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Expert June 2021

Monetary gifts from those not invited

on June 14, 2021 at 2:15 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 9
Hello! My husband and I finally tied the knot Friday, June 4!!! I will post some pictures of our day to the forum soon.


We received some monetary gifts from people who were not on the guest list but are just excited for us. I wanted to know what the thank you note etiquette was for this situation. I’ve logged all of the people who have kindly gifted us money even though they were not invited to our wedding. Should we send a note? I only ask because we don’t already have the addresses of these people since they were not apart of our guest list. If I did have their address I would have drafted up a note already.
Is it okay to ask them for their address to send a thank you note?
Please share how you are handling responses to gifts from those who were not on the guest list to your wedding. Of course we thanked them upon receiving the monetary gift. Most of these gifts were sent through cash app or Zelle. We just want to know if we should also send a card.
Thanks in advance!

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  • KiwiDerbyBride
    VIP May 2015
    KiwiDerbyBride ·
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    I would definitely reach out to get addresses and then send a thankyou card.

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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2022
    Samantha ·
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    Yes, of course you should send a thank you note! You can ask them for their address, or if it was a friend of your parents, other relative, you can get it from someone close to you. Do you have that Auntie who send everyone cards? She’ll have it!
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Yes, reach out and get their addresses and mail them a thank you card. We had a few people do this as well.
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  • SLY
    Master January 2022
    SLY ·
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    Like the others have mentioned, collect addresses and send out thank you cards.

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    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    Yes you should 100% send a thank you note. Their address should be on the envelope they sent or on the check they gave you.
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  • N
    Expert June 2021
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    Thanks! Everything was through Cash app or Zelle. But I’ve reached out to them all this morning for their addresses.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Reach out and ask for their address. We had people give us gifts that were not invited to our wedding. We sent them the same thank you cards we had made for our guests.

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  • N
    Expert June 2021
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    Thank you! Will do!

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  • N
    Expert June 2021
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    Thank you everyone!! I truly appreciate your advice regarding the etiquette of this matter. My husband and I have reached out to us who have kindly gifted us despite not being invited and have asked for their addresses. We now have all of their mailing addresses and will begin writing our thank yous to each of them.
    Thanks again!
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