So my fiancé and I were talking, we don’t think we’re going to gift each other something the day of our wedding. Is that ok!? I mean we’re paying for a destination wedding! We were thinking of instead hand written notes? Has anyone not done gifts?
We aren't going to do gifts. Our parents are helping to pay for some of the wedding, but we are paying a significant amount ourselves, plus we want to do a really nice honeymoon. My FH also puts a lot of pressure on himself when he buys me gifts, and I don't want him to feel that pressure before our wedding. I just want him to relax and enjoy the day.
Dolores Umbridge ·
We didn't do gifts spent extra on spa day at honeymoon instead
We originally weren't going to do gifts, but then I changed my mind and decided to gift him photos from my boudoir shoot. I consider this a gift to both him and myself; I told him I got him something but that he still doesn't have to get me something if he'd rather save the money. I told him all I wanted was a nice handwritten note from him that day and I'd be set.
FH and I will have been together for 9 years by the time of the wedding. The past few holidays I've really been struggling to find him a gift I haven't already given him. The whole wedding and the honeymoon are gifts to ourselves anyways. And I'm willing to bet that FH has never even heard of the tradition of gifting each other the day of the wedding. I'd like to write a little note to each other, but that's about it.
We are planning to "gift" each other tattoos after the wedding, however. FH wants a wedding band tattooed since he can't wear one to work, and I just want a small symbol to match his. We don't have any set plans yet though, and it might not happen right away.
We went back and forth and ended up with sorta practical gifts. He got me new perfume and I got him new shave oil and lotion. They were both new scents so wearing them reminds us of our wedding, but also not very expensive. However, I think skipping it is perfectly fine and hand written note would be lovely!
I didn't even know gifts to each other were a thing until I read articles on here and the knot. I know some brides did those photo shoots, or some grooms sent wine or flowers the bride, but otherwise it seems a bit odd to me.
We're not swapping gifts. If one of us does something nice for the other it's great, but it's not planned either.
Girl, go for it! It was so much fun and my photos turned out more beautiful than I could've imagined. My advice: take the time to look for a really great photographer who knows boudoir posing well and who wants to make his/her clients feel as comfortable as possible. Mine was a chatterbox who talked and asked me questions the whole time. I was so busy talking with her that before I knew it I was done. Some of the poses are awkward and/or uncomfortable, but you just start to roll with it after awhile. There were a few poses I just flat out didn't like for one reason or another and told her to pass on them, which she was totally fine with.
We won't do gifts! We're going to do traditional vows in front of guests, and then write out and exchange personal vows pdivayeku. FH was more comfortable with this, as he knows he will be nervous and emotional, but he doesn't want a first look either. I feel like this is gifting each other a really special intimate moment .
We’re paying for the wedding ourselves so I doubt we’ll gift something else to each other.
No gifts here we are paying for most of this ourselves. We aren’t even getting parents gifts, the gifts we get them for the holidays and their days seem to always fall flat after we agonize over them so we are passing on that too.
It's ALWAYS up to the couple to decide things like this!!!! If you two decided together to not do gifts, then there should be no pressure to do so! Maybe write letters to each other instead? That's what I'm planning because both me and my FH are also stretching our money thin. I don't think he'll mind a genuine hand-written letter also.