“number of guests” wording?

We included a "we reserved __ seats in your honor" as well as "number attending__" and then a line for "Names____" that way they know exactly how many people!

You can always do “___ of ___ attending” and fill in the second number before sending them out.

Though I still had someone ask if they could bring an extra person...

I had an issue with this as well, my fiance's farther is one of 12 children so his side alone including cousins would have been over 100 guests through his side alone and our attendance was maxed at 150.

The biggest thing was putting those who you intended to invite on the envelope (even kids), then that kind of gives them an idea who in the household is invited.

For the most part we didn't send out a lot of the physical RSVP's, just the ones to aunts/uncles/grandma's that would be technologically savy. The majority of the RSVP's were done on Minted through the wedding website we made there. I loved that you could put a cap on how many people someone could say they were bringing and it did come in handy (A cousin noticed the site would only let her mark 2 people as attending but she wanted to bring her 4 kids we didn't know about) I also added a question for people to fill out and list the names of those in the party. That way if they selected the "2" in the drop down menu, I would know if they were planning on bringing more people should they believe the cap a website error and ignore it.

We did __ of __ attending , and filled in the second number

We included the attending/declining line for them to check mark and then a line for them to write out the names of guests coming. We also put on the bottom "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor." that we will fill in with the number before we send them. This way people know we only allowed "4" seats for them, so they cannot bring more than 4 people. It also helps writing the names of all of those invited to avoid confusion.

What I've most commonly seen is "___ out of ___ guests will be attending" and the bride & groom fill out the second line to show how many people are invited.

View Quoted Comment We did this, however we still had one family write in a bigger number. Lol. It said __ of 2 attending, the rsvp we received had “5 of 2” with a line and a question mark through the two? 😅 I had a feeling they would do this despite FH saying they knew their (mostly teen aged kids) weren’t invited and were fine with it so thankfully I accounted for it in our headcount.

We also did the "__ seats are reserved in your honor" as well as the "__ of ___ will attend" So far we haven't had any problems with that part. Most guests were thinking ahead and did RSVP with the names of anyone attending (kids, a plus one, etc.) A few people only responded with their own name and when we asked if they knew who they would be bringing they said they weren't sure yet. We just asked anyone (by email, phone, etc.) that if before the wedding they could make sure to get us the name so we can make sure to give them a seating assignment.