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a lot of people are doing jack and jill partys now which are bridal showers for both the bride and groom. If its just a bridal party, not need for him to come at all. If he wants to pop in at the end, he can. My husband didnt want to come so it was just a nice girls get together.

I actually just attended my friend's bridal shower last night and he didn't show up until the end. The bridal shower is more of a thing for the women, anyway. The groom would feel kind of out of place. He can be there if you guys want him to be, but from what I've seen, they are usually just the gift carrier. Haha.

Okay ... one of my friend said it's rude for the groom not to be there because the gifts are for both of us but I don't want to put him through what is essentially a party of only women!

I think it depends on the type of shower given. If it is a hen party (women only) no the groom should not attend, he may feel wierd. If you are having a mixed sex party then that would be fine as long as you remember to invite other husbands and boyfriends so they feel like they are suppose to be there. It would be odd for almost any man to be the only man in a room full of women. Keep in mind though the fact that your 'Wedding shower' may turn into a sports convention.

Yeah, I'm just planning to have women only. I think my friend is insane because why would any guy want to be the only one at an all women party?

LOL good point Tracey.
It's nice manners for him to show up at the (very) end to say hello, acknowledge the gifts, etc., but not really appropriate for him to attend an all ladies party. If it were a couples cocktail shower (and these seem to be more and more popular...) then of course his attendance would be expected.
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I wouldn't think it's rude for him not to show up. If the gift is actually for both of you then have him sign the Thank you card along with you. I would say it's totally unnecessary for him to come to the party at all. If he was planning on picking you up after it was over then I don't see a problem with him making an appearance to say thank you, but I don't think it's at all a must do.

Konichiwa - I agree with you except it is necessary for him to load up the gifts. It falls under the category of "man jobs" that I leave up to him! :) These jobs include: lifting things, investigating scary noises, cleaning off the car in the winter, etc ... :)

If it's a joint party, then sure, but if it's just a bridal shower for you, he may feel strange sitting in a room full of women and he is the only man...I'd say come at the end to help clean up and see people

Not all the gifts are going to be for both of you. At my bridal shower I got quite a few night gowns, some gift certificates to the salon I was using to help pay for my hair and some extra pampering. Some people chose to get a few items from our wedding registry but chose to get the more "woman" gifts, like cutting boards, spice racks, a lot of kitchen stuff.

Yes Tracey! I agree! Another part of mans work is yard work! Hate it!

Part of the reson I ask is that he was married before and his ex-wife forced him to go to the bridal shower (of only women) so he assumed that he would have to go this time! I told him that I didn't really want him there! Sometimes when just the girls get together, we want to act silly and play games and things that he would just not enjoy!
Poor guy, having to be put through that!

I think it could go either way him coming or not coming. My friend didn't have her husband come at all to hers but I've been to showers where to groom was there opening gifts with the bride etc. It probably is weird for him with no guys (I've never been to a shower w/ other guys there. I will leave it up to my FH if he want's to come.

I agree with everyone else it depends on what kind of shower you are having. Though if you are only doing a hen party then I do think it would be nice of him to show up at the end to show his gratitude for all the ladies showing up, plus with all those gifts you need some muscle :-). My FH and I are doing a mixed party so that we can both enjoy the party and show our gratitude to our guests together. We are also doing a mixed bachelor/bachelorette party though. It all depends on you and your FH and what you feel is right.

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