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Latino last name issue.. Florida brides, please help!

Mariana, on September 7, 2016 at 11:47 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 90
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Hi community.. I'm going through a nightmare with my name change here in FL. My husband is Puerto Rican where it is standard to be given both your mother and father's family name.

When I showed my certificate to the SSA, they had no issue in me taking only his father's last name (which is the name he mainly uses anyway.. But for all legal purposes he does have two separate last names, no hyphenation or anything). My trouble starts when I go to change my license.. They say they will not accept this change. The DMV says I must take both his last names rather than just his father's.

I'm being told I'll have to wait at the SSA and file to once again change my name to both last names rather than one so it can match my ID and social. I do not agree with this at all. I don't want both last names! It's customary here to use only one last name, why am I being forced to have two as well if SSA is fine with me only taking one of his?

Has any other bride experienced something similar?

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    *bump*

    ETA: I have no official knowledge or experience to share, but this does seem very weird to me! FSIL's husband is from Costa Rica and took his dad's family name, not dad's and mom's

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  • M
    Savvy July 2016
    Mariana ·
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    Thank you for bumping me up! I'm on mobile so I cannot see anywhere to update commentary or not. But I'm happy to see you can.

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  • Bethyonce
    Master February 2015
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    So, I am not familiar with Florida but, legally speaking; you changed your name with SSA and the DMV has no authority to approve or deny your name. What are you being told at the DMV?

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  • M
    Savvy July 2016
    Mariana ·
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    Thanks again Lynnie and Beth, the DMV says I must take both last names and that the SSA could change my name to anything I want?.. But that they will not. The SSA saw my marriage license and has already done the legal change but the DMV refuses to update it to that because they say I cannot pick only one of his last names, it must be both.

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  • MrsMcCoy
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    I agree with Beth - I am not sure how the DMV can tell you that your SS card is wrong. I would try going to a different DMV and seeing if you get different results from a different person? I hate to say it, but I feel like this could be something that could differ based on who is helping you.

    ETA: Your SS card has your legal name. The DMV doesn't get to make that call.

    I used to live in FL. I had a license with them from the ages of 16-33. I had gone in to get my license renewed in person once a couple years ago (so, after having a valid, non-expired license with them for 15 years or so), and they wouldn't let me do it in person without some crazy amounts of paperwork - like birth certificate, etc. But I was able to do it online, from out of state. Go figure.

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  • The Trap Selena
    Master March 2016
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    I'm with Beth. If your new legal identity according to the US government is Mariana (middle name) (FHs dads last name) then how can the DMV tell you no? I think you should contact a supervisor at the DMV before you go through the headache of going back to the SSA..from what I understand, changing your name a second time can be a pain.

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  • Nancy Taussig
    January 2020
    Nancy Taussig ·
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    Are his 2 last names hyphenated? That would be the only LOGICAL reason I can see.

    The last time I had to renew my driver's license I had to produce all kinds of ID -- I blame it on Homeland Security.

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  • Bethyonce
    Master February 2015
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    Here is the link for what is required. It sounds like you got a very unhelpful person. Just take your new SSN card and your old DL and your registration. Don't be chatty with them. Or better yet, do their MstoMrs thing in this link.

    https://www.dmv.org/fl-florida/changing-your-name.php

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  • M
    Savvy July 2016
    Mariana ·
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    His two last names are completely separate. No compound or hyphen. I'm super frustrated because I agree with you all, I don't know who the DMV believes they are to say I cannot do something SSA has already approved and processed. I've spoken with different management and no one seems to be on the same page. One woman tells me this is some new law from 2010, another tells me they haven't heard of such. One says it's "unlawful" to only give me his father's last name and another person says they have no idea what the law is.

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  • JamimarriesKen
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    Florida just hires anyone into those positions and they only get training on case by case basis. They're NEVER on the same page. I'd go back and try again at the DMV and if they pitch a royal fit I would ask for their manager and continue to climb up the chain of command until they fix the issue. If the SSO approved it then they have no right to deny you. Federal trumps state in every instance. It's your legal name now they can't deny you.

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  • M
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    Mariana ·
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    Beth, I did take all that documentation and they still refused it. I can try another office I suppose but they really giving me the run around and the waits there are no joke as we all know.

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  • MrsMcCoy
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    Try to make an appointment. But I would definitely try the DMV again and not the SSA again. I know its a pain, but I think that's your best option.

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  • MNBride
    Master June 2017
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    I was always under the impression you could change your name to anything you wanted. Go to another DMV they sound like assholes.

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  • Bethyonce
    Master February 2015
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    Unfortunately, I don't think any of us can offer any more help other than try another office because the DMV is wrong.

    I am sorry this is happening. Really.

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  • Katelyn
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    Katelyn ·
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    Sorry. I'm on mobile and everything keeps double posting.

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  • Katelyn
    Expert September 2016
    Katelyn ·
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    How does the Dmv even know your husbands name? You should just go in stating that you have a name change and show them the papers from SS and they should change it.

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  • M
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    Mariana ·
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    Thank you so much ladies, I guess I really just wanted to vent as well! I'm so worried my social security has a different name from my license currently and until I update it on my license I can't change it in many other places. I'll try my best.. It's my name and I'm the one that's going to have to live with it, not the DMV. I would hope they honor such Smiley sad

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  • MrsMcCoy
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    MrsMcCoy ·
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    Well they kinda have to, its your legal name now!

    Hopefully trying a different DMV location will bring better results. Good luck!

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  • M
    Savvy July 2016
    Mariana ·
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    So, by chance yesterday I decided to try another DMV and I mentioned none of my prior struggles. I simply brought the same documentation and the woman was super helpful.. She ASKED me how I wanted my name to display. I told her just as social accepted it and she said that was perfectly fine. I am so angry that other office, which is only like 20 mins away from the other one, would put me through such struggle and stress as to even tell me that my name change is unlawful?? I hope none of you brides are met with such stupidity whenever you change your names!

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  • OG Dianna
    Master March 2017
    OG Dianna ·
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    Double post

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