Is It All Right to Have a Boy as a Flower Girl In a Wedding?

Just dont have one. Why would you want to make your son look like a girl?

No wedding needs a flower girl or ring bearer. I can't tell if this is a real question, are you really going to try to make your son pass as a girl? Why can't he just wear a cute little suit or what he normally wears, and throw flowers? I don't see why it needs to be a girl. If this were my wedding, I just wouldn't have a flower girl at all, since I had no girls to ask.

Go for it!
As long as he's/she's comfortable, let him/her do it.

P.s. I'm not making fun by saying he/she. I believe that people have the right to choose their own pronoun.

Can he be a flower child? I'm not sure I would put him in a dress and deliberately try to pass him off as a girl.

While he might be ok with it now, he might get nervous on the day. Also, it would be really REALLY awful for one of the guests, well-meaning or otherwise, to make a comment and embarrass him on the day, while he is still sorting through all these feelings for himself.

Has he expressed a desire to dress as a female?

ETA: AHHH i missed that whole part.

I think that's something y'all should all be comfortable with. If you're fine with it, if your son is (that's the most important) then I don't think it's a problem. If he doesn't want to actually wear a dress, wearing a suite or khakis (whatever the bride prefers) would also be fine. Lots of people don't have flower girls. So if he doesn't want to throw flowers, have him carry a sign. But I think it's more about how yall feel than how anyone on here does

I say go for it if you are okay with it! Or dress him as a boy and he can still toss the flowers

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I'm not offended. My son is comfortable is I use either pronoun to talk about him. I am just used to saying "he" and "him" for nine years, it's hard to make the switch. Thanks for the support.

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It was his idea. I think he's comfortable with it. We were even looking at dresses earlier. My friend picked out a pretty one she wants him to wear that day and he says he thinks it's cute.

I think if both you, your son and the couple getting married love the idea, I'd go for it!

It sounds like everyone is on board, so go ahead and do it! If your child wants to wear a dress, let him wear a dress. If he wants to wear a braid, he can do that too. But unless he wants to, I wouldn't worry about making sure people think he's a cis-girl. Just let him wear what he wants and what the bride wants him to wear.

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Thank you. My friend has already chosen a pretty dress she wants him to wear that day and he is excited about it. He says it's lovely. Thank you for the feedback

First of all - I applaud you for being so open and accepting of your son. He could just be a flower child though. Like, I don't think I would put my child out there like that.

It really sounds like your child wants to participate, so I say go for it! I understand you worrying about what people will say about your child but honestly who cares what other people think.
My only suggestion is (and I know you didn’t mean this is a harmful way) but be careful about using the term “awkward phase” when talking about or around your child. They might grow up to be a totally different person than they are now or they might not. I just know I heard the term “phase” thrown around a lot when I came out/growing up and it was a little hurtful.

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In the same respect what if he is a totally different person when hes older (meaning it was some type of phase), he may not want pictures of him dressed as a girl. This is a tough one since hes so young.

Not that there's anything wrong with this, but I would just make sure he knows that just because your friend said she is missing a flower girl doesn't mean he can't be a flower boy instead, and isn't limited to wearing a dress for this role.

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You're right. He could be blossoming into someone completely different. Another person that commented stated I should consider using female pronouns. i am so used to him being my son for 9 years, it's quite an adjustment. He is excited about the role and about the dress. I just hope others are as open-minded as I am.

View Quoted Comment Then I’d hope anyone involved would be understanding enough to not share those photos out of respect.
I’d rather let my child do something they want to do than tell them no because I’d be worried about them regretting it later.
I was super goth in middle school, my mom let my dye and cut my own hair because it’s what I wanted then. I’m not the same person now. While that’s something I wouldn’t do today, I appreciate my mom for being open minded and letting me represent my self the way I wanted at that time.

My 3yr old nephew was my flower boy last Saturday!! He was adorable and everyone loved him. On a normal day, he LOVES flowers and picks them and brings them to me...he loved practicing throwing petals etc. My 11yr old daughter was the ring bearer (safer that way )

View Quoted Comment This. Exactly this.

Theres no reason to put him in a dress unless he specifically asks for it...if you are thinking your child is transgender and WANTS to wear a dress and dress up to better pass as the gender they feel, that is totally different.