12:40 PM

Due to recent financial hardship, my fiance and I have decided to have a micro wedding with just immediate family (15 guests). I was reading that you should never invite anyone to a bridal shower if...

Amber, Aug 7, 2020 14 364
Save the Dates
Stacey, on August 6, 2020 at 8:36 PM

Do you normally address these just to the person you are inviting, or should you also include their guest's name or Plus One so they know they can bring a guest? Or do you wait until the actual...

Hanna, Aug 6, 2020 6 107
Best Man’s gf is my employee do i invite her?
Rachel, on August 3, 2020 at 1:32 AM

This is a long and complicated dynamic, nothing in an etiquette book really tells me what do do. Fiancé and I have differing opinions but he ultimately says it’s my choice. I met my fiancé at work...

Judith, Aug 6, 2020 28 350
Informing Guests of Postponement
Michelle, on August 5, 2020 at 8:36 PM

For anyone who has unfortunately gone through the process of postponing their wedding already, how did you inform your guests? I’m not sure the best/easiest option for this.

Rebecca, Aug 6, 2020 9 91
Suggestions For Thank You Messages
TANIA-LYNN, on August 3, 2020 at 3:08 PM

So we are looking into sending out thank you cards, but are unsure of what to "thank" in regards to cash and checks. I don't want to just write "Hey, thanks for the cash!" and sound greedy. Any ideas...

TANIA-LYNN, Aug 6, 2020 6 91 1
How to deal with someone else’s messy kids?!
mrswinteriscoming, on August 5, 2020 at 5:11 PM

My FBIL and FSIL will be visiting us from interstate in a few months time. At this point it looks like they will be staying with FSIL’s family and otherwise seeing us while in town. They have 2 young...

Tiger Bride, Aug 6, 2020 13 196
Inviting guests to bridal shower but not to wedding?
Oct62018bride, on July 3, 2018 at 11:03 AM

So, there are people (old co workers and some high school friends I see at Christmas parties and sometimes baby showers) that I'd love to invite to my bridal shower but can't afford to invite to the...

J. N., Aug 6, 2020 14 2,779
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What are you wearing to courthouse for marriage license?
Susana A, on February 17, 2017 at 8:46 PM

On feb. 24th I will have to go get my marriage license. Do I have to wear a dress? Or I can just dress casual? Do I have to have a bouquet? I have never been to courthouse marriage before so I have no...

Erika, Aug 6, 2020 54 13,836
Halloween wedding date - but groomsmen have kids
Melissa, on August 3, 2019 at 6:28 PM

Hello again! I feel like I'm posting constantly in these forums. Anywho, to get to the heart of the matter, my ideal wedding date is friday 10/30/2020. For spiritual reasons (it's close to a spiritual...

Sarah, Aug 6, 2020 44 928
Cutting the Guest List
Kayla, on July 28, 2020 at 1:55 PM

So, we found out from our venue yesterday that we are going to have to cut our guest list from 225 to 150 people to meet social distancing guidelines. FH and I immediately sat down, called our moms,...

Taylor, Aug 5, 2020 15 679
Thoughts on future sister-in-law’s dress
, on July 7, 2020 at 12:47 PM

So my fiancé and I had decided to do a small wedding party - only maid of honor and best man to avoid issues of who gets to part of the wedding or not. His older sister has mixed opinions of me...

Katie, Aug 5, 2020 25 466
Should We Invite our Family and Friends?
Michelle, on August 4, 2020 at 2:46 AM

Hello! I hope everyone is hanging in there. My (now) husband and I were suppose to get married on 4/25/2020. We postponed it until 10/10/2020 and last week made the tough decision just to cancel it....

Martha, Aug 5, 2020 7 158
Can you take back Rsvp’s??
Sarah, on August 4, 2020 at 7:42 PM

So we are getting married on October 17th this year. We are getting married no matter what, as my step dad is officiating. If things shut down again we will have a very intimate wedding at home and...

Sarah, Aug 5, 2020 10 271
Keeping RSVP Private on WeddingWire?
Luke, on February 19, 2013 at 10:36 AM

My fiancee and I have noticed that with WeddingWire's RSVP tool, guests are able to type in whatever name they want and view or edit that person's RSVP, even if it's not their own. This is an issue...

Rebecca, Aug 5, 2020 22 849
Thank You Wording
Liz, on August 4, 2020 at 9:28 PM

Because of COVID, we only had 25 guests at our wedding but family members not there still sent monetary gifts. I'm the worst at wording things. Any ideas for thank you card wording?

Liz, Aug 5, 2020 4 123 1
Red Dress Etiquette
Marcia, on August 3, 2020 at 9:48 AM

The controversy of guests wearing red to a wedding came up on a different post. I had never heard about a rule against guests wearing red, so I googled it and got conflicting advice--some said...

Judith, Aug 5, 2020 29 398
Covid Gift Etiquette
Kat, on August 4, 2020 at 8:50 PM

I am attending a wedding ceremony in a few weeks for a family member whose larger reception and vow renewal has been postponed to next year. Do I give a gift this year at the mini ceremony or do I...

Kat, Aug 5, 2020 7 166 1
Gift Ideas for a Friend Officiant
Grace, on August 4, 2020 at 11:50 AM

We have a big wedding planned and all set for September 19, 2020 in Long Island, NY that is postponed to April 24, 2021. So, we have decided to do a minimony to keep our original date at the local...

Jana, Aug 4, 2020 5 72
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