Dates for teenagers?

I see that your wedding isn't until November which can be a long time in the world of high school dating. As it gets closer, if they are still together and you get some declines, perhaps at that point you could extend an invite to the girlfriend?

I know B-list is considered rude but I don't know that the rules are as applicable to this situation.

I would talk to your MOH and tell her the truth... you didn’t know he had a girlfriend, and there’s no room. I’m sure she will understand and maybe she can explain to her brother. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment I have talked to her and she isn't upset, and she tried telling her brother but that didn't go too great. So in this situation I was mostly wanting confirmation that there can be exceptions to a B-List. 🤷‍♀️

View Quoted Comment That's kind of what I was thinking but this is such a tricky situation that it is probably my best bet!

I would say if the 17/18 year old still lives at home regardless of seriousness of relationship he does not get a plus one. He would be included on the parents invitation. And given the age and the fact that you didn't even know they were dating someone you shouldn't feel bad or obligated to give him a plus 1. Its expensive. I even know of a bride who wasn't giving her future sister in law/bridesmaid a plus one only because she hadnt been dating her boyfriend for over a year, and she's even in her 20s.

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Also generally couples are considered a "social unit" and have to be invited together, but in this case since he is under 18 I think his family is the "social unit" and normally teens don't bring a significant other to weddings.

You could explain that you have a very tight list because of space at the venue and that if people decline he could bring his new girlfriend (if she's still around as we all know how teenage romances go).

View Quoted Comment Agree with this!

Does he live on his own? Did he get his own invitation? Do you know his girlfriend? If not, I don't think he needs a plus one. It more depends on the teenager for me. If they are in college on their own or at least living on their own or with their SO, and I sent them their own invite (so basically treating them like an adult) I think a plus 1 is fine. If not, he can just go with his family.

Plus ones are for adults and at the time of the invitation, he is a minor child living with his parents. He does not get a plus one.

View Quoted Comment My FSIL had the same one year mentality for my FH and I when she got married five years ago. I got invited three days before the wedding because she had declines and the wedding was 2 weeks before our anniversary. I wasn't offended at all to not have been invited or to have been B-listed. I thought the one year rule was standard practice until I joined wedding wire.

View Quoted Comment Tangential question, would you consider the one year rule to be 1 year from when you send out invites, or 1 year from the wedding date?

I think because he is minor living with this parents and attending the wedding with his family, he doesn't need a plus one. Even if I had the space, I wouldn't do it in this situation.

View Quoted Comment I guess my FSIL was counting from the time she sent invitations. I am not following that rule for my own wedding. Out of my 9 guests, only one person is not married and I am waiting to see what she wants to do.

Im all for giving plus ones to everyone but i dont think 17 barely 18 (still in high school) gets one

He is a minor being invited with his immediate family. I would not give a plus one.

I agree with PPs that he would mainly be considered as an invite with his parents, as he is a minor. I would not worry about giving him a plus one. If it gets closer and you have room for her, and they are still together, then you could always see about inviting. But I would not worry about it!

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Agreed. If you are under 18 / still live at home - no +1. The family is the social unit in this situation.

Also - this isn't a situation where the guest won't know anyone else.

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I agree with this.

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This is spot on.