Discussions from Etiquette and Advice

We are planning an A list and B list guest list (where we send our A list guests their invitations, see how many RSVP, and then send out invites to the B list as our A list declines). Would we send...

My fiance and I are scheduled to get married next year. This will be my second marriage and his first. I have seen that tradition says grooms family pays for flowers and entertainment (or whatever...

Hi everyone! I am getting married on a Saturday in a busy area outside of Charlotte, NC. Anyone who knows the area will tell you traffic is a NIGHTMARE. All of our guests are coming from out of town...

Hi everyone. Ok, I need to know if I'm being unreasonable or not. So, on Sept 13, 2018 (very recent!) my fiance and I got married at a private ceremony which consisted of me, FH, the officiant, and my...

So it's only 5 days until my wedding day and I don't feel anything. Is that normal? Just came back from having my bachelorette weekend with the girls which was a blast... But everyone keeps asking me...

We are working on our RSVPs and I’m stuck on how to ask who will be attending. I want to make it easy for families and having to write everyone’s names on one line could be tricky, but I feel like...

So my aunt sent us an engagement gift. Is it appropriate to send a thank you note, or would it be okay to just give her a call? (She lives across the country, so seeing her in person wouldn't be an...

I have a huge family and we’re all close. Just my side of the family is over fifty people not counting kids and wives/husbands exc... Add in my fiancé’s family, then our friends, and it's a lot of...

Long story short...my sister and I have not been on speaking terms for the past 6 months. We have not been on GOOD terms for the last year. Back in January she backed out of my wedding when she found...

I've been married since December, but didn't have a wedding! My husband is in the military so we got married on his holiday leave. I didn't have anyone at the courthouse and no one knew because I...

Hi ladies/gents, I am not trying to be judgmental or anything of that sort for feeling this way about this topic, so please give me guidance if I am wrong. ( I just want to make sure my fiancée and...

I have a Zola website and I can put a bio on the front page. A lot of my family and friends have never met my fiancé and a lot of his family and friends have never met me. I thought it would be nice...

I really just cannot get along with my sister and if she is a bridesmaid I think I will die! But if I don't I know there will be a huge uproar, and it will ruin everything for sure. Then my cousin...

I'm sure this has been asked before, but how to I make my solo walk down the aisle not awkward? My family disapproves of my choices. They are not helping me pay for my wedding, and I am not even 100%...

Hey friends, I am going to the wedding of FH's cousin this weekend and I am not really sure what to wear. She definitely wanted to go for a "fall" theme but I mean it is still 90 degrees outside and...

I just received my invitation to my friend's wedding, which will be ON Yom Kippur. Not the day before/after Yom Kippur, but ON friggin' Yom Kippur! She told me about this over a year ago, so I already...

Just something I'm thinking about in terms of addressing invites... I always thought it would be less formal to put someone's nickname on an invitation but now I'm wondering if it is weird to address...

First, I would like to point out that I am in the VERY early stages of planning, and have only been engaged for a month. We made a guest list up just to get an idea of how much money we would need to...

Anyone else struggling with the order of their bridesmaids? I don't want anyone to feel less important than anyone else. I don't want to hurt anyone else's feelings either. How did you decide? I have...

We're doing an open bar at a non-traditional venue, so we have to bring in a "mobile bar service." We are also responsible for providing all of the alcohol. Our dilemma is how much should the tip be?...