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My flower girl cries….a lot. Concerned about her during ceremony.

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C&S, on February 21, 2015 at 10:38 PM

My beautiful niece will be the flower girl at my wedding. She will be 15 months old by the time our wedding comes, so she will come down the aisle with the MOH (her mom) then my MOH will hold her throughout the ceremony. The more I think about it, the more concerned I am because, well, she cries…a...

The more I think about it, the more concerned I am because, well, she cries…a lot. She has always been a fussy baby. She rarely goes 10 minutes without starting to cry. She's gone to the doctor and everything is fine, she's just easily upset. I'm sure she'll grow out of this, but likely not before the wedding.

Usually if there's a crying baby during a ceremony, the person quickly removes them from the room, but if my MOH is holding her, she obviously can't just leave the room. And my flower girl will be RIGHT next to FH and I, so if she starts to freak out, it will really mess with the video/audio. Also, our ceremony time happens to be during one of her nap times. Great.

Not having her as a flower girl isn't an option. Any suggestions on what to do here?

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FutureMrs.DCT · on February 22, 2015 at 10:36 AM
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I was just going to suggest what Alyssa says. Have her get used to someone else prior to the ceremony so if she is handed off it won't be so traumatic.
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Celia Milton · on February 22, 2015 at 10:42 AM
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If you love her that much, then don't make her do this. You're not proving your love for her by putting her in a situation that may be terrifying and disturbing to her. (Though I agree; the way she is now may not be the way she is in four months...or four minutes....)

Seriously. let her walk or be carried down the aisle if you HAVE to have that, and then whisked off before she starts to cry. In my experience, most adult caretakers are loathe to leave the ceremony no matter how disruptive a baby can be (it's not their fault, they're babies after all....). They always think it's going to stop and it rarely does.

Being 'pretty sure' isn't good enough. The ceremony, besides it's obvious importance, is the focus of the day, it's expensive, and highly planned. To have that all derailed by the whimsical behavior of a little baby who would be more comfortable elsewhere is really sort of silly.

I'm not trying to sound mean about this, but it sounds like you're going to be worried about this for the next four months, which is really counterproductive and steals the time you have to worry about the other zillion things that will crop up. I'd say go with the most conservative plan, know that you'll have a beautiful, calm ceremony, and move on to worry about other stuff.
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