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I guess I should be offended, but I'm not. I understand that ignorance does not have boundaries. By reading your post, it just sounds as if she was being malicious. I applaud you for not going off the deep end. I have heard some of the most absurd things from people when they find out that I'm having a "real wedding." I just shake my head and continue with my day.

Ignorance like this really pisses me off…. People really need to do their homework. The fact behind "statistics" is this, it never addresses the most important factors behind the stats. Sure, there are "stats" that record a high percentage of black men in jail, but what are the stats on the judges, officers, and prosecutors, that implemented the "racial profiling" that put them there? What are the stats on the dirty police officers that plant drugs and weapons, resulting in the incarceration of innocent black men? What are the stats on racial employers that consistently turn "minorities" away for positions of potential employment? What are the stats on prestigious colleges that refuse to admit minorities because they have reached their “race quota”?....cont'd

Some of these are the same factors that lead to drug dealing, theft, prostitution (men sell themselves too,) and violent crimes, which all at some point, result in incarceration. True enough, individuals are responsible for their actions; however, in most cases, it’s typically life challenges that result in, “desperate times calling for desperate measures“, as well as racism, that result in black men ending up behind bars. It’s easy to say get a good education or get a job,, but jobs don’t come over night, and there are racist teachers out there who could care less about thoroughly educating young black men. It’s a sad situation, but for a plethora of, “minorities”, discrimination continues to be a BIG factor in the decline or the demise of their advancement in life.

I honestly don’t think she meant any harm. For some people, ignorance is bliss, and those people tend to believe everything they hear and read. They just need to be careful in how they spread the information because as we all know, ignorance is contagious.

LOL thanks Unique, I'm really going now!

Not....going...to get...sucked...into this...discussion. *gasp for air*

I agree with your response Noei. If she's a close friend, I would understand the random convo. But a near-stranger, yeah, a bit much.

Who Says all Black women want to marry black men? and who says all black men want to marry black women? wow people are dissappointing!

@Noel, you hit the nail on the head with that last one. Statistics never consider, nor does it cover the reasoning behind the stats. A looooot of black women (that I've seen lately) are in homosexual relationships, are career driven, prefer men of other races, or just plain don't want to get married. I'm sure if they have interviewed certain women to ask why they aren't, they went to the grimiest neighborhood they could find, where those types of statistics are extremely relevant. However, what about successful black women, did they sit down with them to ask them why they aren't married? There's tons of successful black men out there, so what's the real problem? Absolutely nothing, because in this day and age, people do what they want. This is no longer a society where women have to marry and have children to be considered overall "successful" in life. All types of women are saying to hell with relationships and marriage, their reasons varying. I don’t think it’s a good idea to praise, nor confirm ignorant statistics, because like I said, they don’t consider, nor include the important catalyst that leads to the findings.

If I believed in everything I saw and heard I would have never been married at 50 yrs of age. I believe people don't think before they speak and say some of the dumbest things. Do you and plan ahead for a great day. Haters ugh.....

@ Torie C. Amen to that. I am getting married and quite happy with my white fiance.

Wow, but I applaud you cause I might have cussed her out. Thats alright. I wanted to smack someone the other day for a stupid comment. My fiance and I were at the mall and saw a white girl and black guy. The black guy gave us dirty looks and then said in a loud voice: 'Look at that. The nerve of some people. White men trying to turn our women into slaves to show their superiority.'

My fiance just made me walk away before I said anything.

You know I get that a lot where I work too. Some of them act like they never seen black people have real love. Like we're just a bunch of screwed up people with baby mama baby daddy drama

I would have retorted: At least my nationality's men aren't statistically known to have the smallest penises in the world.

all i can do is laugh....my man also has never been arrested nor is he gay...so i guess she would consider me "one of the lucky ones"...lol

@aidalily whaaaa? that is crazy.
LMBO@ Miya

@aidalily whaaaa? that is crazy.
LMBO@ Miya

You have no idea...I found out one of my friend's fiance feels the same way. In which I told her. 'He is free to think whatever the hell he wants. He can not show up to my wedding celebration and for the flipping record your man is a dumb (choice words follow).'

I know I shouldn't have gotten mad, but I really hate people saying that. It seems even more so now. I don't really see the problem. You fall in love with who you fall in love with. He completes me and I complete him. So thats all that matters.

Meh. I get called a 'race traitor' all the time for being with a white guy...

WELL I JUST BE DAMN!!!!!!!!!! WOW!!!! SMDH!!

I saw a special about this. It went on to talk about a specific type of blk woman. The type that is college educated with a white collar job. Basically it said that after u count out the men who are incarcerated and who are gay and who are blue collar and earn less that blk woman who want to find a man of equal socio economic standing, will have trouble. The special also went on to say that these men do exist however they are either not ready to settle down and get married or they are dating outside of their race. Do I agree with the stats??? uggghhh ::shoulder shrug:: not really. I am married my husband is neither gay nor has he ever been in jail. He has never even gotten a traffic ticket.

Uhm... uh... wow...

I can't believe someone would say that to you - statistic or not, it's innapropriate. period.

However, I loved the play-by-play - I laughed out loud "EXTREME side eye" haha