i no longer feel close to my bridesmaid

Talk to her on the phone or in person. Messages are hard to connect through. When you get a chance to talk to her tell her how you are feeling about the bridesmaid situation. Be honest and be patient. Good luck!

You still have plenty of time before your wedding. I wouldn't make a decision about your wedding party now. Is this a person you still want to be friends with? If so, maybe make some extra effort to reconnect with her this summer, and see where things go over the next 6-8 months. Keep in mind that removing someone from your wedding party is typically a friendship-ending move. So, if you do decide to remove her from your wedding party, be prepared for that friendship to end. If you don't feel as close to her by the time February or March comes around, you could have a conversation with her to see if she still wants to be in the wedding party. That way, you give her the option to step away (instead of you removing her), and if she chooses to stay, then let her know that you miss being closer friends with her and you're hoping that your friendship returns to where it was originally.

If you ask her to step down it will most likely ruin what you have left. I would just put in more of an effort and maybe make a group chat where you let them know you feel like you all are drifting apart and you’d like to touch base more often, not just about wedding stuff.

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Yes, I would ask her if she wanted to be there or not.

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I definitely do reach out about more things than wedding stuff. I am not even talking about wedding stuff at the moment, but there is still the vibes that unfortunately we may just be growing apart.

No,not necessarily. What you may be seeing is stress, including withdrawing from those close to her, from Covid. She may have been cut off from everyone. Or the opposite, have picked up a huge load of things other people no longer could do, which makes her look and feel like she has the world on her shoulders. Maybe a fell letters, rather than talking, that she can read whenever. Bridesmaids do not need to do anything until 6-7 months out. Their gowns still come in 2 weeks to 12 weeks, so ordering by the 5th month or less is enough.( Ask on here about usual time for each company.
7 months again she may be her bubbly self, or it will be clear things are done. It would seem kind of mean to drop someone for doing nothing in a period when there is nothing that needs to be done but 1:1 friendship, which has been banned by circumstance for many.

She's a friend first and foremost, so I would approach it from the heart. Call her, tell her you miss talking and want to make sure she's ok. Go from there. She may really be struggling - even if outwardly it seems things should be find, she could be facing things you aren't aware of, and responding is more than she manage. Reaching out may give her a feeling of being cared about and can spark that connection again.

Asking her to step down will likely be a friendship ending move, but more than that, she may be feeling isolated for whatever reason and this would be further confirmation of that.

Of course you aren't responsible for anyone else's feelings and have to take care of yourself first, but perhaps going one step further and seeing if she responds would make a big difference?