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You don't put it on the invite (because it does look tacky) instead spread it word of mouth or if you have a wedding website you could list them on there.

If you are having a bridal shower, whoever is throwing it can throw the cards of where you registered in with that invite so people know where you are registered.

Thanks, Nda_r and Bayridgeqt,
You're both right.

i dont know if its proper but i put a buisness card with ours names wedding date and wedding website like a reminder card and the web site has our honeymoon registry info and in case people dont notice that a 5pm is a little more dressed up attire we added little info like that

do what you wanna dont let people tell u what to do i am putting a little note in r std and invites only because people have asked if i would let them know where to go to get us wedding gifts

nda is 100% correct. Putting registry info on the wedding invitation is tacky.

If you think your guests will be completely confused without registry information in the invitation, you can go as far as include an insert saying "For further wedding information please visit our website at xxx". Anything more than that crosses over the tacky line. But, I wouldn't include an insert just for that, I'd only do it if you had other inserts for hotels/reception card, etc.

We decided to make an "about us" thing and we put a little bit about how we met, how we got engaged, our parents' names, and our wedding website/registry information on it. Then we are going to stick that into our invitations. We're only doing that because of the people we really don't talk to a lot and because word of mouth doesn't spread to another state when the family doesn't talk regularly.

I actually have to agree that it is a little tacky to put registry info on your invites. If you read any etiquette books, sites, etc, they all tell you not to put it. Instead, do like the pp said, put it on a wedding website. Or spread by word of mouth. That's what we did and we only got a couple things not from our registry (and those that bought from outside the registry only did so b/c Dillards was out of some of our stuff).

You're not supposed to put it in your invitation but if you're not having a shower or a wedding website, there's really no other choice, just try to do it discreetly!

I have put 3 questions on webwire in the last week, and you have all been so kind to write to me. Thank you so much. I have gotten good advice and have been able to go from there with each problem. I think for a while now, I'll be good to go with my stuff.
Good luck to all of you with your weddings.
KD in PD

I put a card in my invite that listed where we are registered. I totally don't see it as tacky. Its a wedding, you give gifts. That is just the way it goes. And people want to know where you're registered. Maybe 20 years ago it wasn't proper. But c'mon, things have changed there are no rules anymore. If you want people to know then put it in there. Would you ever open a wedding invite with registy info and think "omg that is so tacky!" I doubt it. :o)

"If you think your guests will be completely confused without registry information in the invitation, you can go as far as include an insert saying "For further
wedding information please visit our website at xxx".

That's what we did

Even if you don't have a wedding website you still should not put it on the invite. It can be spread word of mouth and most people know to check the traditional places.

Would you have birthday party and put your bday list on the invites?

Children do now a days because they can register at places like toys r us. I've seen it. There are plenty of people out there who don't use the internet. And not everyone knows someone who is going to the wedding so I don't think word of mouth works either. If I'm invited to a wedding I want to know where I should purchase their gift at. I want to know.

Eh. I feel invites should have a cleaner, more formal feel. Something that can appear gift grabby like that doesn't seem formal to me. I've never had a problem figuring out where someone was registered.

Also I want to add that you shouldn't put it ON the invite. Because then it is there forever and no that isn't pretty/nice/formal. But putting a card in the envelope with your registy info is fine by me.

I have seen it in the bridal shower invitations. And also I have seen it just on a little card stating something like,
"This couple is registered at Target, Wal Mart, and Macy's"
And the card is just put inside of the envelope, loose and free :)
I don't think this is tacky at all. If I were to get an invitation and it didn't state where you were registered I wouldn't go searching for the information, I would just give you cash. Or maybe that's just 'cuz I'm a little on the lazy side haha

The reason you can put it in a shower invitation is because gifts are expected. It cannot go in the wedding invitation because that implies that you expect a gift. So no matter what year we are living in, this is wrong.

I am sorry but you expect gifts at your wedding. You just do. You can say "just being there is good enough for us" And I TOTALLY agree with that. But still, it is a wedding, you give a gift.