MOH Change

There really isn't a good way to demote someone or remove them from your wedding party. It's typically a friendship-ending move. You could always ask your other close friend to be a co-MOH alongside your cousin? That way, there wouldn't be any added drama, your cousin can still be a MOH, and you can also have your close friend as one of your MOHs.

I agree with what Lisa said, if you demote someone it would be relationship ending. I would promote your friend to be MOH also.

View Quoted Comment I guess I should've add that she got married recently and didn't make me her MOH and it wasn't relationship ending. I wasn't hurt by her decision but I don't know how she would react since I asked her 2 years ago.

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This isn't a fair comparison. Just because you made her your MOH doesn't mean she had to do the same.

It would be relationship ending to say 'You're not as important to me now, I have someone I'm closer to and want as my MOH. Please step aside and be just a bridesmaid.'

View Quoted Comment This is really comparing apples to oranges. If you had never asked her to be your MOH, it wouldn’t be relationship ending to not ask now. You did ask though, so now telling her she won’t be could end the relationship/cause drama.

View Quoted Comment Her not asking you to be MOH at all, is a little different than her asking you to be MOH then later telling you that she changed her mind. There is no obligation for her to ask you to be in her wedding party just because you asked her to be in yours. Another thing you could do is ask her if she still feels comfortable being your MOH. If she doesn't feel close to you, she can always turn it down at that time. If she says she'd still like to be your MOH, you could keep her as one of your MOHs, and also ask another friend to be a co-MOH alongside your cousin.

There is no way to do this without causing drama.

View Quoted Comment Are you really not that close with your cousin anymore, or are you just upset that she didn't ask you to be her MOH? If you're trying to avoid drama, especially with family, you shouldn't "demote" her.

I wouldn't do that... I'd make her co-MOH instead

You can't with out it ending a friendship/cousin relationship. It will strain A LOT of relationships, as this is a family member. Please don't do this.