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i just realized that i bought the same dress as Fh's sister in law had for her wedding 6 years ago!

Rachel, on April 9, 2018 at 11:45 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 42

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In late October, I bought my dress. I had my mom, sister, my dad, my step mom and my fmil with me at David's Bridal and the decision was easy. I fell in love with my dress. I thought it was flattering it made me happy and it was on sale so it was actually $200 under budget. I was on FB today and FH's brother posted a photo from their wedding in 2012 with a mushy quote. Much to my horror, I realized that I bought the same dress!!! I wasn't with my FH when they got married so I had no idea when I picked it. I'm so upset!! I don't have the budget for a new dress and it has been five months so I doubt David's Bridal will take it back. Even if they do, I would have to start searching again... I'm not sure what to do.

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Rachel · on April 9, 2018 at 11:48 PM
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The pics above are from her wedding and here is the dress on me
The dress on me
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Kimberly · on April 9, 2018 at 11:54 PM
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If you love the dress still wear it. If your future mother in law didn't notice I doubt anyone else will (besides your FH sister in law). Maybe can can always think of finding a way to customize it like straps or something if you can afford it. Also maybe just make sure your styling is different too.
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AQuixoticBride · on April 9, 2018 at 11:56 PM
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It's a lovely dress! This wouldn't give me reason to get a new dress, though, it's a coincidence. I don't see how it would be a big deal, plus their wedding was years ago. She would probably be the only person who would even notice.
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Erica · on April 9, 2018 at 11:56 PM
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You look amazing!!!, if it makes you feel beautiful, go with it! If something is said, wow really we most have incredible taste! What's the odds!!
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Shayna · on April 10, 2018 at 12:03 AM
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I agree with everyone else. People won’t notice. If you love it and feel beautiful in it (which you do look amazing in it) then I say don’t change a thing!
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Rachel · on April 10, 2018 at 12:11 AM
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Thank you guys! I'm just slightly wigging out... I'm going to talk to my MOH and my FMIL. I don't think most people would notice. And I really do love my dress.
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Rozenbook · on April 10, 2018 at 12:27 AM
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By adding simple accessories you can make the dress your own. At my junior prom a friend had the same dress without me knowing it. I wore opera length glove to match the main color of the dress and wore a very decorative but inexpensive piece of jewelry. No one noticed until we were standing next to each other. Everyone said they wouldn't have noticed the were the same unless we pointed it out when we were in the same spot. Accessories can make a dress seem completely different
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Sami · on April 10, 2018 at 12:27 AM
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Wear it if you love it! If it gives you confidence that’s all that matters! Also, dresses look differently on people, so don’t sweat it!
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PalmTrees · on April 10, 2018 at 12:34 AM
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I think it’s kinda cool, a good story anyway! I’m sure no one will remember that she wore the same one.
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Kiwibride · on April 10, 2018 at 12:53 AM
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To be honest, the only person who will probably realise is FSIL. Others might notice you have a similar style but won't remember the exact details of it. I'd probably mention it to her next you saw her that you just saw that picture and what a huge coincidence it was. Wear the dress and don't stress over it
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Anastasia · on April 10, 2018 at 1:24 AM
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I agree with everyone else FSIL will be the only one to notice. You could even make a few changes to give it your personality. Maybe some colored tulle, adding or taking away beading, changing the train, or any accessories.
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Mrs.hays · on April 10, 2018 at 1:34 AM
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I would still wear it! It’s a beautiful dress, it was actually my dress for awhile but I ended up buying a new dress (bought too early and style preferences changed).
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ap2al · on April 10, 2018 at 1:50 AM
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If you love the dress, keep it and rock it! You look stunning in the dress. Nobody will notice. They WILL notice you wearing a gorgeous dress on one of your happiest days. That's what is important
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Heather · on April 10, 2018 at 1:58 AM
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I don't think this is a problem. This is your dress, and you look beautiful in it. It really doesn't matter if someone else also loved it. Just rock it!
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Adrianna · on April 10, 2018 at 2:42 AM
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It's still YOUR dress. Customize, and don't let it bother you.
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xRApril · on April 10, 2018 at 2:45 AM
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That dress is so pretty! I honestly wouldn’t even worry because if your FMIL didn’t notice then I doubt anyone else will. If you are worried, maybe you can send FSIL a message and let her know that you picked the same dress and didn’t realize it. I would think of it as great minds think alike! Also you could always try adding a sash or something if you want it to be a little different!
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Theresa · on April 10, 2018 at 5:32 AM
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Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery! Maybe tell your FSIL the same story as told here, and see what she says. She may very well think it's a cute coincidence (I did!). That way, no surprises on the wedding day for her. And, as you said, no one else even seems to realize it.
You look beautiful in it, by the way!
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Mim · on April 10, 2018 at 6:52 AM
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Unless you have the same face, height, weight, body proportions, hair color and style, AND styling flair, you won't look the same. Relax and enjoy your pretty dress
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Mrs. Sponge · on April 10, 2018 at 6:52 AM
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I agree that you should wear it! It looks great on you, and you didn't know when you bought it. Nobody will think you purposely picked the same dress. Most people probably won't even notice. They will be looking at you not comparing to another wedding.
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Amandaw · on April 10, 2018 at 7:26 AM
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Considering you were not at the wedding no one will even think of the comparison. If you want you can add a belt .
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