Guests Substituting Guests... 0_o

What are these peope thinking?

I just don't get it. I mean, before planning a wedding, I didn't know all of the "ettiquette" rules of being a guest, but I have never thought it was ok to extend my invite to someone else to send in my place to any event. Yo would think that was just common sense...right?

Yikes. I hope that doesn't happen to me. You are almost there though. Then you can enjoy your day

I can't wrap my head around how someone can actually think that is cool?!

Ive had this happen with 1 response so far. The couple has been recently married and the husband lives in another country right now (has been trying to move to Canada for several years now).... my friend asked if it was okay if she bring another person instead of her husband (and this "substitution" is someone I know well and like... however, just couldn't invite her due to #'s). If it was anyone else who had requested to bring a substitution, I would have absolutely been annoyed and probably would have said no but for this friend, I absolutely empathize with her situation. I know that it is already very hard on her not having her husband here and to have to attend an event alone where she would not know anyone else, I was completely fine with her wanting to bring another lady in lieu of her husband.

Are you all offended when people ask? Or when they assume? or Both?

My fiance's family is kind of like this they are inviting everyone and their brother INCLUDING a SITTER?!

I don't think I've ever heard of substituting guests (at least not who the invitation is address to), but maybe that's because I didn't want to believe people would have so little consideration. Wow. What an awful thing to deal with so close to your wedding! I'm pretty sure I'd flip, and then I'd be the one called a "bridezilla."

@Candice as my FH says especially in this planning process "Sense is not that common" lol

This was brought up yesterday and I thought...what in the blue hell is wrong with people!? it is truly mind boggling.

These are my few reasons I would be upset.

~money

~don't like the person they asked

~don't know the person

~if their significant other cannot make it then that leaves room for someone else I might want to invite.

These people should be calling you and saying...hey my husband can't make it can I bring XX??? how freaking hard is that to do?

I'm sorry to hear this. I had to tell a close family friend that these are not concert tickets these are invitations to my wedding. You do not need to find someone to take your cousins placr at my wedding

I know I'm going to feel your pain in the near future. My response is always going to be NO!!!! I have a loooong list of people I can invite. I'm paying too much per person to have someone there I/we didn't invite

@Starbuck - What exactly are you asking? If the guest assume or ask what?

@Danielle , @diane - I'm totally fine with a guest substituting their plus 1 (I mean, I can't get mad if I give them a plus one and they don't bring the person I originally thought they would bring). But this particular guest didn't substitute a plus 1, they actually "transferred" BOTH of their seats to two new guests who weren't even invited. Now that's an issue!

@Sherry - Oh NO!! I made that clear at the beginning of planning..CLOSE family and friends only.

@jennirose - I know right?! At this point, with 22 days to go, I'm kinda expecting things to go wrong and to deal with difficult situations...and things are/have...but I'm rolling with the punches.

@Ikea - RIGHT!! I'm giving people too much credit! LOL!

@Courtney - Hahahaahaha! Concert tickets!? But you are so right though.

@His Mrs A - Yes, just start getting prepared now, because it's coming..

Not cool. I know we will most likely have a "waiting list" for guests, so that would not fly. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Depending on who the guest is that transferred the invite, could you ask them to pass the word along? It'd have to be someone close to you though.

No one I invited better even think about inviting someone else to my wedding because I will definitely turn into a bridezilla. When my friend got married her groom's sister wanted to invited her new boyfriend to their wedding. They both said absolutely not. This is for close family and friends only. The sister chose to miss her brother's wedding because of it. How sad!

The way I see it, there's no harm in asking, ever. However, if the couple says no, you should definitely stop pushing it. It absolutely does not merit a tearful phone call to H's mom. That causes H's mom to then call and yell at him. Then H eventually caves, of course, and you end up with two people (one of whom no one knows) coming after the ceremony and leaving before pie! Ok...done my mini-vent now. Didn't realize I still had all that in me!

That's totally insane that they wanted to substitute BOTH their seats! I mean...it's almost so ridiculous that you almost have to laugh about that one.

17 days to go..very very intimate family table lunch only 15 invited and my fiance niece aged 24 tells me if her fiance can't come she's bringing her best friend as she can't drive the 2 hours without someone with her!,I said it's a small family day her friend will feel awkward she said they're all strangers to her as well , as she hasn't met my family before...knowing how much it means to my fiance to have her daughter as a bridesmaid I have been forced to say her friend can come...even tho I don't like it,and she planned it before asking oh is that ok...this stranger will be coming to our home before and after the wedding so my fiance gets to spend time with his niece and great niece...trapped in a situation I have no choice but to hope her fiance will come..