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Beachbride85
Expert October 2015

Is it weird that my parents haven't met his parents?

Beachbride85, on June 17, 2014 at 1:12 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 42

We've been dating for 3 years. Living together for a year and a half. Engaged for 3 months. Our parents still haven't met. Really he's only met mine a handful of times. I'm not very close with my family but still...is this weird lol

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Latest activity by Beachbride85, on October 17, 2023 at 2:30 PM
  • Happy In Hawaii
    Master July 2015
    Happy In Hawaii ·
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    Mine haven't either. His family lives in California, mine is in Colorado and we both live in Hawaii. So they won't be meeting until probably the day or two before the wedding. They have actually spoken to each other VERY briefly over skype, when we were visiting one family and skyping with the other family. I feel like it's a bit strange but nothing we can do!

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  • Beachbride85
    Expert October 2015
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    Hmmm if we lived in separate states I could probably rationalize it in my head. The fact is my dad lives around the corner from me and hasn't seen my fiancé since I graduated college in 2012. We see his parents on a weekly basis and they love a half hour away only a few towns over.

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  • Kaegurl
    Master June 2014
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    Ours have never met and if we could keep it that way we would! They won't meet till the rehearsal. My mother doesn't have any desire to meet his family - they have nothing in common. FH's mother wants to meet, but FH isn't close to her and thinks the less time everyone spends with her the better. Most of my married friends said their respective parental units met either at the rehearsal or the wedding itself. None have seen or talked to each other since. We really don't see the point in them meeting. We're getting married not them.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    I think it's pretty normal, at least when the families don't live in the same town. In my first marriage, my parents met his parents only at the wedding. Given that neither my parents nor NotFroofy's were invited to our wedding (long story!), they have never met. I met each of my children's in-laws only at their weddings. It's not a question of hostility, but I wouldn't make it a priority to travel across the country to visit people whose only connection to me is that one of my children is married to one of their children.

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  • Z
    Master May 2012
    Zoe ·
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    Not weird at all. And I can assure you meeting earlier or frequently does NOT guarantee they'll like each other. DH and I met in high school, so my mom met his mom, but not his dad (who lived on the other side of the country) and my mom could not STAND his mom. In fact, the Christmas after we were married, I invited my mom and sister to Christmas Eve dinner and mentioned my MIL and her new husband would be there, and they both *flipped* as if I'd invited complete strangers to a holiday dinner! I had to be firm about 'this is my family, now' and they came and behaved, but I still don't think they like them.

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  • Z
    Master May 2012
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    Not weird at all. And I can assure you meeting earlier or frequently does NOT guarantee they'll like each other. DH and I met in high school, so my mom met his mom, but not his dad (who lived on the other side of the country) and my mom could not STAND his mom. In fact, the Christmas after we were married, I invited my mom and sister to Christmas Eve dinner and mentioned my MIL and her new husband would be there, and they both *flipped* as if I'd invited complete strangers to a holiday dinner! I had to be firm about 'this is my family, now' and they came and behaved, but I still don't think they like them.

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  • Jemma
    VIP July 2014
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    His parents really wanted to meet mine before the wedding, but mine had zero interest and I couldn't get them to do it. I think FH's parents were kind of offended but there was nothing I could do.

    They might meet the night before the wedding, otherwise it will be on the day!

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  • Tiki Bird
    Expert May 2016
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    My parents only just met his mom after 6 years of dating, and we all live in the same state. They won't actually meet his dad until the wedding. Sometimes it's just difficult to make time to visit.

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    Master June 2015
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    Our parents haven't met one another but they will be soon. There's a huge language and cultural barrier. It should be interesting how it goes because they are allllll so different. My mother said its awkward to not have met so she's insisting upon it. I'm not against it, but I'm not looking forward to it either.

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  • Rach
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    My mom had met his dad, but not his mother. They didn't meet until my bridal shower. Sometimes it just happens that way!

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  • AmandaMarie
    Super July 2015
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    I'm with JuneBride. FH and I have known each other for 20 years and while my parents know everyone on his dad's side, they haven't met his mom or his stepdad. Growing up, I always avoided FH's mom since she never seemed to be all that friendly. Now that we're engaged, she hasn't changed that much. She has been very rude to me, and because of this, my parents are very weary about meeting her and his stepdad. They literally have nothing in common. FMIL is to the point of demanding that they all meet, so here's hoping it goes okay.

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  • Pancakes
    Master October 2015
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    It is a little odd if they live within 30 minutes of each other. But if the parents live far, then it's not odd. I didn't meet his parents until about 3 years because they live out of state. But he met mine because they lived within 20 minutes. Both of our parent's met at about the 3.5 year mark before we were engaged (but we knew we were getting engaged) because I set it up.

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  • CCM
    Savvy April 2015
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    Our parents live about six hours away from each other and they have never met. I expect they won't meet until the rehearsal dinner before the wedding, but I don't find that weird. I don't remember my parents' parents ever meeting each other...

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  • Susan
    Master March 2015
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    Our parents have never met. They are polar opposites, but only live about 20 mins apart. My dad has been sick fighting cancer for the last 13 months so he has not had the time or energy to meet them, and the less time he spends in public the better for health reasons while on his chemo. They will eventually meet in the near future, I am thinking dinner at a neutral restaurant, LOL

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  • Kate
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    It was very important to my parents to meet his parents before we got engaged, which they did. They have only met a few times, but as they live in different states and both farm, meetings/time off to travel are very, very hard to arrange. They all get along well.

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  • mrs. joyceee
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    I think it all depends on your situation as everyone has been explaining. His parents and my parents luckily met in about a year or two of us dating when he had a graduation party. After that, they haven't really seen each other and we're in our 7th year together.

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  • WalkerGirl
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    Our parents met because my mom found his on Facebook and arranged a meeting without my knowledge.

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    Nope. Ours live in separate States. His in FL and mine in PA.

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  • Jess
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    I don't think it's that weird. I was with my ex-bf for 6 years and his parents never met my grandparents (who raised me; my parents are not in the picture) and we all lived in the same town. FH's parents have met my grandpa once.

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  • Bride2Bee
    Devoted May 2015
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    I think it IS weird, ONLY because you live so close to one another.

    If it were different states, or cities that are hours away from each other within the same state, then to me, at least, it wouldn't be weird at all, but since that isn't the case it seems quite odd to me.

    I'm the minority here that feels that way though lol

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