Registry Q & A
by Anne Chertoff
How Can I Tell Guests About Our Registry Without Being Tacky?
Your registry information can be spread by word of mouth and posted on your wedding website. While it is never appropriate to list your registry information on your wedding invitation, it has become acceptable to include the information with your bridal shower invite.
Once you’ve created your registry tell your mother, future mother-in-law and your bridal party where you’ve registered. Most guests will turn to these sources for the information.
If you want to include the names of the stores on your wedding website do so by creating a link to each store’s registry section using a normal styled and sized font. Do not use graphics of wrapped presents or the items on your list.
Do I Need to Create Separate Registries for My Bridal Shower and Wedding?
You should create one registry though you can register at several stores. This list should be edited and added to over the course of your engagement so there are enough gifts to be purchased before each pre-wedding party (engagement, bridal shower) and your wedding.
A few weeks before your bridal shower re-register or edit your registry. If you don’t know the exact date about 12-14 weeks before your wedding day is a safe estimate. And then re-register again the week you mail out your wedding invitations so there are enough options available for guests to purchase wedding gifts.
Bridal Shower Gift Ideas:
Can I Request Group Gifts for Larger Items?
It’s not appropriate to ask guests for specific gifts, but having expensive items on your registry can encourage group gifting.
If your mom, or his, knows that there’s something you would like they can mention it if relatives and friends ask them for gift ideas.
Good Group Gift Ideas:
Many stores will keep your registry live until a year after the wedding so relatives and friends can buy you a wedding gift if they didn’t before the wedding or shop for the perfect first anniversary gift.
You should receive an alert from the stores before they close your registry to give you an opportunity to buy any remaining items. Couples may receive a discount, usually 10%, on these products.
How Soon After Our Engagement Should We Register?
After announcing your engagement don’t be surprised if after they say congratulations they ask where you’ve registered. It’s important to have a registry started in the few weeks after you get engaged so well wishers have a place to shop. It’s okay if your first pass at your wish list isn’t complete. You can always re-register in person or online.
Popular Engagement Gifts:
It is never appropriate to include registry information on your wedding invitation or on a separate card you include with your invitation suite. Guests should not get the impression that in order to attend your wedding they must send a gift.
Pass along the store names to your mom, his mom and your bridal party so when guests ask for the information they can share it. You can also post the store names and links on your wedding website.
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