It took a couple months, but I finally managed to drag Apple Sauce into a Crate & Barrel and Macy’s to complete our wedding registries. With the engagement party (!!!) looming next month, we really couldn’t put it off any longer.
Part of the reason we were so hesitant is because, well, we already have everything we need. We’re young, but we’re not a young couple just starting out. We’ve lived together for more than five years, and actually just switched apartments last March.
Even though we just moved a few miles down the road — literally, we live on the same avenue as our last place — the process was difficult. We just had so much stuff! Heavy, heavy stuff. And that realization resulted in a sort of frantic purge of stuff, and us to embrace a “less is more” mantra.
And that’s completely at odds with what the departments stores tell you.
It felt pretty gluttonous and wasteful holding that gun, going aisle by aisle, looking for stuff we either already had, had just thrown out, or had no interest in or space for. Do we really need brand-new dinner service for 12 when we barely use our two-year-old set of dishes for eight? Are we ever going to use a soup server? Perhaps a better question: Where would we even keep a soup server?
By hour three in Macy’s, we’d taken a new tack altogether. We weren’t actually going to scan twice as many things as the size of our guest list, as the registry consultant advised. That checklist they hand you, with everything you could possibly find in the store listed on it, I folded it up and stuck it in my purse.
Instead, we resolved to register for really, really nice upgrades of the things we use every day: bed linens, towels, glassware, cookware. Oh, and new luggage.
If we got any of those things, it would be a major score. And if not, no big deal, we’ll just keep on keeping on with what we already have.
Because this party and this wedding aren’t about the gifts people give us. They’re about us taking this huge step together, and by the end of it finally being able to call each other husband and wife.