Is it rude to invite someone to your wedding without their spouse?

I would not do this. It’s extremely rude to invite someone without their spouse.

That is extremely rude. You cannot ask someone to celebrate your relationship while disrespecting theirs. That applies to anyone with a significant other, be it 4 months together or 50 years. It's not for you to judge because they are a social unit.

Will these folks be offended if they aren't invited and you meet up with them later? I would hate to cut a best friend for example to accommodate someone else's acquaintances who likely wouldn't care either way.

I would also avoid this. Think about if someone invited your FH to a wedding but didn't invite you

Spouses and serious partners are a package deal – if you wish to invite one, you must invite both. The only exception to this is new relationships or flings for whom you can give a plus one at your discretion. Most people will be quite taken aback to receive an invite that does not extend to their de-facto partner/spouse and some will flat out refuse to attend.

You have to invite spouses.

Yeah you can't split couples. You'll need to trim the list somewhere

When it comes to married couples you should invite both people or neither of them.

Totally agree with everyone- extremely rude to not invite the spouse. They’re a package deal.

I’ll also add- if it’s your moms friends and you don’t really want them there just don’t invite them.

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THIS!!!

Couples are a package deal, and need to be invited together. Are YOU and your fiancé close to these people? Or is it just your mom?

We had to trim our list down and had to take off people that were really just friends of mine and my FH's parents, but we weren't close to them at all. It's fine to remove them if you don't see it as a necessity to have them there.

I'm gonna go against the grain and say no, but many others will view it as rude. If you're afraid to offend then simply be honest with the guests and/or tell them you have limited guest count due to COVID and that you assumed they wouldn't come w/o their spouse.


My mom was invited to a co-worker's wedding. The coworker invited a total of 10 ppl from her job and none of their spouses were invited. None of them were offended.

It is rude BUT hear me out. Have your mom talk to them and see if their spouses even want to come. If the spouses don’t know you or your mom well they may have zero interest in going to your wedding.
I have a couple friends who I’m close with, and they love my daughters, but barely know their husbands.
Lots of people in my age group - 50s, older - have spheres of relationships that don’t really overlap. And this is pretty unrelated, but I have one very dear friend who is coming to my wedding and her husband is not invited. Yes, it’s rude to him but a kindness to her and other guests. I love her like a sister, but can’t risk him being there. She is grateful that her friends invite her places without him, if he were invited she would decline.

View Quoted Comment I’ve invited several co workers and about half have said they want to go but their spouses won’t - technically I invited them but know they couldn’t care less about their wives’ work friends wedding LOL

View Quoted Comment I agree with this

It's extremely rude to not invite the spouse. They are a social unit and need to be respected as one. You not allowing their significant other could come off as you don't acknowledge or respect their relationship while you want them to come and support yours.

View Quoted Comment Exactly, perfectly said👏👏👏👏

If the spouse is abusive or similarly problematic that is the exception to the rule, but rare. But be aware that the spouse may possibly not let them attend in that case.

It's very rude and I wouldn't do it. Couples are a package deal

Married couples are a packaged deal. You cannot invite someone without their spouse. And if you do, it is rude and tacky. If I was invited to a wedding and my wife was not, there is no way I would attend!

View Quoted Comment Yes, I've noticed that's usually is how it is.