My flower girl cries….a lot. Concerned about her during ceremony.

My suggestion would be for the baby to be carried down the aisle by her mother, and then handed off to someone else when the processional is over. That way your MOH doesn't have to hold her the whole time, and then the someone else can remove her from the ceremony space if she cries.

@FutureMrsPrice Her father is a groomsman! So he can't take her out either

And I don't want her to be passed off to my parents because I *really* don't want them to miss my ceremony.

And if she is passed off to someone less familiar (an aunt maybe) she will freak the f out immediately. Especially if her mom and dad are both within eyesight and they won't come get her.

I agree with Elle, if you are going to have her as the flower girl no matter what I would have someone else take her at the end.

I just read your comment, is there anyone else the flower girl knows and feels comfortable with that can take her during that time?

You should designate someone to hold her. It doesn't have to be your parents. At my cousins wedding her brother and his wife (who have five kids) were both in the bridal party. So I was volunteered to be the person that watched them. If they needed to be removed, I would have been the person to do it.

We are having FHs sister's son as our RB. He will be about the same age 15 months. FSIL will carry him in and then he will go to her boyfriend when she reaches the front, so she can join the BP.

ETA: typos

I can see her just totally freaking out if my MOH passes her off to someone. Ugh. I guess we can give it a shot? lol

Just read your comment: Unfortunately, there isn't better options other than a) not have her as a flower girl b) have someone else hold her.

Since neither of the above are an option, and the child is 100% guaranteed to start crying, you're kind sol :/

Did you not think about this when you chose her to be the flower girl? All I can say is good luck..

Your ceremony is 4 months away. A child who cries a lot at 11 months may well have grown out of it at 15 (or her parents may have found ways (like a drink, food, game, or book), to distract her out of it). Since you don't have a lot of other alternatives, I'd just focus on staying optimistic.

^ True that

Have your MOH bring the foolproof cry-stopper. If that's a bottle, then she needs that. If that's a stuffed toy, have that waiting at the front. Obviously you can't work around the fact that she's a crier. So give her something to keep her happy, and consider making the ceremony speedy.

If you insist that she be a flower girl and she still cries a lot by the time of the wedding, sounds like she either needs to be handed off or you'll need to get used to the idea of a crying flower girl.

Sounds like a recipe for disaster to me.

I understand that it's not ideal but she's my sisters daughter, and I love her to death. Having her be a part of my wedding is more important than some potential crying. I guess the best option is for my sister/MOH to walk her down the aisle then pass her off to a family member. And then we pray. Lol

Crying in the back of a room is one thing. Crying right up front with your MOH holding her while you exchange vows is a whole other thing.

@Monica it sure is! I'm going to ask my sister to pass her off to someone seated, so they can leave if she starts to lose it. I'll probably ask my stepmom if she will be in charge of the flower girl for the ceremony.

Is it important to you that she has the role of flower girl or is it important that she just be present on your wedding? Obviously she's too young to remember your wedding and how important of a day it is for you and won't remember walking down the aisle or not, so if you are worried about her crying or being easily upset by not being held by her mom or dad during the ceremony, maybe skip on having her come down the aisle as a flower girl and have her in the care of another family member who can easily remove her if need be, and then just have her present after the ceremony for family pictures.

ETA: At least at the weddings that I've been to, people do not "quickly remove" fussy babies, as you put it. They usually try soothing and console it for a while and after that doesn't work, they will remove the child. As a guest trying to enjoy the intimacy of the ceremony, it is really annoying to have a fussy child and then a caregiver sshhing and cooing to calm them. Something else to consider - while you love your niece to death, others may not be too thrilled about her crying.

FH's niece will be our flower girl. We hired her before she was born and she will be 11 months old at the wedding.

She will definitely not be up front during the ceremony, I am pretty sure she is easily consoled by a soother. I agree that there should be something familiar to her available during the ceremony, like a soother, bottle, special blanket, or teether.

Is there enough time before the wedding for her to get used to someone else? If you can figure out who she'd get passed off to sooner rather than later, then you could have the person come to visit her so that the person isn't a stranger.