Determining who is hosting the wedding?

I would say whoever is paying is the one hosting. However, I guess today its quite common for parents to help but the couple still pays the bulk, so not too sure in that case.

In our case my mother is paying for our entire wedding so we had in our invitation that she was the inviter even though she hasn't even seen the invitations or been part of the process at all.

Paying is hosting.

Whoever is paying the majority is hosting. That why you sometimes see “together with their parents “ which to me means the parents paid some and the B&G paid some.

FH and I are paying 90% and planned 100% so we are hosting.

I agree with the previous posts, who ever is paying the majority is hosting.

We're paying and hosting 100% of our wedding.

In the paying is hosting camp. Maybe one exception would be if the event was literally AT someone’s home. I’d somehow work that in there even if they weren’t paying for the rest.

All that being said...so long as everyone is on board, it’s up to the couple what it says. Some may want both sets of their parents mentioned anyway.

It's actually not as common nowadays for the brides parents to host and pay for the whole thing. Most of us are paying on our own. Have you talked to your parents about this?

Thanks everyone! I was just curious what peoples opinion was on it.

We're covering about 60% of the wedding and making all the decisions. I feel like we should acknowledge parents' contributions but I think we'll do that AT the rehearsal and wedding, and not on the invitations.

Thanks again and happy Friday!!

What do you need to know the official host for, for the invites? Ours will just say "with their families" above our names, even though my father is paying for 90% of the wedding. But we are making all the decisions for planning.

Our parents are paying just a fraction of what our wedding is costing, but we're still going to acknowledge them on the invites. We have "Together with their parents...". I like the idea of adding them because even though they couldn't give much, they gave what they could even though it wasn't expected and appreciate them so much more for it.

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Mostly I'm just a know-it-all and was curious but yes, for invitations too

Paying is hosting in that those who pay should also get the chance to make decisions, greet people, etc. My parents are paying about 2/3, I am paying about 1/3. FH's parents have also given us some money which has helped a lot. So we went with "Together with their families" on our invitation. My father will most likely welcome everyone and pray for the meal at the reception, and we will probably also see if FH's parents want to speak or anything during the reception.