My fiance's brother's wife refused (via email) my request (in person) for her to be a bridesmaid. She's local, but will have a 6 month old and a 7 year old at the time of the wedding and feels it will be too difficult. The 7 year old is the flower girl. I've tried to be understanding, and she expressed how grateful she was to be asked in her note, but I am having alot of trouble moving past this. I feel very hurt, because I made this gesture in hopes that we would become closer and form a sisterly relationship. We don't yet know each other very well because everyone's schedules are so hectic all the time. I don't want to be irrational, but I can't help feeling really bad. It's really hard to talk to my fiance about this because I know he feels bad and is stuck in the middle. Hoping to get some objective viewpoints on the situation and also some advice about how to interact with her going forward. I feel like it is going to be very awkward next time we see her. Thanks!