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Just Said Yes July 2019

Adding a bridesmaid

Amanda, on July 7, 2018 at 1:26 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
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6 months ago my fiancé and I decided to have 3 groomsman and 3 bridesmaids. At Christmas I asked my friends to be bridesmaids and made it public. Recently, my fiancé wanted to add a fourth. I decided that was okay because I would really like his sister in law to be in the wedding party since her husband and children are in it. How do I ask her without it seeming rude that I didn’t ask her earlier?
Thanks in advance!
ps our wedding is still a year away

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Latest activity by Amanda, on July 7, 2018 at 9:04 PM
  • Jillian
    Devoted August 2018
    Jillian ·
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    Your wedding is still over a year out, I don’t think it would be weird to ask her now unless you’ve made a big deal like “these are my 3 bridesmaids”. I asked mine all at different times, including adding a jr bm and FGs late because my other cousins aren’t able to make the wedding. I’m sure she’ll be happy to be a part of your day.
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    Amanda ·
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    Thank you!
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  • Neffe
    Master July 2020
    Neffe ·
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    Hi Amanda! Welcome to the WeddingWire Community! Smiley ring In your situation, extending an invite to be a bridesmaid, around this time, will not come off as rude! Things happen, and you're still in the preliminary stages of planning, so it's not like it's a last resort! I think she'll actually really appreciate it! Don't overthink it! Smiley smile

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    Just Said Yes November 2018
    Kassandra ·
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    I think if it was 2 weeks before your wedding day, then she would more likely feel like a after-thought. but this far in advance would still be totally cool with me if I were asked. if you're that concerned about it, make her BM proposal just a tad extra special!
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    Just Said Yes July 2019
    Amanda ·
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    Thank you! You’re right, I didn’t want it to be a last resort thing
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    Amanda ·
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    Great idea-thanks!
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    Judith ·
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    A year out, it is fine. But never, ever refer to trying to match groom's number. And never say anything about, since her husband and kids are in it, why nit her? Both are insulting. To say, the more I have been thinking about the wedding, the more I realize we will soon be family. I would like us to be closer > is a better thing to show respect for her feelings.
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    Amanda ·
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    Perfect! Thank you!!
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