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Kristal
rsvp via text?
Kristal, on July 31, 2019 at 10:50 PM

I have a small wedding (about 50-60) but will send enough invites for about 100. It’s a Fall Sunday wedding and most would have to travel so I’m not expecting many to come. I’m thinking of adding...

Kelly, Aug 1, 2019 8 1,370
Melissa
Awkward bridesmaids situation
Melissa, on July 25, 2019 at 1:50 PM

Hello! My fiance and I have been engaged since about 2017 and we finally set a date for October 2020. Once we were engaged I immediately had my bridesmaids picked; I had 3 best friends, and they all...

Judith, Aug 1, 2019 25 797
Monique
Thank you cards obsolete??
Monique, on July 17, 2019 at 4:16 PM

So let me start this out by saying I plan on sending them out. However, I have gone to two weddings so far this year that did not do thank you cards. Both weddings we attended, stayed the whole time,...

Cathy, Jul 31, 2019 83 1,803
Kelly
Sending invites after someone dies
Kelly, on July 28, 2019 at 12:34 PM

I’m doing my invites & I’m unsure how to send my one cousins’ invite. Her husband unexpectedly passed away earlier this month. The invite was originally made out to both her & him (however I...

Nicole, Jul 31, 2019 20 686
Mr. & Mrs. C
Do you cover your plate?
Mr. & Mrs. C, on November 6, 2014 at 6:34 PM

Iv've read about "covering your plate" and I know there was a discussion about if other people did at your wedding or not. But I want to know HOW you ladies and guys decide on what to gift and how...

Cami, Jul 31, 2019 56 1,949
Aver
Are you Offended? (re: plus 1s)
Aver, on September 21, 2015 at 7:28 PM

I already know that part if not all of what I'm going to say is bad etiquette, but that's not really the point- among many other things, we're not offended when someone addresses a letter using...

Christine, Jul 31, 2019 51 2,177
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Groom and mother in law dance?
Lauren, on July 29, 2019 at 8:59 PM

So I know it’s not traditional at all but both my fiancé’s parents are deceased and so is my father. My brother will be walking me down the aisle and I will be obviously be dancing with him. My fiancé...

Melle, Jul 30, 2019 4 6,772
Chantell
Wedding or Downpayment?
Chantell, on July 28, 2019 at 8:54 PM

A few close family members suggested using our wedding money for a downpayment for a new home instead. It’s a very smart and practical decision considering we want to start trying to have kids after...

Melle, Jul 29, 2019 21 583
Deanna
5pm Ceremony Start time- timeline help
Deanna, on January 5, 2018 at 1:14 PM

Is anyone else having a 5pm ceremony? I need timeline help!

Tabitha, Jul 29, 2019 19 14,474 2
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Not a bridesmaid but bride helper!
Lexi, on July 28, 2019 at 12:03 PM

Help! I have two friends who I’d like to include in my wedding as helpers to make sure things are running smoothly. My future husband wants to have a small wedding party but I’d like to include two...

Florida Marlins, Jul 29, 2019 21 835
Samantha
Do i need to give wedding gifts to my cousin who did not give me anything?
Samantha, on July 28, 2019 at 1:59 PM

My cousin just got engaged, which is very exciting for her - so I’m sure she’ll be beginning the wedding festivities soon! With that being said, I don’t feel inclined to give her a gift for her shower...

Lady, Jul 29, 2019 27 956
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Wedding photographers eating at reception?
Private User, on April 16, 2014 at 2:23 PM

I haven't been to many weddings, as I am the first of my group to get married. Do you always include your wedding photographer(s) in your food head count? (IE - Do your photographer(s) eat at the...

Sophie, Jul 29, 2019 28 4,880
Maria
RANT: What would you pay these people?
Maria, on June 20, 2011 at 8:13 AM

Ok a church friend is singing a solo. My daughter's boyfriend is playing a small piano part. Now honeslty I was just going to give them $100.00 as a thank you. It's not like they are vendors....

Mollie, Jul 29, 2019 37 1,466
Krysta
Tipping makeup artist when paying by Paypal
Krysta, on July 28, 2019 at 3:22 AM

This seems like a silly question, but I just don't know what to do. My makeup artist is self-employed and accepts payment by PayPal, Venmo, cash, or check. For PayPal and Venmo she isn't registered as...

earias, Jul 28, 2019 6 218
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Grooms mother deceased, how do we put on program?
Karen, on July 26, 2019 at 1:37 PM

I am Mother of The Bride and have a dilemma which I need your thoughts on.. My Daughter's fiancee's mother passed 3 yrs ago who he was extremely close to. His Dad will be married by time of their...

Future Mrs Wilson, Jul 26, 2019 4 296
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Help! Late thank you's
Bride-2-Be, on September 25, 2017 at 9:21 AM

We just celebrated our one year anniversary and we are officially "those people" who have procrastinated and made excuses and still haven't sent out thank you's. We feel guilty and have been...

Mike, Jul 26, 2019 42 3,255
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Who should pay for the wedding if the couple secretly eloped a year earlier?
Elizabeth, on July 23, 2019 at 1:49 PM

My daughter and her fiancé eloped and haven’t told anyone. Just afterwards, she said she wanted to order her dress (which we did) and book a wedding venue for more than a year from now, (which are...

Sara, Jul 26, 2019 40 1,515
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Bridal portrait worth it?
Lacy, on March 9, 2017 at 11:37 AM

We're getting pricing and quotes from photographers but curious about bridal session. Is this necessary, won't we have enough photos at the wedding?

Megan, Jul 25, 2019 20 1,131
Anon1
Etiquette for small ceremony/larger reception?
Anon1, on May 23, 2015 at 11:51 PM

My fiance wants a small ceremony ("intimate" he says) and to then have more people come later for the reception. Here's the thing, though. Even if we did that, it wouldn't be just family at the...

Kasha, Jul 24, 2019 24 10,462
Antoinette
Writing “spouse” on rsvp card
Antoinette, on July 23, 2019 at 3:10 PM

I am printing all invited parties names on the RSVP cards, so there is no confusion as to who is invited. I do not have the spouse names for a couple of the invites (fiancés guest list ). He doesn’t...

Elizabeth, Jul 24, 2019 11 348
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