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moh advice!

Lillie, on February 5, 2025 at 11:49 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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ANY ADVICE APPRECIATED!! My brothers finance who I am very close with asked me to be her MOH. Of course I’m thrilled. But I’m also 18. Still in high school. I understand all the responsibilities being the MOH comes with but honestly I have no idea where to start. I feel underprepared and clueless. I want her to know she can count on me and give her the best time I can. This is the best I could think of to get different ideas and perspectives. I’m freaking out just trying to compose the first initial text to send out to the bridesmaids. I’m so nervous about having to come up with an answer when they ask me a question I don’t know the answer to. They’re also all older than me of course so it feels odd being the one they come to with questions or concerns. I definitely need ideas for bridal shower/bachelorette party. Any tips are greatly greatly appreciated!🫶

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Latest activity by Michael, on February 10, 2025 at 11:44 AM

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LM · on February 6, 2025 at 1:08 PM
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As any MOH or BM, it would be good communication to request what exactly are the expectations of your role. You should ask your future SIL if she's interested in optional parties like a shower or bachelorette (these are not required BTW) and relay to her that you have limited experience. Also, discuss expectations of costs and what you can afford. Also, you may need a credit card or even be of a certain age to book a venue or even a rental car depending on activities. Good luck and have fun.
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JA · on February 6, 2025 at 1:15 PM
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Now-a-days, its more common to delegate typical MOH activities to other bridesmaids. For example, you won't be able to buy/book certain things because of your age so certain things (like buying alcohol for any parties, or renting a hotel/airbnb) you can ask other bridesmaids to do.
And if there are things that are other people's strengths then use that to your advantage! Maybe one of the bridesmaids is a better fit for some tasks, that's okay! You can always bounce things back to the bride for input, or send out a group text for opinions. You don't, and shouldn't, try to take it all on alone!
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Michael · on February 10, 2025 at 11:44 AM
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You could assess your capabilities and finances with respect to what you could do. Maybe your family could share in any tasks that you take on. You then can coordinate with the bride to her expectations and your capabilities to make sure they fit well or that she has a bridesmaid that can also help -- not laying it all on you to figure out who can help.
You maybe can set up a discord.com chat to keep everyone coordinated and discussing ideas. Also, of course, ask questions in weddingwire. But realize the bride could find this website too.
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