Which invite comes first? Shower or wedding?

Shower

What? Is this for real?

I've seen a couple posts on here, girls worrying about that. So I guess it's not an uncommon question, but IMO you're over thinking it. Shower comes first, so the shower invites come first.

Shower first

Wedding invitations should be sent 8-12 weeks before the wedding. Shower invites don't need that long, maybe like 4 weeks. So I guess *technically* there may be a situation where the wedding invitation would come first, if like your shower was a month before your wedding and you were sending out wedding invites super early and shower invites out a little late?

My shower will be before I even get invitations out, so this wasn't even something I had to worry about.

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I don't see this as a stupid question at all. My wedding invitations will probably go out first, because we're sending those out 9 weeks before. My shower is going to be a small event with only a few close friends, so we probably won't do any real invitations for that anyway, just a phone call invitations.

@futuremrs.l Ah. That makes sense. My apologies OP I misunderstood your question.

Sorry some people are so rude Watermill. I think it's a legitimate question. I googled it just to see and the results were mixed. A wedding requires more advanced warning than a shower. Weddings last longer, so people need to make childcare arrangements, hotel arrangements, etc. As well as potentially shopping for a new outfit and a gift. Showers aren't typically that involved. We're sending out wedding invites 8 weeks out and shower invites 4 weeks out. My shower is one month prior to my wedding, so they will go out at the same time. I honestly don't think it matters. I can't imagine anyone being upset or offended if they get their invites out of order. You'll be fine either way!

I've always gotten wedding invites first, then shower invites.

I had the same question! AND despite the snarky posts, you can't find the answer on google. I always thought it was weird to receive a shower invitation before you know that you are actually invited to the wedding.

Did you send STDs? By the time someone gets a shower invitation, they should have long-ago received a STD, so they at least know they will be invited to the wedding. When I asked on here, that was majority of the responses I was getting!

If you did not send STDs, I would try to send them out at about the same time! Wedding invites should go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding.

My wedding is July 25 and my shower will be May 30. I'm planning to send out wedding invites in early May, so most likely my shower invites will go out around a similar time or get there first but...since my guests have STDs, I'm not as worried about it.

THANK YOU to those of you who were helpful and not snarky (and for seeing Google isn't much use bc yes I did try that first), much appreciated! This is something the host of my shower was wondering as she has her invites ready and my wedding invitations aren't going out until March 2nd. Thanks again!

We sent our invites out in Jan forour April wedding. Our shower was earlier (due to travel and it was an out of state) in November and the invits i believe went out in September- my FMIL wouldnt let me see them until the day of since there were surprises on there

Our wedding invites and shower invites went out around the same time. I had my wedding invites out a little sooner than normally, given some circumstances I have and the person working on the invites for my MOH ended up not being able to do them, so they were delayed about a week and half. So, ended up that they went out the same time. Really depending when your shower actually is compared to your wedding.

Thanks, I'll tell her she can send them whenever she wants bc I did send STDs and my wedding invites will be coming in a few weeks anyway

I think it all depends on timing. My shower is May 30 and my wedding is July 3 so they will likely go out about the same time.