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Congratulations—you just got engaged and now you’re getting married! This is sure to be an exciting time, but you may be wondering what to do after you get engaged. Many couples admit to getting a little ahead of themselves during this initial stage of planning, which can actually cause problems down the road.
Rushing the planning processInstead of going into full wedding-planning mode minutes after the ring is presented, enjoy your first few weeks as a just-engaged couple. By all means, start thinking about the wedding, but ease into it. After you share your #justsaidyes moment with us, relax and focus on celebrating — you deserve it.
Thinking about the minor details before the big pictureThis might seem counterintuitive, but when it comes to wedding planning, it’s best to start BIG and go from there. While it can be tempting to dream about cake flavors or what you want your place cards to look like, tackle the big-picture tasks — booking the venue, hiring your vendors, and hammering out your guest list — before moving onto the smaller stuff. On that note...
Going dress or attire shopping immediatelyThis is a tough one, we know! But we suggest waiting until you’ve chosen your venue before you hit the bridal salon or tux shop, as the venue will set the tone for your wedding and help inform your style.
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Being too rigidWhen it comes to figuring out what to do after you get engaged, we recommend being flexible and keeping an open mind as you enter into your wedding planning experience. Compromises are inevitable, and there might be some details that are just plain out of your control. It’s OK! The more you can go with the flow, the happier you will be.
Succumbing to pressureWith that said, embracing flexibility does not mean you have to be a pushover. Trust us — everyone will have an opinion on how your big day should play out. It’s important for you and your partner to establish what elements are really important to you and voice that early on.
Discussing details that haven’t been finalizedIf you’re wondering what to do once you’re engaged, it can be tempting to blab about ideas you’re tossing around (“guess which venue we might book!” or “here’s what I’m thinking for a color scheme!”), spreading the word prematurely can backfire. For now, keep any unknowns close to your chest. Plans change! Which brings us to...
Making promises you may not be able to keepTelling your cousin she can bring her new boyfriend as a plus-one before you’ve even taken a stab at the guest list, or mentioning a ceremony reading to a friend before you’ve even thought about the program? Bad idea.
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