Guests Substituting Guests... 0_o

You're almost there!! Some people are just flat out rude... I don't understand it.

Just say no.

@Sarah - Yeah, I'm so glad it's almost over! And people just don't get you have to pay per person...

@Celia - I am...but I hate being the bearer of bad news.

It's almost over.

Have your mom call them or if it's on DH side, ask him or his mom. But if it's a friend of yours, smack them upside the head and say, "Are you serious?!"

Yeah, that's not okay. I would call them and say that you are sorry that they won't be able to make it, but you aren't able to accommodate substitutions. Maybe mention you have other guests you would like to extend an invite to in the event that guests decline? (even if you don't).

Guh, I hope I don't get any of this weird crap with people inviting extras.

Haha I just went through this exact thing this morning some of Fh people pulled out yesterday and this morning they tell us they have "replacement guest" at this point I really dnt care..

I personally would just let it go. It's rude, but why be stressed? It's not costing you any more.

@Starbuck, more than the money spent is not wanting complete strangers at your wedding.

I had one guest substitution, a co-worker brought her daughter instead of her husband, but I knew the daughter as well as the husband, so it didn't make a difference. But I would feel the same as you, this is an intimate moment to be shared with those you love and care about -- we already usually have to have plus ones who are strangers (with hopes of people coming alone!), this is too much.

Almost there!!

Wow! I couldn't imagine doing that to someone! That is just wrong! We have a small guest list and I would be very upset if someone did that....don't people know some of us are on a tight budget!!

If you allowed the guest a plus one then IMO they should be able to bring whoever they want but that is only if you didn't specify who they could bring.

If the main guest decided not to come and invite someone in their place then that is not okay. I don't know why anyone would think they could do that anyways.

Yah. My favorite Aunt wanted to bring a "surprise" guest since my Uncle couldn't come...? WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA?

Me not knowing a few of my guests isn't going to ruin my day.

I won't know a few of the SOs that will be at my wedding. One of my closest friends moved to Seattle, his girlfriend is new to me. I like him so I trust I'll like his girlfriend....but honestly, if they weren't coming to the RD, I wouldn't have said hello to her for more than a few minutes anyway. It doesn't trip me up emotionally.

@OTW -Hahahahaa!! It's actually my MOH/cousin's bestfriend (who I also call my cousin because she's been around since I was little).

@Starbuck - Actually, if the initial guests or the subsitute guest didn't come, we would be saving money. We are paying per person for food and bar. But, money isn't the issue. I really don't know them that well. So, I'd rather not have them there at all.

@Paris, @Reenski - Thank goodness! I can see the beach at the end of the finish line! LOL!

@elllss80, @Michlele, @Briggitte, @Buffee - Why do people think this is ok?! UGH!

What is wrong with people? That's ridiculous... but you're almost there!

Related story: So a few years ago, one of FH's friends got married. One of their mutual friends who was invited apparently told the groom, "Well I can't make it, so I gave my invitation to XYZ" instead and then was totally thrown when he was told that was NOT okay. It was hilarious (though I bet the bride wasn't laughing). He still hasn't lived it down. FH already told him that he cannot transfer his invitation for our wedding.

Girl, that happened to me but other family members trying to invite other people when certain family weren't able to make it.. Beyond Rude!

Ugh i hear ya- I had the same crap happen. We told them they couldnt do that and that if there was room after we recieved all our invites, we would let them know. It was a money/space thing for us. You wouldn't believe the lengths these people went to to force us to invite this woman we had never heard of or met for his date. He got everyone in FHs family involved too. In the end, we had room and I so didn't want to invite her becuse of the stress they caused us but we allowed it to keep the drama at bay... I would never assume I could do that unless I got an "and guest" invite.

Breathe, on the day of, it wont matter and unless you are only having like 20 people, you wont notice the few you dont know.

I thought I was the only one this was happening too. and to make it worst they are doing it without talking to me. I knew the RSVPs were going to be trouble but this makes you go crazy.

Thi happened with one of our guests. I'm sort if hoping I never see her again even though she's FMILs best friend.

I am sending out my invites today and I worry this could happen. If we didn't invite the person you are passing your invite to, why do you think it is ok to invite them yourself. Plain rude. I am sorry this is happening to you. You can make the decision if you are ok with it or not. If not, tell them that it is a space/money issue and sorry that you can't accommodate them.