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The Big Wedding -what to call it?
Nancy, on April 10, 2021 at 11:20 PM

Last year bc of Covid we had a very small wedding or minimony. This year we are going ahead w the ‘big wedding’ and reception. But what do we call it? Marriage Blessing, Vow Renewal, Wedding Blessing...

Julia, Jun 22, 2022 16 1,179 1
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Broken contracts
Allyssa, on June 18, 2022 at 7:46 PM

My husband and I got married April 9. Our videographer said that we would get our wedding video back in about 4 to 6 weeks on one email. The contract says 6 to 8 weeks with a due date of June 2. There...

S, Jun 21, 2022 5 594
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How to get head counts for destination wedding in order to book room blocks
Juliana, on June 19, 2022 at 1:34 PM

Hello Wedding community, I am currently planning a destination wedding in the Cancun, Mexico area with my fiance. He has an obscenely large family, 15 aunts/uncles, and 66 first cousins. We wanted a...

S, Jun 21, 2022 9 1,636
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Kids at wedding
Danielle, on June 20, 2022 at 11:14 PM

We have children of our own who will be 18, 15, 13, 8 at the time of the wedding. Neither of us have been married. I do not want any other children at our wedding besides ours who are in the wedding....

Sarah, Jun 21, 2022 7 705
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Thank you gift for shower hostess
Sarah, on June 15, 2022 at 8:30 PM

Are you/did you get thank you gifts for your shower host/hostesses? I didn’t really think about it until now and my first shower is less than 2 weeks away. Each of our moms are graciously throwing us...

Melle, Jun 21, 2022 11 1,734
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Bridesmaid gifts!
Morgan, on June 19, 2022 at 4:56 PM

Hi everyone! I’m just a few weeks away from our big day and I have finally bought everything for my bridesmaids gifts. I’m gifting them either hair or makeup professionally done, pajamas, slippers, a...

Morgan, Jun 19, 2022 9 638
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Placecards - How to Differentiate Two Guests with Same Name
Rosemary, on March 1, 2018 at 12:08 PM

I'm starting to put together our alphabetized list of names for place cards and realized that we have two pairs of guests with the same name (two John Smiths). Neither are jr/sr pairs and I am stumped...

Jill, Jun 19, 2022 11 3,298
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Tips for catering staff?
Whitney, on June 16, 2022 at 7:49 AM

The catering company says it charges a "labor fee," which is "not a percentage service charge on your invoice." It notes that the "personnel charge covers the staff members’ wages, taxes and...

Imani, Jun 18, 2022 7 669
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"Thank you" card advice for a new venue coordinator
Hailey, on June 18, 2022 at 9:08 PM

As a new wedding venue coordinator, i need advice on writing thank you cards to my just-married clients. I Believe an important part of my job is showing appreciation to the couples that choose our...

Imani, Jun 18, 2022 2 101
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How long is normal to wait for Video and Photos?
gina, on June 27, 2019 at 3:15 PM

It's been almost 9 weeks since I got married, but I have not gotten back the majority of my photos. Also, I am waiting on my video as well. Both vendors post of social media, and I have seen several...

Allyssa, Jun 18, 2022 6 3,038
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Who gets a getting ready outfit?
Paige, on June 6, 2022 at 5:42 PM

Hello everyone! If you're getting robes, PJs, etc. for getting ready, who all are you getting them for? I'm definitely planning to get something for my bridesmaids, but my mom and grandma will be...

Jacks, Jun 18, 2022 12 1,107
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Tipping Etiquette
Jess, on June 17, 2022 at 1:17 PM

When handing out tips at the end of the ceremony, if the planner isn't the one that is handling it, how do you go about that? I always feel so awkward just handing someone a bunch of cash, and I would...

Michelle, Jun 18, 2022 6 639
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Inviting Groomsmen's Plus One
Alisha, on June 8, 2022 at 9:37 AM

This is a venting/ question post. So please bare with me.... Wondering if any of you have run into this situation before? and how you would resolve this. We are giving most of our friends an option to...

Alisha, Jun 17, 2022 26 1,545
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Unasking a Bridesmaid??
Boo, on June 15, 2022 at 4:12 PM

If you're newly engaged and reading this, please take my advice and WAIT to ask friends to be in your wedding party. If you've been through something like this for your own wedding, I'd love to get...

Kelly, Jun 17, 2022 7 716 1
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Best Woman
Shannon, on June 13, 2022 at 1:24 PM

I’m referring to our Maid of honor, as “Best Woman”. I find Matron and Maid to be so antiquated. She agrees. We are only having a Best Man and Best Woman only. I put notes on a spreadsheet referring...

Shannon, Jun 16, 2022 13 259
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Grass Warning! How to tell guests not to wear pointy shoes on the website?
Clara, on March 4, 2021 at 12:44 PM

Hello WeddingWire! Putting together my wedding website for our August wedding, and I have a q for you. Our ceremony and cocktail hour are outdoors on grass, and our contact at the venue mentioned we...

Meghan, Jun 16, 2022 34 17,207
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Rehearsal Dinner Advice
EGD, on June 14, 2022 at 10:19 AM

I posted previously that I was unsure of what to do for my rehearsal dinner in regards to an open bar or cash bar, but I was ultimately hoping my FH's parents would host the rehearsal dinner, however,...

Frederic, Jun 15, 2022 26 1,413
Dajah
8 months notice for destination wedding
Dajah, on June 13, 2022 at 8:31 PM

Hi Everyone, My fiance and I are having a dilemma. We settled on having a destination wedding in either Jamaica or Miami of 2023 (and leaning towards Jamaica because it's cheaper). Due to hurricane...

Shannon, Jun 14, 2022 7 807
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No gift at the shower?
carriemichelle, on April 30, 2016 at 8:11 PM

I had my bridal shower today. Everything went alright, until it came time to open my gifts. I opened one by one, personally thanking the person upon opening them. It dawned on me then that I hadn't...

Karim, Jun 14, 2022 51 6,378
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The Waltz and a ball gown
Rennyrenrennerson, on October 23, 2016 at 8:28 AM

My FH and I are doing the Viennese Waltz for our first dance. We are pretty good but I'm stressing on doing it in my ballgown. I am afraid of tripping on my dress. Do any of you have tips on this? TIA...

Dress4dance, Jun 14, 2022 9 1,254
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