Corsages for Aunts?

I think you can just be honest and say exactly that. "We will be having corsages just for our mothers as a special distinction. It isnt typical for people not in the bridal party to have a corsage or boutonniere and we would like to follow that."

I would hate if FH's aunts has a corsage and mine didn't, even if his offered to pay for theirs.

View Quoted Comment That's basically how I'm feeling. I'm really close to 2 of my aunts, as they have no children, but I'm not having corsages for them.
My sister's advice was a bit more blunt. "Just tell her no, that's not what we do in America."

I would call and discuss it with your FMIL. If this is a big deal to her, then it’s an easy way to include some of your FH’s family traditions into your wedding. I would think they could be smaller than the mom’s. If you decide to do them, then include your aunts as well. I don’t know of the custom but it seems a nice sentiment to the women who perhaps had a hand in raising both you and FH.

American here and we included our aunts because we really close with them. They’re basically second moms. I made our mom’s different and slightly larger then the grandmothers have theirs and aunts have theirs. We wanted to honor family members close to us.

View Quoted Comment Katie’svadvise was perfect. Your sister’s advice isn’t blunt, it’s just rude.

One of the few open criticisms of my plans that my FMIL made, after I asked her if I planned anything I should change, or missed anything, was an Immediate, well the grandmothers and great aunts have no corsages on order, nor my SIL ( FI's aunts. ) All but 1 and FMIL being older widows coming without SO, I had planned for them to be seated as they arrived by ushers, as well as a couple of older women friends, and older women of my family. But not flowers. They are all first and second generation Italian immigrants from NY NJ. Since my FMIL had asked for nothing, criticized nothing, and was our champion when anyone else tried, intervening and saying, it was our wedding, stay out! I ordered the corsages for all FI older female relatives, though no one in my family would wear them, so it had planned only MIL corsage. But the budget had a little room. And such a little concession when FI whole side was so good about not interfering, and ,every single RSVP for FI 60 invitees, and their 101 children was in our hands on the 8 th day after invitations went out. Which had pleased us no end. These ladies all trained their children and grandchildren well! Maybe think about adding flowers or a small keepsake pin for these older women family.

I haven't seen aunts wear them, but it just depends on each family. If you want your 6 aunts and his 3 aunts to wear them, they can! But if not, I'd just tell her you both decided on only the mothers & bridesmen wearing them.

We are having corsages just for our mothers.