This may be a "too specific" question for this forum, but does anyone else have experience having to agressively assert their identity to vendors and if so, how do you deal with it? I currently pass as male until I open my mouth and my fiance is nonbinary. Being misgendered as female is a deal breaker for both of us. I'm the past I've gone the route of saying things like "actually we're both going to be husbands" or "just so you know, I'm a man," but even in New York city those tend to be either brushed off or ignored. Being gendered correctly and the knowledge that our lgbt+ wedding party will be respected is the most important thing for me when booking vendors and unfortunately, transphobia is a problem even among lgbt friendly vendors. Does anyone have any advice for how to address with my vendors how serious I am about this issue since my way doesn't seem to work?