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Malei
When/how/why did you announce the wedding party?
Malei, on March 20, 2018 at 2:42 PM

So I'm kind of a private person and don't really like the attention and/or spotlight and my FH, bridesmaids, and groomsmen all have pretty similar personalities. I wasn't going to mention them on the...

Valerie, Mar 20, 2018 18 1,002
Hannah
How to include Parents Names on invitations (and who to include!)
Hannah, on March 20, 2018 at 11:35 AM

My parents are (generously!) paying for 100% of our wedding. I know traditionally the invitation would then read "Mr. and Mrs. So-and-So request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their...

A.Magill.Since.May, Mar 20, 2018 23 8,443
HJKvr
ww Online rsvp - Kids separately?
HJKvr, on March 20, 2018 at 1:09 PM

I'm struggling a little with deciding how to do the guest list / RSVP field on this site. I plan to do an online-only RSVP instead of response cards. I'm not sure how to handle children when it comes...

Adriana, Mar 20, 2018 6 983
LoveChristina
For those of you writing your own vows....
LoveChristina, on June 6, 2012 at 2:06 PM

How long are they suppose to be? I sat down to write them and wondered how long is too long...Am I suppose to time myself or just say whats on my heart no matter the time length? FH wants to write...

SUNSHYNNE, Mar 20, 2018 18 1,300
Britney
Should I have my cousins are bridesmaids?
Britney, on January 10, 2015 at 1:13 AM

Heyy everyone! I'm having an ongoing debate on whether or not I should ask my cousins (I have three girls two of which I'm very close to and the other I like but am not as close to but can't really...

Lorraine, Mar 20, 2018 12 2,549
Too Laid Back
siblings in law in the wedding party
Too Laid Back, on September 3, 2016 at 12:12 AM

So my future MIL has recently (last few weeks) started dropping comments to my fiancé that my future sister in law is feeling left out since she's not in the wedding party. Both of his brothers are...

Lorraine, Mar 20, 2018 40 4,676
A.Magill.Since.May
Tipping the seamstress?
A.Magill.Since.May, on March 19, 2018 at 6:07 PM

I had my last alterations appointment last week with my seamstress who was incredibly wonderful and helpful turning my MIL's 80's gown into the dress of my dreams (not substantial difficult changes,...

LaraLouM, Mar 19, 2018 16 1,598
Brianne
No cameras or phones.
Brianne, on March 19, 2018 at 10:53 AM

I was just at a wedding where the photographer was having difficulty taking pictures during the ceremony due to guests taking their own pictures. I've also been to quite a few weddings where guests...

Talullah, Mar 19, 2018 23 792
A
Maid of Honor issues
Amber, on March 19, 2018 at 10:39 AM

I am having trouble with my maid of honor... she lives in another state so It’s hard to hold her accountable for all of the typical “MOH duties”, but she hasn’t really done her job at all. I am not...

FutureMrs.A, Mar 19, 2018 19 1,679
fsumissa
Tip the second photographers
fsumissa, on February 14, 2017 at 8:06 PM

This seems like a silly question but trying to make sure I have everything ready. Our photographer has her own business and is bringing in a second photographer. We tip the second photographer right?...

Casey, Mar 19, 2018 12 1,432
PrettyinPink
How to Politely Ask for Truthful Rsvp's
PrettyinPink, on March 19, 2018 at 12:40 PM

So long story short, we had a bunch of people not return their RSVPs (ugh, I'm sure I'm not the only one). We had to reach out to several and they gave us a "yes" or "no". Like a lot of people who...

Jennifer M, Mar 19, 2018 40 4,320
MrsKAllTheWay
Why you should reconsider sending out save the dates...
MrsKAllTheWay, on June 7, 2012 at 1:37 PM

I sent out save the dates a while ago. I've never been married before and I'm one of the first of my friends to get married and I thought it was the "thing to do." However, I'm getting a mixed...

Malei, Mar 19, 2018 65 8,497 1
B
Bridal shower cake?
Brianna , on March 19, 2018 at 10:35 AM

Is there supposed to be a cake served at the bridal shower?🤷🏻‍♀️

PrincessLawrence, Mar 19, 2018 11 4,087
Josh & Justine
“why can’t we bring our kids? Just make an exception.”
Josh & Justine, on March 3, 2018 at 7:55 PM

Etiquette rant. Well, I’ve read about it on here, and agreed with how ballsy and (frankly) tacky it is to do this, but I’d really hoped none of our guests would ask this question. We addressed our...

Daria, Mar 19, 2018 38 2,461
Kelly
How do I say "We like kids, we just dont want yours at our wedding"??
Kelly, on August 18, 2017 at 2:45 PM

I am getting ready to send invitations here shortly so I need some blunt advice. Our nieces and nephews will be attending as well as two teenagers from out of state but other than that I don't want...

Tonya, Mar 19, 2018 44 335
C
Skipping save the dates?
Courtney, on March 18, 2018 at 1:42 PM

Hey all! I was wondering... How tacky is it to skip the save the dates? Our only out of town guests are my grandma and Aunt, and my mom's sister. All of who I discuss all the wedding details with so...

BB-H, Mar 19, 2018 15 362
queenbee
Engagement Photos Outfit Change
queenbee, on March 16, 2018 at 10:38 PM

So we are doing our engagement photos this Sunday (FINALLY -- we booked our photographer in December last year but we have been engaged for 2 and a half years so far and needless to say this is a long...

queenbee, Mar 19, 2018 12 1,676
Gabby
How to politely tell our guests absolutley no children?
Gabby, on March 18, 2018 at 8:50 PM

Recently my family and fiance's family have been having a lot of kids. We've been engaged for a few years, so our wedding has come to no surprise to anyone. I have a few cousins that have newborn...

Future Mrs M, Mar 19, 2018 48 4,367
K
Post Elopement etiquette
Kelly , on March 18, 2018 at 1:04 PM

So we are eloping to NYC next month and the only people that know are some local friends and immediate family. My FH’s extended family is in NYC, and we didn’t know if we should let them know we are...

PalmTrees, Mar 19, 2018 15 416
S
Tacky or Rustic??
Sarah, on March 9, 2018 at 9:50 PM

Hey yall!! So I recently got engaged! Yay!! I am planning our wedding myself and also paying for it myself (of course with the groom). I have been married before and refuse to go into debt to have the...

Cassidy, Mar 18, 2018 29 2,052
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