Sister Drama-she won't come to the wedding

I do not want kids at my wedding either but if it was me I would not come to the wedding.....I would not leave my new born baby at home with a sitter.....I am assuming that most close family member will be at the wedding....It is your wedding but you could probably make an exception for your sister

From my dad telling me how much of a B!tCh i'm being and that this is my sister and she should be aloud to bring the baby. He told me that if I was going to be that way, that he would just tell them not to come at all, so now my own flesh and blood won't come to my special day. I know it's selfish in a way, but this is my wedding, my day, and I want it to be perfect. I hate weddings where babies are crying or little kids are running around the reception hall. I'm sorry, I do not like children. I did not grow up around them. Babies scare me and make me crazy nervous. I don't want to be uncomfortable at my own wedding. Am I asking that much of her to find a sitter for 5 hours?!?!

Her MIL lives literally a mile away, there is no reason to not find a sitter.

Are you close to your sister....Yes, I think that is a lot to ask of her leaving her newborn baby at home

No, you are not asking for too much. I applaud you for taking a stance.

I don't think you are asking too much at all! I don't think i would want to bring my newborn baby to a wedding where people will be drinking and dancing and such... My brother and SIL will have a baby around 6 months old by the time my wedding comes around... and I highly doubt they will bring it (I call it "it" because they wont find out what "it" is lol) I am sure they will have a sitter... and I am not even asking them too, I just think they will because it will be easier on THEM and they get a night out with no kids!

Ill be honest I would not leave my 6 week old baby home with anyone, at 6 weeks the babies really do still need there mothers especially if she is breast feeding. I would skip out on the wedding to if you didnt allow me to bring my newborn.

Young infants and mothers need to be together. I think 5 hours is expecting too much.

I mean.... maternity leave a lot of times ends at 6 weeks and mothers go back to work leaving their 6 week old baby with someone else to watch.... I don't see what the difference is.... a typical work day is 8 hours.... and I doubt the wedding and reception is going to be any longer than that.... so.... yeah... I don't think it's a big deal... especially since you mentioned her MIL could probably watch her... it's family... not like a teen baby sitter she hired for the night

We are not allowing children except FH cousins newborn most likely the baby will sleep the whole time anyways. As a mother 5 hours away from a newborn is hard. I dont think its fair for you to be mad at her for not coming. I would do the same thing in her place

You are NOT asking too much. The baby is not invited, plain and simple. The baby will be a few months old at the time of the wedding. It can be left with a trusted sitter.

When my daughter was born, we had a Christmas part to go to. It was 2 weeks after she was born. We went, my daughter stayed with my parents, who were very happy to have her stay with them. We went to the party for a couple of hours and excused ourselves a bit earlier than the other guests.

Life does not stop when one has a baby AND parents can be away from a "newborn" for a few hours. Your sister needs to put on her big girl panties and either come to the wedding without the baby, or miss the event and regret it later.

I also agree with you. I don't think you are being selfish at all. I would take that stand as well. As a mother of 2, I had no issues leaving a newborn with either grandparent for a few hours when I had to go to the doctors or run a few errands. If anything, it gave me some me/us time. Stand your ground.

At 6 weeks it is hard to leave your baby, I don't think you should be mad at her for not coming. The baby will probably sleep the entire time.

Obviously I don't know all of your dynamics..but it is your SISTER's new baby. life is too short..maybe she can stay outside the ceremony with it so it doesn't cry. Do you feel like the baby would steal your thunder during the reception? if so I do kinda get that.

Really though.. what is going to happen to the baby if she leaves it for five hours??? it's not like it's going to forget about her! and like everyone keeps saying... it will probably sleep the whole time anyway... so what's the difference if it is sleeping at its grandmas house or at a wedding with a lot of loud (maybe) drunk people???

I'm not so much mad that she isn't coming, it's that she won't tell me shes not, I have to hear it 2nd hand thru my parents. She's known since june 2010 that children are not invited. Her MIL is not far away, and her SIL is about 15 minutes away. I would not bring a 6 week old baby, so I expect the same out of her.

I would allow her to bring the baby. I have an adults only reception but my niece (6yrs) will definitely be there ...I won't be happy if someone as close as her isn't sharing this special time with me.

I think you have every right to be mad at her, this is your sister and she needs to get over herself and let the in laws have the baby for a night, hell she'll probably thank you afterwords

If she is mature enough to have a baby, then ya, she should be mature enough to talk it out with you in a civil manner, not whine to mommy and daddy. hmm well although, plenty of immature people have babies.

I'm not even asking her to be gone all night. Dinner is at 6, she can eat, watch us cut the cake, have our first dance, and leave. Hell, she doesn't even have to come to the reception. Just come to the ceremony. I understand she is a new mothers, and she worries, but the baby will be fine with the grandma for a little bit!! And like everyone else has said..more than likely she will be sleeping!!!