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Am i wrong for getting married before my sister's?

Wagjarg, on July 3, 2022 at 6:50 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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My sister got engaged in November of 2021. She planned her wedding date for end of October of 2023. I was planning on proposing because we need to buy a house and can do one more lease where we can remain in our apartment for a year being married and then buy a house. I proposed in early June. And we set our date for beginning of April 2023. I think my sister is upset because we are stealing her thunder and wants us to wait. But if we wait until after her we will literally have to get married and buy a house the next month or sign another lease which we don't want to do because we are ready for the next step. We tried to be polite and plan our wedding far out from hers. Thank you for any response.

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Cece Online · on July 3, 2022 at 7:03 PM
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Nope, you have done absolutely nothing wrong. Your sister chose to have a 2 year engagement. When you choose a longer engagement, you also accept the fact that others could get engaged and married before you. Your sister gets one day (not 2 years) to be the center of attention.
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Taylor · on July 3, 2022 at 9:08 PM
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I just want to second cece. I never understand why people think they get to steal an entire month or year or however long for their wedding. You get the day to make things about you but everyone else gets to live their life in the meantime. People seem to think they're the main character in everyone else's life lol. You did nothing wrong
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Imani · on July 3, 2022 at 9:54 PM
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Not wrong at all. You alls weddings could be a week apart and you still wouldn’t be in the wrong. If she’s upset that’s on her. Don’t let it stop your planning.
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Michelle · on July 4, 2022 at 9:25 AM
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She should not insist you move your date. You did nothing wrong. The next time she pushes, simply say, "X and I are financially and emotionally ready to get married in April. It works for us and our vendors. It's your private business why you & Y had a 2-year engagement. By causing drama, you invite people to get into your business, ask why, and compare our relationships. If we look like we're happy for each other, maybe we can eventually feel it." Good luck.
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Michelle · on July 4, 2022 at 2:22 PM
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You get married when you want and she gets married when she wants. Either way, each of you only get one day, regardless of the engagement length. Even if you were marrying in the same month of the same year but a week or two apart, you would not be stealing her thunder, because no one owns the day/week/month/year , but you get one day to celebrate. So you have done nothing wrong. Have you tried to communicate and she’s not hearing you? If so, that’s something she has to deal with.
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Kelly · on July 5, 2022 at 8:35 AM
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I actually delayed my wedding for a year so my sister could get married first and have a year to enjoy it. I'm glad I did it. That said, I hadn't signed any contracts and was in a position to delay my wedding for her. I agree with other posters that you shouldn't delay your wedding if it'll be difficult for your. Six months is plenty of time in between the weddings.
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Paige · on July 5, 2022 at 2:52 PM
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Unless you scheduled your wedding the same day as her wedding where guests would have to choose which to attend, you're fine. Engagements are more or less a year in length, so by having hers span almost 2 years, she definitely should have anticipated someone getting engaged and married within the window from her engagement to her wedding. She gets a day, not a year. There's also no rule that you have to "wait your turn" to walk down the aisle.
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Sarah · on July 5, 2022 at 5:06 PM
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My sister got married June 3rd of this year and I’m getting married September 17th of this year… people were upset that I was getting married so close to my sister but like WTH?! We kept our September 17th date and I’m so glad we did. My sister wasn’t mad though. I was in her wedding and she will be in mine. Honestly your weddings are 6 months apart so who cares !
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Erin · on July 5, 2022 at 7:55 PM
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She doesn’t own the spotlight for two whole years. Everyone has their own timeline for engagement. Agree with everyone else. It’s not like you picked the exact same wedding date as she did. You will each have your own day and that’s ok. If she has a problem with it being before her day, that’s something she has to contemplate personally on why it bothers her and (hopefully) let that go.
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Jacks · on July 6, 2022 at 2:22 AM
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Nope, you each get one day. There's plenty of time between weddings. Congrats!
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