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Britt
Still haven't received wedding video. Advice? (update)
Britt, on March 18, 2017 at 6:08 PM

Hi there! I have not posted in a while but I was married 11/3/16 and had a great wedding! My post here is about our videographer. Our contract says to allow up to 120 days to receive the edited...

Esther, Nov 8, 2023 26 6,484 1
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Best man’s fiancé not invited to wedding
Blake, on October 23, 2023 at 4:33 PM

Hello all. I need some brutally honest opinions. If you were the finance of a best man, but not invited to the said wedding, would you be happy inviting that couple that snubbed you to your own...

Rita, Nov 7, 2023 25 732
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Thank You Cards
Aly, on November 4, 2023 at 9:48 AM

I’m about to have my bridal shower and was thinking about whether I can use the same design of thank you cards for both my shower gifts and my wedding gifts? I know I’m supposed to send out thank...

Lauren, Nov 6, 2023 4 89
futuremrsS
Meeting with Pastor/pre marital counseling
futuremrsS, on September 29, 2018 at 12:33 PM

A very close family memeber asked if we would like her pastor to marry us. (I have met him at a couple occasions at major holiday services and my daughter knows him from attending church with her...

Becci, Nov 5, 2023 7 2,606
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Memories of my own wedding are ruining joy of my daughters wedding
Dannilee, on October 8, 2023 at 7:13 AM

Anyone else go thru this? My husband and I paid for our wedding. His parents covered the rehearsal dinner but my parents did nothing. Mine even asked for (and received) all the money gifts from their...

Tera, Nov 4, 2023 4 247
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Removing Someone Who Invited Themself To Wedding
Gina, on October 20, 2023 at 3:44 PM

Hi everyone, This is my first time posting, and I'm facing an awkward dilemma. Someone I barely know invited themselves to the wedding almost a year ago and I've been having a difficult time letting...

Tera, Nov 4, 2023 8 260
Cepski
Cocktail Style Reception - Everyone seated at a table?
Cepski, on April 12, 2017 at 12:10 PM

Hello, we are planning a "Sunday Fun-day" cocktail/heavy appetizer style wedding reception. The venue is a beautiful rustic bar which will hold about 250-ish people. My question is what is the...

Michelle, Nov 4, 2023 39 2,840
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Attend the wedding or the funeral?
Felicia, on September 18, 2019 at 9:50 PM

I am a bridesmaid in my friends wedding next weekend. However, my husband found out earlier this month that his grandmother passed away. He originally told me she is being cremated, and that the...

Helaine, Nov 3, 2023 21 4,561
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Destination wedding - no save the dates and just invites?
Tricia, on October 26, 2023 at 1:29 PM

Hi, what is the proper way to do things nowadays? I plan on having a destination wedding the flight is about 3 hours away. We can’t book the venue/date until 12 months in advance so once the date is...

Tricia, Nov 3, 2023 7 174
Dianne
Too old for a veil?
Dianne, on May 18, 2011 at 12:37 AM

Ok, it's not my first wedding, but I don't think at 51 I should wear a veil. I would however love to have one just at the back of my head going down the back of my gown for part of the day, stupid...

Diane, Nov 1, 2023 19 3,446
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Struggling with feelings surrounding aunt attending
Elizabeth, on October 27, 2023 at 9:55 PM

Hi all currently struggling with what to do regarding my aunt (moms sister). My aunt has always been a bit judgemetal, but has made some comments surrounding my upcoming wedding to my fiancé in...

Tera, Nov 1, 2023 6 197
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Hors d’oeuvres only—seating??
Jane, on October 26, 2023 at 11:09 PM

We’re having a 8pm-12am party with station hors d’oeuvres and passed ones as well. Is it weird to have banquet seating for all? We’ll also have a few standing cocktail tables around the bar. I just...

Michelle, Oct 27, 2023 7 190
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How to ask Ushers?
Jena, on April 1, 2017 at 3:39 PM

What is a fun way to ask someone to be an usher for your wedding?

Katina, Oct 27, 2023 15 10,527
Brianna
Total stranger asked if my engagement ring is fake
Brianna, on June 15, 2015 at 4:21 AM

Ok so this is kind of a rant because I can't believe how rude some people are. So at work today a customer just flat out asked if my ring was fake. I politely said it's not and she went on to say she...

Brenda, Oct 25, 2023 45 3,660
Ana
Different ways to RSVP?
Ana, on June 21, 2017 at 10:41 PM

Are you giving your guests different ways to RSVP or are you just doing the RSVP card w/postage? I am trying to decide on whether I should give my guests more than one way to RSVP.

Brenda, Oct 25, 2023 28 4,481 1
T & Co
How many of you are desiring to quit your job after your wedding?
T & Co, on April 4, 2014 at 9:22 AM

My desire to leave happened last year but I was knocked down during a work conference from an attempted burglary and the kindness of my manager made me stay. Now that the wedding is done the more I...

Brenda, Oct 25, 2023 61 1,461
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Dinner and Dancing in two separate rooms - when do you do intros?
Karolyn, on October 24, 2023 at 2:01 PM

Hi! So we're planning a wedding and the dinner is in a separate room from the ballroom (same venue, just separated by a door). We will have about 125-150 guests, which would take up most of the dining...

Skylar, Oct 24, 2023 2 111
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Very rude invitations (brother's wedding)
Seol, on October 16, 2023 at 3:24 AM

Hello My brother is getting married in Toronto, and I haven't spoken to him in a while because I live in Korea. My boyfriend and I (and my little dog) flew from Seoul to New York to Toronto for my...

CM, Oct 22, 2023 18 401
Sierra
Vendors wanting phone calls
Sierra, on October 6, 2023 at 5:13 PM

Hi, Is there a polite/appropriate way to tell a vendor I’m not interested in speaking on the phone? I get bad social anxiety (ramped up now that I’m wedding planning) and can’t handle dealing with...

Michael, Oct 22, 2023 5 200
Kelly
Wedding Takeaways
Kelly, on October 16, 2023 at 5:49 PM

There's a lot of common advice give on this forum and from other wedding advice sites. My experience flew in the face of a lot of advice, so I want to share my experience. 1."Only about 10-15 people...

Kelly, Oct 21, 2023 9 257 2
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