Hi everyone!
Getting married this November and I'm trying to figure out what the formality of our wedding is. I'm realize it's affecting more than I initially thought!
My FH hates tuxes. He thinks they're stuffy. So he's opting to wear a dressy navy suit (not sure on 3-piece or not yet...) and the groomsmen as well. My maids are in floor length gowns. Our reception is a huge exhibition hall that's basically a blank canvas. We're getting a lot of bar, table, furniture rentals as well as some hanging chandeliers, etc. But then again we're having an oyster bar out on the patio.
I'm getting stuck on what our wedding would be classified as. Apparently I can't say Black Tie Optional because it's faux-pas for someone to show up dressier than the groom. So then does it become "formal" for the dress code?
Two other instances I'm getting tripped up:
1. Addressing the Save the Dates next week. Parents want to do super old school formal way (Mr. and Mrs. John Smith) where I think STDs are a little more casual (John and Jane Smith.) That may be a separate conversation, but does formality have an influence in that?
2. Father of bride/groom-- do they wear the suits as well? If they were in tuxes would that be weird?
So many questions!