When it comes to planning your gay proposal, there aren’t any hard and fast rules. While it certainly helps to have a blueprint, the most important thing is to carve out a little time to tell your love how much you him and that you’re ready to be married. But, as with all things in life, your marriage proposal can be as simple or as elaborate as you’d like. So, once you know you’re ready to propose to your boyfriend, your He Said Yes moment is totally in your hands.
Learn the ins and outs of your perfect gay proposal!
You don’t need a ring.
While the classic proposal image is a man on bended knee, same-sex couples are free to (and very often do!) completely upend this tradition. When it comes to gay proposal ideas for two men, an engagement ring doesn’t have to be the centerpiece. If you’re thinking about proposing to your boyfriend, think about his personality and what would symbolize your relationship up to this point. If he’s the type to go for an elegant band, then it’s time to go ring shopping. Otherwise, consider a nice bottle of wine, a luxury watch or even a handmade token of your love to present at the proposal.
But! If you’re going to propose with a ring, do your homework.
So, a ring is optional. But, if you’re going the ring route, you’ll want to be prepared. Most male engagement rings are bands, so there’s no need to go deep into the 4C’s, but you will want to think about metals.
- Platinum: Extremely durable without any additional metals or coating, this is the most expensive metal.
- White gold: Gives the look of platinum, but without the expense. Will need to be replated when the rhodium coating wears off.
- Yellow gold: Soft and pliable, gold is typically mixed with other metals so that it stands the test of time.
- Rose gold: A mix of yellow gold and copper that produces a more durable material than either yellow or white gold.
- Palladium: Related to platinum, but slightly less durable.
- Titanium: Lightweight but strong, this is a favorite for men’s rings. It can’t be resized.
- Tungsten: A sturdy metal that comes in black, gray or white. It can’t be resized.
Beyond a simple metal band design, you’re free to customize your love’s engagement ring with diamonds, precious stones (birthstones are popular choices) or engravings.
It’s not a bad idea to go ring shopping at least once with your boyfriend before you plan your marriage proposal. This way, you can covertly find out his ring size and get a feel for the style he likes. Also, let his best friends or close siblings in on your plan, so they might be able to do a little snooping on your behalf as well.
Before you order the engagement ring, be sure you have the correct ring size!