Pre wedding meet ups

Please don't expect them to be friends by the end. Honestly meet ups seem over the top to me. If they have very different personalities they may not get along at all and that's fine.

Maybe start with a happy hour? That way its casual, gives people time to talk, and can be as short or as long as you want it to be based off how it is going!

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Maybe friends wasnt the right word my fear isnt that they wont get along but i want them to be able to work together well

View Quoted Comment I made a Facebook and Snapchat group for our wedding party to talk. My DH and I also wrote about how we knew each of them to get the ball rolling.

Physical meet ups may may be hard but having a way that they can all communicate may be helpful.

I don't think meet ups are necessary. It seems like you're attempting to force friendships.
I think they'll get to know each other as they plan your bridal shower and bachelorette (If they opt to do those).
I was in a bridal party once where the bride insisted we all get together twice a month. She ended up stopping it after one month (thank goodness) because no one's schedule matched up and it was a major inconvenience. Even though we weren't all best friends, we were still able to host a beautiful shower for her.

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Snapchat group?? that sounds fun thank you!

I gotta be honest if a bride tried to get me together with a bunch of other people I didn't know X amount of times a month i probably wouldnt go i have way to much going on in my own life!
My friends wedding a few months ago tho me & another girl got to know each other thru texting & planning everything that when we met up to shop for everything it was like we were old friends & wasn't awkward at all!

I think having an open chat would be better to give them the opportunity to communicate if they wanted to. Honestly adding more pre-wedding events may be a little much to expect them to take part in.

We planned one lunch after dress shopping (only went dress shopping together once). Only two out of four could make it. They are the two who seem interested in planning events and helping with wedding stuff. The other two just aren't into that kind of thing, and that's okay. These two had a great time together, had a lot more in common than I even expected, and have been texting a little bit about bachelorette ideas. The others will just go with the flow.

Putting myself in a bridesmaid's shoes, I wouldn't see any reason to get comfortable with the others. We are adults, and I can give a friend's friend a call to discuss something without being weird about it. It really shouldn't have to be a big deal.

One meet up might work. They can exchange contact information at that time and put names to faces. Then, you need to let it go and let them work together to plan whatever they come up with. They are big girls and will figure it out.

Set up a group to communicate if they so choose, then leave them alone. It doesn't matter if they are complete strangers when they walk down the aisle. They walk, stand and walk, which they are all capable of doing on a daily basis.

You don't need to be friends with someone to co-plan and host an event if they decide to have a shower or bachelorette. People plan work and charity events every day with strangers.

I had a bridesmaid wine night for the girls. And I had a surprise b-day party for my Fiance and they were all invited so that helped too

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Oh duh! my fiances birthday is in the next two months this is what i was looking for! thank you!

Most of my bridal party are all friends already! The only person that doesn’t know anyone else is my sister because she lives in another state. She is also my MOH. When she comes home for Easter break (she is a teacher) we’re gonna all go out to dinner then drinks after. Something fun and casual. My sister is sweet so she’ll get along with anyone. Im not worried!

I was part of a bridal party where I was the only one who hadn’t been friends with the bride since I was a child. It was extremely uncomfortable to attend her “meet ups” because everyone else knew each other and I was always the odd one out. I hated it. I do not feel it made me any closer or know them any more in the end. If anything I felt like I could not wait for this wedding to be over so I wouldn’t be subject to this anymore. That was 2015.