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BmoreBride
Is it appropriate for vendors to hand out business cards at the wedding?
BmoreBride, on March 12, 2013 at 7:58 AM

So I got married on Saturday! Pictures and recap coming soon. As my photographer was packing up and leaving he weave thru my guests handing out business cards to random people. Several people looked...

Toni, Oct 12, 2023 48 1,538
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Oysters at a black tie wedding?
Meghan, on October 4, 2023 at 7:02 PM

My fiancé and I are having a black-tie wedding in 2025. He and his family are HUGE oyster fans and have an oyster station at every wedding. My mom does not think that oysters fit the vibe of a...

Nicole, Oct 12, 2023 9 1,073
Paloma
How to send a message to family of they don't mind to be sponsors at my wedding?
Paloma, on October 9, 2023 at 11:50 AM

Good Morning, I asked for sponsorship in person toward my family and in laws a couple months ago and they said yes. but i will like to send a message again to ask them if they are still willing to be...

CM, Oct 11, 2023 8 972
Rodney
Save the Dates for those invited on Zoom?
Rodney, on October 9, 2023 at 8:11 PM

Hello everyone, So me and my fiancée are conflicted. I think we should send save the dates to everyone (2 different ones) 1 for those invited in person and 1 for those invited on Zoom. My fiancee...

CM, Oct 10, 2023 10 691
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Overzealous engagement party guest list sos
Ilysse, on October 9, 2023 at 2:16 AM

My fiancé and I live in FL & I am originally from CA. My parents are paying for most of our wedding in Miami, and wanted to host an engagement party in LA. We agreed to a lowkey, intimate affair...

SandyZV, Oct 9, 2023 4 604
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Plus 1 at Boyfriends brothers wedding..
Victoria, on September 27, 2023 at 1:30 AM

I have been with my boyfriend for a year, I know his family and we get along well! My boyfriend is in the wedding as a groomsmen, I am not in the wedding. I am not sure how to act or what to do during...

Jacks, Oct 9, 2023 18 1,378
Katy
No Wedding Party, Straighten train?
Katy, on October 7, 2023 at 6:45 PM

Hi, we are not having a wedding party for various reasons. This will seemingly cause no issues (we have an alternative for who's holding the rings, for example) except that I won't have someone to...

Bird, Oct 9, 2023 6 351
Ashley
Bridal shower but not wedding
Ashley, on October 5, 2023 at 11:08 PM

Hello! My not the bride, I'm the maid of honor and have a question. My best friend and I are from CA, all her family and most of her friends are here. She recently moved for school and met the man of...

Hanna, Oct 6, 2023 6 672
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Plus one taken away
Emily, on October 5, 2023 at 7:47 AM

I am the MOH in my long time (18 years) best friends wedding next August. My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years now and will likely be getting engaged this coming spring- so I will be...

Peyton, Oct 6, 2023 10 681
RaeGin
Maiden name, 2nd middle name
RaeGin, on February 22, 2017 at 7:47 AM

Good morning all, I plan to take FH's last name after we're married, but I have an uncommon last name currently (which I love), and I'm not wanting to let go of it completely. I know that I've seen...

Ashley, Oct 2, 2023 38 20,667 2
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First Dance/ Parent Dances
Rima, on September 7, 2014 at 11:16 PM

Hi all! So neither me or my groom are too comfortable with the first dance. Our solution was to dance by ourselves for about a minute and a half and then have the DJ invite others to join us on the...

Clare, Oct 1, 2023 5 3,427
Brittany
Bad Luck Start Time. Anyone else ever heard this?
Brittany, on March 18, 2015 at 9:15 PM

Reading the thread about start times got me thinking about this. I've always heard that it's bad luck to start your wedding ceremony on the hour. Instead it should be started on the half hour. The...

Kimberly, Sep 29, 2023 38 5,474
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Anyone heard of this for the garter toss?
Texaschic, on March 26, 2010 at 3:58 PM

So I have a friend who is in an arguement with his fiance over the garter toss so he asked me to see what others thought. According to the girl, the garter toss consists of the bride sitting on the...

Kelsey, Sep 28, 2023 57 5,409
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Invite a friend who got married recently and didn’t even tell me?
Anya, on September 26, 2023 at 2:23 PM

So I’ve gone back and fourth on this for quite some time, but need a non biased opinion! I have a friend whom I’ve known for few years now, she was originally a coworker whom actually was a little...

CM, Sep 28, 2023 8 812
WorthTheWait
Anyone have a diamond/ring from James Allen?
WorthTheWait, on June 7, 2017 at 12:03 AM

We went ring shopping recently, and fiancé did the smart thing by bringing me with him! We are basically picking it out together. We have looked at a lot of places, and we are now looking at some...

Heather, Sep 28, 2023 18 11,664
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Excluding extended family?
Amanda, on September 25, 2023 at 12:36 PM

My fiancé and I are not close to most of our extended family members. We’re planning our wedding and would like to limit the ceremony and reception to our parents, grandparents, siblings, and close...

Michelle, Sep 26, 2023 24 2,994
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Would it be polite to state that ceremony is adult-only celebration on the invites?
Heather, on September 21, 2023 at 6:39 PM

I have a lot of time to figure out invites. I'm thinking ahead so I have less to worry about when I need them to be ordered. We are having an adult only ceremony and reception. I'm not going to over...

CM, Sep 26, 2023 10 831 1
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Parental contributions to paying for wedding
Alexandra, on September 20, 2023 at 3:12 PM

How much is common for the groom's family to contribute to the wedding? Has anyone experienced no help at all from groom's parents?

Veronica, Sep 26, 2023 7 968
Valerie
Tipping Vendors
Valerie, on September 25, 2023 at 2:57 AM

What is the general rule of thumb for tipping the vendors? What vendors should I tip and how much?

Lisa, Sep 25, 2023 2 675
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i can’t afford my friends Bach, and she didn’t take it well. What to do?
Lyn, on September 20, 2023 at 6:12 PM

My friends bachelorette is in 5 months, and her MOH is asking for vacation rental payment ($800) now. I’m currently unemployed and planning my own very budget conscious wedding, and my friend...

Michelle, Sep 24, 2023 12 2,815
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