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Expert September 2022

Bridal Shower/gift Thank Yous

EGD, on July 1, 2022 at 9:23 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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My bridal shower is at the end of this month, and people have started purchasing gifts off the registry.

So far two people have opted to have the gifts sent directly to our house, and I’m wondering on when I should send them thank you cards, when I receive the gift, after the shower or both?
My mom said to send one now if they’re not coming to the shower and one after the shower if they are coming, but is there a proper etiquette for this? I’m not in charge of the shower or RSVPs and my cousin who is says RSVPs are slow and the deadline isn’t till 7/15.
One person who sent us a gift I know will be attending the shower due to our relationship with them but the other I’m unsure of cause I know she has some surgeries she needs and she hasn’t RSVPd yet.
I only have 50 thank you cards for the bridal shower, which is just around the amount of people invited, but I do have other thank you cards I can use if I should be sending two. I just want to make sure I’m doing the right thing.

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Latest activity by EGD, on July 1, 2022 at 11:18 AM

Rosebud · on July 1, 2022 at 9:43 AM
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I d send a thank you now so they know you received the gift and then if they come to the shower you can thank them again in person. Have fun at your shower!
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Ashlee · on July 1, 2022 at 10:03 AM
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I sent mine when I received the gift. If I knew they'd be at the shower, I included a message saying "can't wait to celebrate with you at the shower" if I wasn't sure, I put "hope to see you at the shower"
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EGD · on July 1, 2022 at 10:11 AM
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Thank yo for the advice ladies!
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Michelle · on July 1, 2022 at 10:26 AM
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Send thank you notes immediately. However do not use the gifts until after the wedding
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EGD · on July 1, 2022 at 10:28 AM
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Can I ask on why I can’t use the gifts till after the wedding? That seems like a strange rule.
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Rosebud · on July 1, 2022 at 11:15 AM
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I don't know how many couples still adhere to this rule but I believe its in case the wedding gets called off so you can send back the gift. Personally if someone goes through that they can absolutely keep whatever gift I ve sent them. You do what feels best for you
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EGD · on July 1, 2022 at 11:18 AM
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LOL ok, thank you. That made NO sense to me, my house is tiny, I was wondering where I was supposed to store all the boxes if I couldn't use anything lol.
We've been together 8 years, and own a house together, so I'll have bigger issues if my wedding gets called off than returning gifts.
Reminds me of the gilmore girls episode with the mysterious ice cream machine wedding gift and they couldn't figure out who sent it.
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