Teacher brides

I think a shower is a bad idea for a group of students. It is viewed as gift grabby to plan your own shower and if I were a parent I would find it very strange that my child's teacher threw a party where my child had to bring her a gift to open.

I understand wanting to celebrate with them, so maybe a regular classroom party like you would have for another holiday would be better, almost like you putting on a little reception for them. But a shower does not sit right with me here.

I agree with Kristin.
I would just celebrate by having a normal party with them. I would not call it a shower.

View Quoted Comment Oh thank you!
Yeah as I said before I have no idea what is really a bridal shower I did not know for the gift part!So people bring gift to the engagement party, bridal shower and the wedding?!?Wow!
Yeah my idea was a clasrrom party but I was wondering what kind of activities I could do beside the snacks that I will provide.
And yes definitely not my goal to have them bring gifts I don't plan to involve the parents anyway I will provide everything.

View Quoted Comment Yes definitely. I thought the bridal shower was getting together,play game and have fun before the wedding. But if it's involved gifts we will call it party lol.
I wanted to do one before because I will be away after spring break.( I could negotiate my honeymoom with my principal since I almost never take my days off).
Thanks for your advices ladies!

Same as above. I'm a teacher too, and though my students are really excited for me, I teach 7th grade, and we wouldn't really have much time during school to even do something like this together. My coworkers did throw a shower for me and FH last week, which was so sweet. I'm kind of jealous that you'd be able to have some special time with your students to celebrate.

I would skip calling it a bridal shower for the simple fact they won’t need to bring you gifts. I would maybe just have a little celebration and thank them for all their support, I think it will make them feel really good about themselves! How sweet!

As a fellow teacher (K/1 SDC) I understand how close you can become to your students. However, having a shower with your students doesn’t seem like a wise idea. They are too young to really understand what a wedding shower really is. If you want to include a wedding themed snack and maybe a some sort of game or activity with your students that would seem more appropriate for the age group. Make it a surprise for them and they will really appreciate it!

Hello! Fellow teacher here; I teach high school. I would not do this with my kids. My group is older and we definitely bond but it seems a little too personal and better left out of the classroom. I'm sure they are excited for you and would love to see a few photos when you return.

I think you are struggling with trying to share your happiness with your students and maintaining a professional relationship. Hosting this party would be crossing boundaries. Your personal and professional life need to be kept separate.

View Quoted Comment Lol Thanks Stephanie.
Don't be jealous I don't think I would have done that with older kids neither.That's why I love to teach the little ones!

View Quoted Comment That's definitely my idea thank you so much Michelle!

View Quoted Comment Yes fellow teacher you defimitely get the idea. I had no idea that bridal shower involve gifts!The idea was to celebrate around a snack and activities. Also I did not specify but I'm getting married during Spring break. So it will be a snack before the break too which nice since we can't celebrate Easter in my school.

As a fellow teacher I agree, even a celebration party would be crossing professional boundaries. Your personal life should not bleed into your work life. They're honestly two separate things. Abandon your idea of any party and just focus on teaching and building relationships. No need to bring your wedding into your first graders lives.

View Quoted Comment Hi KB,
Yeah I would not think about it if I had older kids neither and maybe even another groupmof 1st grade. But this group is definitely special for me. They made my job and my wedding planning easier that's why I would like to thanks them and celebrate with them bur I will definitely not call it shower but just special snack or party. I was not thinking about sharing the photoswith them(maybe only to the parents who ask) because in my opinion sharing the photos is a way more personal than having a little party to celebrate with them.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your answer Muriel.
I don't struggle about that, that why I was saying I will not share the photos with them.My question was more because I don't really know what is a bridal shower. But thanks to you guys now that I know I won't call it bridal shower. It will be a special snack.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your answer. We are a small school and our communauty is like a family so it would be hard to don't share as others teacher shared the news about my wedding with their students even if I don't know them.
However my question was not about to have a party or not I believe each teacher is entitled to chose what kind of relationship they want to build with their students.

Fellow teacher here and to answer your question: No I never share that much with my students, ever. I get that you are like family, however I am also a parent. If my child came home from school with an invite, that the teacher herself made, telling me she was throwing herself a shower I would be speechless. This is how it translates: "I am getting married, please go buy me a gift."

When the word gets out that you are getting married, those parents that choose to will get you something, but please re-think this plan.

To simply bring a special snack the day before you leave to get married is great - just don't call it a shower.

I am going to leave on a Thursday as Ms Malted Milk and return on Tuesday as Mrs. Butterfinger. The less said the better!

View Quoted Comment Perhaps you could run your idea by your licensing body. It is not correct that each teacher is entitled to choose what kind of relationship they want to build with their students. There are rules for teachers, just as there are for doctors and nurses. Professionals all have to draw a line.