Sister Drama-she won't come to the wedding

Hey almost date twin...not that I know your personal situation but I think that whatever results in the least amount of drama for your family is the best decision. I share your pain of having the parents call you everytime a sibling gets pissy! You don't want negativity and drama on your day, you have to pick your battles. Would you rather have ppl say "Jessica's such a jerk her own sister couldn't come to her wedding bc she wouldn't let her bring her baby!" OR "Can you believe Jessica's sister brought a baby to a wedding? Who does that!?"....your choice though it's your day.

I'm sorry you are having to deal with this Jessica, sometimes it hard having sisters especailly the ones that think the world should revolve around them, like you said she had her day, her way & I would remind her of that fact. She didn't want children there & it sounds like she didn't give in for anyone. One of my sisters refused to give me the name of her guest for the assigned seating (only family tables & BP) so when my DOC asked her for it (after she refused to give it to me) she called me bitching & said that she felt it would be best if she just didn't come, Whatever! I'm not going to beg anyone & if my parents were to say anything which they have not yet.. I will tell them exactly that, but I'm definitely not close to my sister. That said if you do want her there I would make one last attempt to tell her that you would like her there but that just like her you do not want babies there, I breastfed & was back at work by 6 weeks pumps are a wonderful thing.

Did you guys stop being close when she found out she was pregnant? Did you have a problem with the pregnancy? It seems you are a little mad that she got pregnant and it would affect your wedding. Is this her punishment for having your neice?

Just wondering, your wedding your decision.

We stopped taking once her husband disrespected me and I told him yo stop treating me like a child. That he wasnt being asked to be in the wedding because of his attitude towards me. Things hit the fan after that.

I have to agree with Pumpkin on this one. To me, it seems like you care way more about getting your way and making a point than anything else. Tell me, in 10 years are you going to look back on your wedding day and wish you sister had been there or remember how great it was to not have kids. I think you have your priorities mixed up.

If your sister said her husband disrespected you, would you side with your husband or your sister?

Are you acting like a child?

Wow I'm really shocked by alot of the "not so kind" posts, I've seen plenty of brides post that there wedding will be "ADULT ONLY" and they got lots of support ... if her rule is NO kids then it shouldn't matter who's kids they are.. I don't think she is trying to punish her sister.. who had the same no kids policy at her wedding... A baby is not going to be effected because its grandmother watches it for a few hours. What is she going to tell her boss when she doesn't want to leave the baby at home? Its her (OP's) decision and calling her names isn't helping anything.

Sorry from now on I will be hearts and butterflies all the time. Stepford person right here. Better?

Victoria- I think the whole immaturity comment has more to do with how she is handling the situation than that the situation exists. When she got the RSVP from her sister she MESSAGED her sister and told her the baby was not invited. Then she goes on to say her sister "went crying to mommy and daddy" which is not a mature thing to say about your sister. And lastly, she stopped talking to her sister because her sister did not take her side against her husband when he was treating her like a child.

These are the marks of immaturity.

People are getting way to over protective on this issue. I dont see a reason for any person involved to get catty

Pumpkin, exactly. Very well stated.

Candice I didn't say you should be all sunshine and roses but once you state your opinion is it really necessary to badger the OP... It seems you won't leave her alone until she admits that she is behaving like a child so that you can WIN... JMO @Pumpkin... maybe its because I have sisters that like to go running to mommy and daddy anytime they have an issue with anyone (I have 3 sisters 2 of which like to do this) that I can understand her statment and honestly if my husband was being an ass to anyone in my family I would have a talk with him... I don't think you need to choose sides at all.. I can be happily married to a man who does not care for my sister with out treating my sister badly...

You are wrong pumpkin. Her husband treating be badly happened last july. We had a rocky relationship after that but stillspoke. we stopped talking in february when she the a fit about bridesmaid dresses and backed out of my wedding.

Victoria, I asked her a question. I wasn't badgering her.

Sorry that my question bothered you so much.

There are always two sides to every story and have you ever noticed that when you only here one side, that person is the angel and the other party was 100% wrong.

I just quoted you Jessica: "We stopped taking once her husband disrespected me and I told him yo stop treating me like a child. "

Victoria, read her post, she said he treated her badly, and since her sister didn't kick him to the curb, it seems she is mad at her sister.

@Everyone...when did this become a discussion about how mature/immature the poster is, and why? She asked for advice on what to do, does it honestly matter? I thought we were here to build eachother up.

@Jessica...I understand how you are feeling. but time and a lunch with your sister may be all that is needed to work this all out. Maybe if you let her bring the baby to the rehersal dinner she may be more relaxed about leaving her home for the wedding. She may be sticking to this so that family coming in who hasn't met the baby gets a chance, and she may just be really nervous about leaving her first child. But until you both sit down together and talk about how you each are feeling you can't come to a compromise. I still think you should stick to your guns and not have the baby at the wedding, but at the end of the day it is your relationship with your family.

Well Romona, sometimes I think admitting your own mistakes and immaturity can help you get through a difficult family situation. If she can admit to herself that she is being immature, then maybe her sister will meet her halfway.

Thank you romona. I didnt know people could get so defensive over an issue that isn't theirs.

I came here looking for advice...not to be put on trial of who is wrong or right.