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Brooke
Should I wear a jacket ?
Brooke , on February 24, 2015 at 9:32 AM

I seen this look on pinterest, but I'm not sure if the denim jacket goes with my look . My FH and GM are also wearing denim jeans. Here is a pic of my dress for reference .

Maltese, Feb 24, 2015 17 1,162
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Do you regret picking your bridesmaids?
Arena, on February 22, 2015 at 2:06 AM

This is more of a personal vent of mine, but I want to hear other stories as well to see if I'm not the only person here. Most of my bridesmaids I have chosen I do regret. The ones that don't live...

Dori L., Feb 23, 2015 52 2,853
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Rehearsal Dinner (where should you draw the line?)
Mrs. C, on February 23, 2015 at 2:06 PM

In a perfect world our rehearsal dinner would be the wedding party, their plus 1, our parents, and grandparents. However, I've been reading rehearsal dinners should include out of town guests. The...

Dori L., Feb 23, 2015 28 292
Watermill Girl
Which invite comes first? Shower or wedding?
Watermill Girl, on February 23, 2015 at 4:02 PM

Title says it all. I did a search and I'm coming up with the wrong etiquette info (like all females invited to shower should be invited to wedding, duh, got that!). Anyone know? Thanks PS: I am NOT...

Lara, Feb 23, 2015 16 197
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No videographer, no regrets?
KeitaiKT, on February 21, 2015 at 8:11 PM

I hate watching videos of myself. I am hypercritical of my looks and feel like I would probably cringe every time I saw any footage of me. Therefore, I was always pretty sure of my decision not to...

Zoe, Feb 22, 2015 20 765
Summyya
Should I fire my wedding planner?
Summyya, on February 21, 2015 at 9:41 PM

My wedding planner has been very unreliable. I understand that the majority of her job is done closer to the wedding. But over three occasions she has not showed up to appointments or been late. The...

Marina, Feb 22, 2015 40 375
C&S
My flower girl cries….a lot. Concerned about her during ceremony.
C&S, on February 21, 2015 at 10:38 PM

My beautiful niece will be the flower girl at my wedding. She will be 15 months old by the time our wedding comes, so she will come down the aisle with the MOH (her mom) then my MOH will hold her...

Celia Milton, Feb 22, 2015 22 463
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Alcohol at rehearsal dinner
Jane, on February 20, 2015 at 7:37 PM

Asking for a friend (we won't be having a rehearsal as we're sort of eloping)... Wedding etiquette question: at the rehearsal dinner is there usually an open bar, cash bar, drinks ordered from the...

Jane, Feb 22, 2015 15 925
Candice B.
Guests Substituting Guests... 0_o
Candice B., on June 14, 2013 at 9:02 AM

WHY do guests think it's ok to send "substitute guests" in their place if they can't make it!?? NO!! I didn't send you an invitation to "hand me down" to someone else! If I wanted them there, I'D HAVE...

Private User, Feb 22, 2015 36 891
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Intimate cermony and large reception
Michelle, on February 20, 2015 at 10:43 PM

I have never really wanted a huge wedding because I don't like being the spotlight and never liked being in front of large crowds. I'm thinking about having an intimate ceremony, immediate family only...

Julia T, Feb 21, 2015 19 225
NYE Bride
Bridesmaids carrying purses instead of flowers ?
NYE Bride, on February 19, 2015 at 12:02 PM

Yay or Nay Does it look weird ?

AG13, Feb 20, 2015 26 1,507
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"Stock the bar" party ...
SK725, on February 19, 2015 at 7:15 PM

Is this a thing? :/ Who's got info on this ?

SK725, Feb 19, 2015 13 489
Sherry
Meals for vendors?
Sherry, on December 5, 2014 at 2:17 PM

Do they let you know if they expect to be fed? No one has said anything to us but we didn't ask. Our officiate is not a friend but married FH's sister last year and knows her husbands family so I am...

Tiffany Weddings And, Feb 19, 2015 57 1,054
Finally mrs.jkr
white wedding invite envelopes... boring
Finally mrs.jkr, on February 17, 2015 at 1:29 PM

My invite envelopes are going to be just stark white.... it seems so boring, what can I do to make them fancier? I must be searching the wrong terms because google and pinterest are pulling up almost...

Brigit, Feb 19, 2015 12 1,541
Laura
Hot chocolate bar...thoughts?
Laura, on February 17, 2015 at 9:19 AM

So I got a quote from a lady who does hot chocolate and gourmet marshmallows. For about 450.00 I can get a hot chocolate bar that includes all the cups/straws, my chice of 7 marshmallow flavors, hot...

OG FMP, Feb 19, 2015 27 233
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shower guests not invited to the wedding
l, on March 12, 2014 at 11:18 PM

I disagree with the etiquette books. I think they are old fashioned. I know so many people who have large families and lots of friends that cannot invite everyone to the wedding. Venue size and...

Pamela, Feb 18, 2015 72 4,073
MzRosaLu
Small wedding: Should we announce engagement on social media?
MzRosaLu, on February 18, 2015 at 2:17 PM

This may be kind of a silly question, but here goes: Fiance and I just got engaged and we have already told immediate family members and some very close friends. We plan on having a relatively small...

annakay511, Feb 18, 2015 28 337
Charla
Tipping Bartenders and Waitstaff
Charla, on February 18, 2015 at 5:36 PM

My dad has asked me to create a budget for tipping the day of the wedding and I'm not sure how much I'm suppose to tip each vendor. I've tried reading previous post, but I'm still not sure how much to...

Mrs.Matthews, Feb 18, 2015 17 1,914
karebear87
Childhood Friends
karebear87, on February 17, 2015 at 10:30 PM

What is everyone's stance on old childhood friends being invited to their wedding? I have friend I'm on the fence with, whom I still keep in contact via Facebook every so often but haven't actual seen...

Mrs. A & J, Feb 18, 2015 15 3,816
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How many guests to invite vs. amount allowed?
jandakotaka, on February 17, 2015 at 9:16 PM

Our venue can hold 120 guests. We have almost finalized our guest list and are at about 120. We still have more people we would like to add. I know for a fact that 100% of people that we invite will...

The Future Mrs Jacks, Feb 18, 2015 21 10,168 1
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